Above the Game

Demand Kickstarter remove guide to sexual assault

*Trigger warning: This piece discusses sexual assault*

Above the Game

You know what always gets the ladies in bed? Assaulting them.

This is the guidance redditor Ken Hoinsky wants to offer to the world in his new book, Above the Game: A Guide to Getting Awesome with Women, for which he’s already raised nearly $16,000 on Kickstarter. Apparently the “game” of which he is “above” is securing consent, and his advice is a play-by-play description of sexual assault. Casey Malone picked out some highlights:

Get CLOSE to her, damn it!

To quote Rob Judge, “Personal space is for pussies.” I already told you that the most successful seducers are those who can’t keep their hands off of women. Well you’re not gonna be able to do that if you aren’t in close!

All the greatest seducers in history could not keep their hands off of women. They aggressively escalated physically with every woman they were flirting with. They began touching them immediately, kept great body language and eye contact, and were shameless in their physicality. Even when a girl rejects your advances, she KNOWS that you desire her. That’s hot. It arouses her physically and psychologically.”

Decide that you’re going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don’t ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances.

Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don’t ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick.”

Hoinsky’s fundraising is set to close at 11:56am EDT today. Visit the book’s Kickstarter (major trigger warning; don’t listen to the video) to report the project and Tweet @kickstarter to demand that the company pull the page and return all promised funds to the donors. Here’s a sample Tweet you can copy and paste:

Hey @kickstarter, “Above the Game” promotes sexual assault. Take down the page NOW and refuse to fund the book http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/tofutofu/above-the-game-a-guide-to-getting-awesome-with-wom?ref=home_popular

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Alexandra Brodsky is an editor at Feministing.com, student at Yale Law School, and founding co-director of Know Your IX, a national legal education campaign against campus gender-based violence. Alexandra has written for publications including the New York Times, the Atlantic, the Guardian, and the Nation, and she has spoken about violence against women and reproductive justice on MSNBC, ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, FOX, and NPR. Through Know Your IX, she has organized with students across the country to build campuses free from discrimination and violence, developed federal policy on Title IX enforcement, and has testified at the Senate. At Yale Law, Alexandra focuses on antidiscrimination law and is a member of the Veterans Legal Services Clinic. Alexandra is committed to developing and strengthening responses to gender-based violence outside the criminal justice system through writing, organizing, and the law. Keep an eye out for The Feminist Utopia Project, co-edited by Alexandra and forthcoming from the Feminist Press (2015).

Alexandra Brodsky is an editor at Feministing.com, student at Yale Law School, and founding co-director of Know Your IX.

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