leniese

I one day stumbled across a message board site called Teen Spot and it is pretty much a place for teens to talk. I went onto the advice column out of curiousity and see a post about someone being raped by her boyfriend. The person didn’t sound too convincing that they were raped but I wasn’t quick to jump to conclusions that the person was obviously lying, some people express things differently about what happened to them. What disturbed me as the thread was the OBSESSIVE amount of victim-blaming that was going on through the message boards.

Here’s post one:

“Nobody on Teenspot gives a shit if you’ve been raped. If you really want to do something about it, and you weren’t a troll, I would say to tell an adult you trust….you would think at 17, that would be instilled in your brain….since that’s what you learn in 1st grade.”

My response to this is that yes they do tell us to always tell an adult but if this person had any sense on rape and rape victims, it’s hard for a rape victim to tell someone. I didn’t tell anyone about my sexual abuse until a couple years after it happened and I still didn’t go to the authorities about it. Many rape victims don’t.

The second post was outright victim-blaming and it made me throw up in my mouth:

“I agree with the girl above, You should have known what to do since firstgrade.

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