Ranking women by number

Yes, men still do this. It’s part of the "game." I’ve been told that when a man "scores" a higher number, it makes him feel better about himself. So glad we’re all here to make men feel better about themselves.

This practice has always enraged me. It reminds me of a dog show. I feel like the men who do this are out there in the bars with tape measures making sure we meet the AKC requirements for head size and sheen of coat.

I have to wonder what makes one human being feel that they have the right to apply a harsh, numerical, comparitive judgement on others. The way I understand it, it seems to be applied to groups of female friends. The guy who scores the highest ranking girl in the group, wins.

I remember back in high school I caught wind of a group of guys I knew applying the ranking system to my group of girl friends. These guys were supposed to be our friends, and some were even dating some of us. But, they felt the need to compare us based on breast size, body type, facial features, etc, and assign us numbers. We were in the smart kid classes with these guys, they knew we were more than bust sizes. Or did they? It bothered me a lot at the time- I felt violated to have been studying and judged without my permission. But I wrote it off as a high school boy thing.

What I have recently discovered (it’s a very long story how) is that this ranking system is used by men of all ages and can be quite common. It seems also that the men who do it don’t see anything wrong with it. They argue that everyone is attracted to certain looks, and the better looking girl they score, the better they feel about themselves. They don’t seem to realize that comparing and judging other humans without their permission is a violation. They don’t seem to realize that women don’t like to have their body compared to their best friend’s and get assigned a number accordingly. They don’t seem to realize that women, no matter what they look like, do not exist to boost their own low self esteem. They don’t seem to get that someone’s value as a person can’t be numerified and if it were it wouldn’t be based on looks.

Basically, when I hear stories like this, I am led to believe that the men who do it don’t see the women they are doing it to as people, fellow humans, not show dogs.