Posts Tagged Relationships

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Long-distance relationships and gendered expectations


Kevin Johnson and Michelle Rhee

Yesterday I saw Going the Distance, the new rom-com about a dilemma faced by a lot of young professional couples: What happens when job opportunities put you in different cities? The movie — which I thought was better than a lot of films in this genre — is a pretty good depiction of how, in heterosexual couples, there is more of an expectation that the woman will be the one to suffer a professional setback or divert her career path in order to preserve the relationship. Drew Barrymore’s character is a 31-year-old intern who makes many references to the fact that she delayed her career because she moved for a previous boyfriend.

Today, ...


Kevin Johnson and Michelle Rhee

Yesterday I saw Going the Distance, the new rom-com about a dilemma faced by a lot of young professional couples: What happens when job opportunities put you in different cities? The ...

Feminism animates

I had the great pleasure of hearing Philly-based painter and animator, Jennifer Levonian, speak at the Santa Fe Art Institute when I was home visiting my parents a couple of weeks ago. She started out primarily doing still watercolors, but took an animation class on a whim while in art school and fell in love with the medium.

In this amazing animation, “Her Slip is Showing,” Levonian captures what I think far too many of us feel–as if the wedding industry kidnaps our otherwise amazing friends’ brains for a short period of time leading up to their ceremonies. Take a look:

Her Slip is Showing from Jennifer Levonian on Vimeo.

To see more of Jennifer’s animations, go ...

I had the great pleasure of hearing Philly-based painter and animator, Jennifer Levonian, speak at the Santa Fe Art Institute when I was home visiting my parents a couple of weeks ago. She started out ...

Behind Justice Ginsburg, a strong man


(AP Photo)

The obit headline reads: Martin D. Ginsburg dies at 78; tax law expert, Supreme Court spouse

It’s so rare to read the obituary of a man who is identified, right up there in the headline, as a spouse — the supportive partner of a woman who is much more well-known.

The foundation of their relationship, they both said, was mutual respect and equality — and a willingness to share domestic duties.

Ruth Bader Ginsburg is rightfully recognized as a remarkable public advocate for women’s rights. But it seems she also had the great fortune to spend her private life with a man who lived by feminist principles.

[S]he recalled that Mr. Ginsburg, a gregarious varsity golf player, was “the ...


(AP Photo)

The obit headline reads: Martin D. Ginsburg dies at 78; tax law expert, Supreme Court spouse

It’s so rare to read the obituary of a man who is identified, right up there in ...

Dad Camp: A New Era of Male Accountability


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A new reality show on dadhood is sure to spark some conversation this Father’s Day. Although America is only 3 episodes into the new TV series “Dad Camp,” I can’t help but feel somewhat smitten. I think it is the beginning of a meaningful era of male accountability in reality TV and it is an important twist on the cadre of pregnancy shows that have multiplied over the past few years. While there are some potential drawbacks, the main clincher of the show is that it promotes responsible fatherhood while simultaneously empowering mothers.
In case you haven’t heard of it, here is the breakdown: 6 pregnant women and their ain’t-shit baby fathers head ...


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A new reality show on dadhood is sure to spark some conversation this Father’s Day. Although America is only 3 episodes into the new TV series “Dad Camp,” I can’t ...

How to Know You are Dating a Racist (HTKUADAR)

In lieu of this profoundly short-sighted and blatantly racist piece published at the Huffington Post titled “How to Date an Indian,” I thought it was time for me to write my own dating guide to help us stay away from people that might potentially follow this kind of advice.
How to know you are dating a racist.
1. You realize you have never met their parents and they live down the street. Nothing says, “I love you,” like, “I am embarrassed for my parents to find out you are not the race they want you to be.”
2. They love the Rolling Stones but think that Jay-Z is sexist. I mean, I know it is hard to overlook ...

In lieu of this profoundly short-sighted and blatantly racist piece published at the Huffington Post titled “How to Date an Indian,” I thought it was time for me to write my own dating guide to help ...

Personal is Political: cleaning house


Him: Do you own a broom?
Me: I think so. (pause) Um, I used to.
Him: This is right up there with your microwave.
Okay, so maybe I’m not the most fastidious cleaner in the world. I was raised by one of those moms who believed a little dirt doesn’t hurt. I adopted this worldview, avoiding hand-santizer (I think it just makes our immune systems less robust) and strictly adhering to the five second rule when it comes to any dropped piece of chocolate. I’m fairly orderly, but clean? Well, I just feel that most of the time I have way better things to do. Sometimes, if I’m really pissed off or anxious, cleaning feels great. But otherwise, it’s ...


Him: Do you own a broom?
Me: I think so. (pause) Um, I used to.
Him: This is right up there with your microwave.
Okay, so maybe I’m not the most fastidious cleaner in the world. ...

Interracial Relationship Round Up

Alicia Keys, who I consider one of my all-time favorite artists, has a new video out that is, sad to say, seriously disappointing. It’s sort of a time travel through Hollywoodized interracial relationships, complete with a white dude in a truck and a bunch of angry black men. Really, Alicia?

Granted, music videos rarely portray human relationships with any sort of emotional authenticity, but this is one of the most objectifying, shallow portrayals of love I’ve laid eyes on in awhile. It falls into all of the tired stereotypes of the tragic interracial love story, without really driving home any of the real struggle, politics, and/or potential liberation of such unions. Having previously been in one for almost ten years, I ...

Alicia Keys, who I consider one of my all-time favorite artists, has a new video out that is, sad to say, seriously disappointing. It’s sort of a time travel through Hollywoodized interracial relationships, complete with a white ...

Ask Professor Foxy: How Do I Get Over A Really Hard Break Up?

This weekly Saturday column “Ask Professor Foxy” will regularly contain sexually explicit material. This material is likely not safe for work viewing. The title of the column will include the major topic of the post, so please read the topic when deciding whether or not to read the entire column.
Dear Professor Foxy,
I’m a lesbian in my 20’s going through a break-up with my girlfriend of nearly 4 years… and I am feeling so overwhelmed and lost right now. I really just need some guidance, and not the 5-steps-to-getting-over-your-ex kind of self-help. In the past few months, what was once a (more or less) healthy and egalitarian relationship has turned into a wreck.
Communication issues and baggage that we ...

This weekly Saturday column “Ask Professor Foxy” will regularly contain sexually explicit material. This material is likely not safe for work viewing. The title of the column will include the major topic of the post, so please ...

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