Britney’s ‘Womanizer’ video

I must admit to a guilty enjoyment of Britney Spears’s song ‘Womanizer’. It’s catchy and I like to listen to it after I’ve been out and a jerk tries it on with me.
But the video I have slight objections to… my objection is not that Britney appears apparently naked. I don’t have a problem with that. My problem with it is that at first, the characters portrayed seem to be powerful, independent women. But look closer, and the video just reinforces old patriarchal ideas, and perpetuates dangerous myths about sexuality.
Popular culture portrays an image of maculinity that implies that men should always want sex, always be ‘horny’ and that they should never turn down sex because it’s not ‘masculine’.
Meanwhile, women are taught that their femininity comes from respecting a man’s masculinity and submitting to it. Media tells them they don’t have the right to say no to sex either, because, again, masculine men are supposed to be constantly horny and women are supposed to ‘respect’ that and not hurt his manhood.
In Britney’s video. She and some other women hold a reluctant man down on the bed and caress him. This is a rather familiar set-up in music video, though the sexes are usually reversed. There’s a lot of aggressive necktie-tugging and basic grabbing of this man throughout the video. Now, men don’t live in a world where they’re likely to be raped by a woman, so the imagery is perhaps less disturbing to some because of that reason, than if the sexes were reversed. However, it reinforces the damaging ideas I’ve outlined above. It’s seen as okay because the man ‘likes it really’ and ‘no means yes’. That is not a good message. Everybody, men and women, have just as much of a right to say no, just as much as right not to be pushed around by another person.
NB: This is the same problem I have with the ‘Toxic’ video – Britney drags men into public bathrooms and basically harrasses them, but that’s supposed to be okay because the men ‘like it really’.