Society’s obsession with little girls.

It has become very clear to me that women are no longer considered sexy in todays culture, but rather media has enjoyed exploiting young girls as being the new ‘it’ identity for women of all ages.

Sure, people might argue that they would prefer a woman, to a girl, but is it possible that average people have become brainwashed to the idea that innocence, naivety, submission and girlish-youthfulness are more attractive than strong, empowered, bold, and free-minded women?

I am not trying to say everyone wants to sexualize children, but I am saying that society, media and culture have been working rigorously to taint our idea of femininity as being mature and womanly. Take the pictures above. One is of a young girl dressed as a woman, while expressing that young girls possess a sexiness about them, which referes to their ‘purity;’ where as the other picture represents a beautiful woman dressed as ‘jail bait’ in an over sexualized high school uniform. So let me get this straight, we have a sexualized young girl dressed as a woman and a woman dressed as a sexualized young girl. So far – there are two reoccurring themes – SEXUALIZED YOUNG GIRL.

What are the sexualized traits of girlhood? Why might society strive to sexualize that of young girls? Well common themes among young women depicted in media are: purity, virginity, naivety, submission, and chastity… and then they take those traits and add: naughty, flirty, bad girl, the want to disobey. Disobey who?

Media has always depicted girls in a way that expresses an inner sexual defiance covered by an overt innocent and nieve nature, yet it does not stop there. Culture has defined womanhood based off of this DISGUSTING obsession with young girls, even as far as pre-pubescent!

Every adult woman seems to feel a certain ‘social’ pressure in some way to keep their youth in tact, because becoming smart, worldly, and wise is not sexy anymore. Take the common 90’s trend (and still often found amongst mainstream ladies) of shaving their pubic region BALD.. as if having a womanly vagina is considered unclean and definitely unsexy. We have mature women going into ‘vaginal rejuvenation’ so that their pussy’s can LOOK YOUNGER! We have models posed in high school gear or even worse – as little girls, to sell products in a seductive way, such as the commonly ‘innocent’ poses of putting a finger in  your mouth and looking shyly away, or crawling on all fours. These are not empowering positions… but quite the contrary, these are very submissive, youthful and fragile depictions of femininity.

Then we have the opposite spectrum, the over sexualization of young girls in media. Too often do I hear about [very] young people getting breast implants or wearing makeup and mini skirts in elementary school! We have shows about young beauty pagent girls attempting to look like grown adult women and being pushed to do so by the people whom are supposed to protect them – their parents! We have young girls in movies depicted as sexual prey and enjoying it. For fuck-sake, we have clothing companies making lingerie for GIRLS! Little girls are buying dolls that portray angsty sexualization, as well as we let our girls grow up idolizing pop stars that cave into violent men, or sing about  being raped by aliens. WHAT HAS THIS WORLD COME TO.

We need to take back femininity. We need to steal it back from the hands of capitalism and advertising, because big companies and lobbyists dont care how our young girls end up.. they only care about money and power, and if sex sells, well they will exploit anything, even our childhood innocence.

Its a loosing battle for equality if our young girls are growing up in a society where they cant express themselves in a way that is safe and explorative, because they are expected to grow up too fast – while we women are expected to go back in time and regain something that we were happy to let go of – our youth. I am proud to be a strong, empowered woman. I am proud to have a womanly figure and the hair to prove it. I am proud to be powerful and dominant. I am proud to be strong and sturdy.

I AM PROUD TO BE A WOMAN.

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