Is gender inequality a double sided sword?

I’ve started College half a year back. (In the UK if you didn’t know College comes between High School and University, I don’t know how many Brits are on this site.) I’m doing Sociology and I’m being taught the basics and some in-depth stuff and we’ve been talking about patriarchy and society benefiting men at the expense of women and I’ve wondered…how do I as a man benefit from this?

Take the Expressive and Instrumental roles for example. Traditionally applied they mean that women are economically disadvantaged and men still do most of the economic work whilst women still do most of the domestic word meaning women are discriminated against and unfairly so but when you think about it does that instantly mean men benefit from that?

Gender equality when it comes to roles probably would benefit men as much as women.

Men could work less hours for the same financial security
Fathers can be as involved with their childrens’ lives as mothers
Fathers could bond with babies and have fair paternity leave

Gender inequality prevents men having these benefits because they’re too busy out in the workplace, the only benefit men get is possibly being lazy and not having to do housework (which eventually turns against him because statistically the more men help out with housework the more sex they have because…well I guess their partners have more time for sex and are less tired out)

(This is a beautiful article and number 2 is quite interesting and backs up my point)

Masculinity, yikes. In small doses masculinity provides male identity which provides security and is somewhat good but in medium or large doses masculinity is almost a denial of ones humanity!
To act masculine you mustn’t have emotions like love, sadness, bereavement, fear…every human feels these emotions man or woman, you’re either human or animal you can’t be human or masculine it doesn’t work like that. The thing is it’s seen as socially unacceptable for men to admit this to admit that they’re human which is an obvious fact! Is this why male suicide is dramatically higher than female suicide?

So what are your thoughts? Is Gender inequality a double sided wword? Are feminists and masculists (the moderates not the misogynists and misandrists) best friends?