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By sarah • 14 years ago

I finally got a job. At a strip club.

I’ve been job hunting for months. I’ve applied at hundreds and hundreds of places, online and in person.

I’ve only had 4 interviews in my entire job search.

Not one of them hired me. The last job I interviewed for was a new In-n-Out  Burger close to my house. 4,000 people applied for only 40 positions. (I live in San Bernadino county, one of the most recession prone areas in the U.S.)

There was a new strip club opening this weekend that was hiring for (fully clothed) waitresses, and so I applied. I got an on-the-spot interview and was hired the next day.

I was happy, but it was a bittersweet happiness. I texted my sisters, who know very well how hard I’ve been trying to get a job. They told me they were okay with it, but afraid for my safety and that I was supporting the very thing I fight against daily. 

They told me that I was willing to put aside my morals ‘for a quick buck.’  And that I am supporting the idea that women are sex objects.

But beggars can’t be choosers, right?

Regardless of what my family thinks, I’m still the one that’s trying to make money to pay for my own college text books. My own money to pay for my own food for once. I’m 21 years old and cannot afford to buy new clothes for myself.

But now I feel conflicted on whether I should start the job or decline the offer.I ...
By sarah • 15 years ago

When our friends leave us for their boyfriends.

It’s so common. You and her have been best friends since you both were 14, and the older you get, the less you hang out. Not because you don’t love the shit out of each other, but because she tends to spend much more time with her boyfriend, and <I>his</i> friends, rather than her own.

Why is this so common among hetero women?

When I confront my girlfriends, they basically say that as we get older, we just naturally spend every waking moment with our significant other. And that it’s just "growing up".

Yes, I understand that when we get older, we spend less time with our friends, and more time with our husbands, wives, kids, whomever. We have more responsibilities. But why ...

It’s so common. You and her have been best friends since you both were 14, and the older you get, the less you hang out. Not because you don’t love the shit out of each other, but ...
By sarah • 15 years ago

The confidence to cum

It’s nearly impossible for me to orgasm during sex without clitoral stimulation.  With my first sex partner, I NEVER had an orgasm during sex. I was with him an entire year, and the sex was really good, but it felt unfair because he always got to finish but I never did. After sex, he was all satisfied and I still felt like I was going to die from how horny I was, and usually he‘d go to sleep and I’d get myself off. (Ha, sorry if that‘s too graphic)

Not that he didn’t try to make me cum, he did, but he only tried to give me a G-spot orgasm. He sort of thought that if it wasn’t going ...

It’s nearly impossible for me to orgasm during sex without clitoral stimulation.  With my first sex partner, I NEVER had an orgasm during sex. I was with him an entire year, and the sex was really good, ...
By sarah • 15 years ago

Lately on feministing.

I’ve been an avid reader & commenter of feministing since early 07′ and I’ve read A LOT of comments and posts. Recently, I’ve been noticing a lot of negativity in the comments. There are a few users (one in particular) I’ve noticed that comment often, and always seem to try to invalidate the OP’s ideas and ALWAYS try to contradict what the poster says. I understand that sometimes we as feminists don’t agree, but this particular user ALWAYS seems to want to stir up controversy with a bit of anti-feminism. There are always topics that have a fair share of opposing view points, but lately it seems ALL of the topics have a few comments from users that seem out ...

I’ve been an avid reader & commenter of feministing since early 07′ and I’ve read A LOT of comments and posts. Recently, I’ve been noticing a lot of negativity in the comments. There are a few users ...
By sarah • 15 years ago

Sex and porn problems in my relationship.

I’m going to get very personal and so I hope that everyone can be gentle if they are going to criticize me.

I’ve always been passionate about sex I love it, I love talking about it, doing and everything. It is a huge aspect of myself and I masturbate all the time (sorry if that’s TMI.) have always had a high sex drive and I like to fuck often, not abnormally often, but everyday or every other day or whatever. I’ve had 2 serious boyfriends before my current one and that’s exactly what we did and I never had many complaints, and I was satisfied.

Eric* was a virgin when I met him, I was his first girlfriend. We rarely ...

I’m going to get very personal and so I hope that everyone can be gentle if they are going to criticize me.

I’ve always been passionate about sex I love it, I love talking about it, doing ...
By sarah • 15 years ago

Meeting fellow feminists!

Hi everyone! I’m so thankful to be a part of the feminist community and I regularly read feministing. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to meet other feminists, sometimes I feel like a lonely little feminist.So I thought I would post my myspace and facebook and have you add me, or post yours and I will add you.

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Hi everyone! I’m so thankful to be a part of the feminist community and I regularly read feministing. I’ve been trying to figure out a way to meet other feminists, sometimes I feel like a lonely little ...