Posts Tagged Relationships

“Girls Shouldn’t Have Ideas.”

Amplify Your Voice has released its second video of its web series exposing the ridiculousness of abstinence-only programs. It’s latest? “Girls Shouldn’t Have Ideas.”

I like this one in particular because it’s a reminder that these programs aren’t just teaching teens misinformation about sex, but also pushing fucked up power dynamics in relationships. (In this case, girls should be ashamed to think for themselves.)

Transcript after the jump.

Amplify Your Voice has released its second video of its web series exposing the ridiculousness of abstinence-only programs. It’s latest? “Girls Shouldn’t Have Ideas.”

I like this one in particular because it’s a reminder ...

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Not Oprah’s Book Club: Seeking Happily Ever After

According to the New York Times, over half of adult women are single in America.

So why are they so often made to feel like anomalies, freaks, and even failures? Why, in a day and age when women are over half the workforce, do we still allow princess mythology to cloud the minds of young girls–leading them to believe that a woman isn’t worth her tiara unless a man sweeps her off her feet before the ripe old age of 30? Why is social life still so built around being coupled, leaving a lot of happily single people to feel like they’re inadequate?

These are just a few of the questions that Michelle Cove asks in both her new book, Seeking ...

According to the New York Times, over half of adult women are single in America.

So why are they so often made to feel like anomalies, freaks, and even failures? Why, in a day and age when women ...

Emotional midwifery

So, I tend to date or be friends with guys who are a) not as adept at identifying their emotions and b) not as adept at talking about their emotions as I am. I have plenty of examples of this becoming an “issue” in my relationships, but my favorite illustrative example comes from a friend of mine. She was once dating a dude who started crying during an intense discussion. He actually said, and I kid you not, “Sometimes when I’m sad, my eyes water.” My friend politely informed him there was actually a name for this, and it was called, crying. Holy. Shit. I’m serious.

Okay, so my taste in men is a bit higher on the emotional awareness scale, ...

So, I tend to date or be friends with guys who are a) not as adept at identifying their emotions and b) not as adept at talking about their emotions as I am. I have plenty of ...

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Long-distance relationships and gendered expectations


Kevin Johnson and Michelle Rhee

Yesterday I saw Going the Distance, the new rom-com about a dilemma faced by a lot of young professional couples: What happens when job opportunities put you in different cities? The movie — which I thought was better than a lot of films in this genre — is a pretty good depiction of how, in heterosexual couples, there is more of an expectation that the woman will be the one to suffer a professional setback or divert her career path in order to preserve the relationship. Drew Barrymore’s character is a 31-year-old intern who makes many references to the fact that she delayed her career because she moved for a previous boyfriend.

Today, ...


Kevin Johnson and Michelle Rhee

Yesterday I saw Going the Distance, the new rom-com about a dilemma faced by a lot of young professional couples: What happens when job opportunities put you in different cities? The ...

Feminism animates

I had the great pleasure of hearing Philly-based painter and animator, Jennifer Levonian, speak at the Santa Fe Art Institute when I was home visiting my parents a couple of weeks ago. She started out primarily doing still watercolors, but took an animation class on a whim while in art school and fell in love with the medium.

In this amazing animation, “Her Slip is Showing,” Levonian captures what I think far too many of us feel–as if the wedding industry kidnaps our otherwise amazing friends’ brains for a short period of time leading up to their ceremonies. Take a look:

Her Slip is Showing from Jennifer Levonian on Vimeo.

To see more of Jennifer’s animations, go ...

I had the great pleasure of hearing Philly-based painter and animator, Jennifer Levonian, speak at the Santa Fe Art Institute when I was home visiting my parents a couple of weeks ago. She started out ...

Behind Justice Ginsburg, a strong man


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The obit headline reads: Martin D. Ginsburg dies at 78; tax law expert, Supreme Court spouse

It’s so rare to read the obituary of a man who is identified, right up there in the headline, as a spouse — the supportive partner of a woman who is much more well-known.

The foundation of their relationship, they both said, was mutual respect and equality — and a willingness to share domestic duties.

Ruth Bader Ginsburg is rightfully recognized as a remarkable public advocate for women’s rights. But it seems she also had the great fortune to spend her private life with a man who lived by feminist principles.

[S]he recalled that Mr. Ginsburg, a gregarious varsity golf player, was “the ...


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The obit headline reads: Martin D. Ginsburg dies at 78; tax law expert, Supreme Court spouse

It’s so rare to read the obituary of a man who is identified, right up there in ...

Dad Camp: A New Era of Male Accountability


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A new reality show on dadhood is sure to spark some conversation this Father’s Day. Although America is only 3 episodes into the new TV series “Dad Camp,” I can’t help but feel somewhat smitten. I think it is the beginning of a meaningful era of male accountability in reality TV and it is an important twist on the cadre of pregnancy shows that have multiplied over the past few years. While there are some potential drawbacks, the main clincher of the show is that it promotes responsible fatherhood while simultaneously empowering mothers.
In case you haven’t heard of it, here is the breakdown: 6 pregnant women and their ain’t-shit baby fathers head ...


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A new reality show on dadhood is sure to spark some conversation this Father’s Day. Although America is only 3 episodes into the new TV series “Dad Camp,” I can’t ...

How to Know You are Dating a Racist (HTKUADAR)

In lieu of this profoundly short-sighted and blatantly racist piece published at the Huffington Post titled “How to Date an Indian,” I thought it was time for me to write my own dating guide to help us stay away from people that might potentially follow this kind of advice.
How to know you are dating a racist.
1. You realize you have never met their parents and they live down the street. Nothing says, “I love you,” like, “I am embarrassed for my parents to find out you are not the race they want you to be.”
2. They love the Rolling Stones but think that Jay-Z is sexist. I mean, I know it is hard to overlook ...

In lieu of this profoundly short-sighted and blatantly racist piece published at the Huffington Post titled “How to Date an Indian,” I thought it was time for me to write my own dating guide to help ...

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