Feministing Readz: Daisy Hernandez’s A Cup of Water Under My Bed

A photo of the front cover of "A Cup of Water Under My Bed,"picturing a young girl posing in front of a car in an urban setting. The photo appears to be old, and is probably of Hernandez when she was a child.As soon as I finished the last page of A Cup of Water Under My Bed, I pulled out my phone and searched the words “card reader” into Yelp. Then I tried “mãe de santa,” then “candomblé” then “santería,” but none of the terms really summed up the kind of guidance I had brushed up against through my mother, my cousins, my aunts. In her book, Daisy Hernandez reminds us that often, we do not know how to name or thank the women who shape our journey. The women her parents sought out for spiritual support were referred to as simply “las mujeres que saben,” in her house, the “women who know.”

I eventually found a woman named Yolanda with 30 reviews on her botanica’s Yelp page. The next morning, I made an appointment to get my first reading as a young adult, confused at a crossroads and looking for answers that no listicle, therapist or career advisor would give me.

Hernandez’s coming-of-age memoir, A Cup of Water Under My Bed, explores some of the questions we face as young adults navigating gender, race, migration and sexuality in a world that imposes such strict borders on us. Read More »

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Young Channing Tatum stripping will get me through this week.

A study shows middle schoolers who got comprehensive sex ed delayed starting to have sex.

Oscar Pistorius was sentenced to five years in jail for for murdering his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp.

“As the cultural relevance of angry white men on the internet withers away and ends, their last words – muttered angrily at an empty room – will surely be “Gamer … gate”.

A Maine Republican representative has still not apologized for saying, “If a woman has the right to abortion, why shouldn’t a man be free to use his superior strength to force himself on a woman?”

Students at my alma mater have started a sex- and body-positive nudie magazine that looks very cool.

Scott Roeder, who is in prison for killing Dr. George Tiller, claims his freedom of speech was violated by being disciplined for making death threats against another abortion provider.

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Let’s stop neglecting dating violence survivors

Image courtesy of Know Your IX

Image courtesy of Know Your IX

In the past few years, campus sexual assault has dominated headlines from The New York Times to USA Today, Rolling Stone to The Nation. Just last month, the White House released the It’s On Us anti-sexual assault campaign. All throughout, student activists have invoked the promise of Title IX to demand that their universities support sexual assault survivors and keep campuses safe, equitable, and just for all.

In all the buzz, though, there’s been little attention paid to other pervasive forms of gender-based violence also protected against under Title IX — including campus dating (or domestic) violence. ICYMI it’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, so it seems as good a time as any to talk about what we’re not talking about, and to work to ensure that the conversation lasts beyond October 31st.  Read More »

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Comedian Hannibal Buress: “You raped women, Bill Cosby.”

At his stand-up show in Philadelphia last week, comedian and Broad City star Hannibal Buress got super real about the fact that Bill Cosby has been accused of drugging and assaulting over a dozen women.

Calling out Cosby’s ”fucking smuggest old black man public persona,” Buress says, ”Yeah, but you raped women, Bill Cosby. So, brings you down a couple notches.” He suggests the audience go google ‘Bill Cosby rape’ after the set and concludes: “It’s not funny.” (Transcript here.)

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Shonda Rhimes expertly shuts down fan who complained about the “gay scenes” in Shondaland

Shonda lays it down in reponse to a Tweeter with some unsolicited editorial advice:


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