Weekly Feminist Gif: when Emily Yoffe publishes a “response” to her critics…

Because victim-blaming is some wack shit and I really can’t stomach any more.


Mychal Denzel Smith is a Knobler Fellow at The Nation Institute and is really, really, really, really, really, really sick of victim-blaming.

Mychal Denzel Smith is a Knobler Fellow at The Nation Institute and contributing writer for The Nation Magazine, as well as columnist for Feministing.com and Salon. As a freelance writer, social commentator, and mental health advocate his work has been seen online in outlets such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, Salon, Al Jazeera English, Gawker, The Guardian, Ebony.com, Huffington Post, The Root, and The Grio.

Mychal Denzel Smith is a Knobler Fellow at The Nation Institute and contributing writer for The Nation Magazine, as well as columnist for Feministing.com and Salon.

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  • http://feministing.com/members/trackerneil/ Neil M

    I have read the Yoffe op-ed and her response to critics, and I can’t see the victim-blaming. Although I think a good deal of victim-blaming goes on – too much, really – I’m not sure it can be found here.

    I think it is never a bad idea for any individual to take reasonable steps to protect herself from harm, and it is never a bad idea to advise others to do the same. That doesn’t mean that those who do NOT take those steps are responsible for harm done to them, and I did not see that Yoffe claimed otherwise.

  • http://feministing.com/members/talulah42900/ Alisha Walker

    Unfortunately, I did read Mrs. Yoffe’s pathetic, unapologetic “response” to her critics. It’s just more of the same victim blaming – another chapter in her adequately described “rape denialism manifesto”. She not only stands by her opinion that “avoiding incapacitation could help them stay safe” but also calls out everyone who disagrees because they apparently lack “common sense”. She did not choose to focus on all the dangers all genders that drink. She did not address the statistic that perpetrators of rape have often been drinking, more often that the victims. She did make it clear in this piece however that she apparently equates the idea of getting drunk and doing something stupid is the same thing as rape: “In the meantime, this weekend, some young, intoxicated women will wake up next to guys they never wanted to sleep with.”
    This just makes me sick. On the bright side, it is clear that this kind of article will create an outrage with the public – not just on feminist sites, but with the media in general. Yoffe may be trying to set us back, but there are now enough educated people in the world to take a stand against her.

  • http://feministing.com/members/kfdoyle2/ Kris

    Perhaps my response will help you better understand, Neil M.:
    Thank you, Prudence, for personally making me feel like because I decided to drink alcohol, I deserved for someone to force their penis into my vagina against my will. You know, we wouldn’t be under THREAT FROM MEN WHO RAPE US if we never left the house either. Now that I think of it, maybe even some kind of covering of the face or body would do the trick. Take a women’s studies class before you write, please. All you have accomplished is the same old victim-blaming, slut-shaming behavior that puts us all in danger in the first place. It is my legal right to consume alcohol at my discretion, just as it is yours. I don’t care if I was drunk, high on bath salts, naked, my legs in a pair of stirrups, in the middle of an all-male audience, gyrating grotesquely. IT. IS. MY. BODY. AND. I. CAN. DO. WHAT. I. WANT. WITH. IT. Stop trying to find ways to tell us not to get raped and instead focus on the CRIMINAL. THE RAPIST. Tell him NOT TO RAPE. Tell him not to drink since, as you so effectively point out, alcohol is prevalent in so many rape cases. How can you not see that you have put 100% of the responsibility on the woman in this equation, when the males are the perpetrators of the crime. Your double standardization is sickening. If I was robbed, are you going to ask me what I had to drink that night? If someone hit-and-runs my car on the street, will you demand to know why I was driving alone in a short skirt? Surely, you can see the absurdity in these ideas . . . so why can’t you see it in your own article? Rape is a crime that is NEVER the fault of the raped, but always the fault of the rapist. It is both infuriating and insulting that you need to be told this as an adult with a functioning brain. Women like you make me sob. Not cry, not weep, but sob. YOU. SHOULD. BE. ASHAMED.

    ps I hope that you behave like a good girl, not a disgusting irresponsible slutty whore who drinks enough to achieve intoxication, so that you never find yourself with your arms pinned down, with a man whispering he knows how much you want it (or you wouldn’t have had that third sangria, now would you have?), with hot tears burning your cheeks, running over his hand that will leave bruises on your face from where he covered your mouth, with an unfamiliar penis being painfully inserted into your vagina, feeling it, smelling it, hearing the sounds, as he rips into the most private part of your body OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER again . . . thinking to yourself, this is all my fault. Clearly, right?

    Hopefully, you’ll never make a single mistake. But if you do, at least you’ll know who to blame.