Women and Weight

What do you do when a friend asks you to help her lose weight?

We’re both in the military and she’s over our max BMI by just a little bit. Unfortunately, weighing in over your max means you get put on the weight program, which can hold up advancement among other things.

My question is…how do I help her? I can tell her all I want about calories in vs calories out, but how do I do that with a feminist message? In the civilian world, I would just tell her not to worry, but here a couple of BMI points could be the difference between one pay grade and another.