Allen West orders wife to be his porn star

We all remember Allen West, the Congressman, who compared himself to Harriet Tubman, liberating African-Americans from the slavery imposed on them by the Democratic Party. And who can forget West’s claim that Marxists and Communists infiltrating Congress (I wish!). Well, it turns out, Mr. West is as shocking off the record as on the record. In a recently leaked letter written when West was on duty in Iraq, the now Congressman informs his wife that upon his return, she must engage in certain sex acts that will be “the standard and it is non-negotiable.” He also states:  “From now on, you will wear two-piece swim suits when on vacations.” But the real romance comes out here: “Angela, I need to know, are you committed to being my porn star?…. I do not want to hear ‘no’ or ‘we’ll see about that.’ I want my fantasies to be with you. God has authorized you and you only as my partner for intimacy and that is what I want.”

This is not mere gossip. This is politically relevant. When politicians try to legislate sexuality, control what people do in the privacy of their own bedrooms, claim to be Christian conservatives, who condemn others for their “deviant” behavior, their personal lives are fair game. Their hypocrisy should be exposed. After all, West called called Rep. Debbie Wasserman Schultz (D-FL) “vile,” “despicable,” and “not a lady, said that”Planned Parenthood women” are “neutering American men,” and offended the Congressional Black Caucus by ordering them Chick-Fil-A, in support of the company’s stance against marriage equality. It’s beyond mere gestures and statements– West also voted to defund Planned Parenthood.

West signs off his letter by saying “get ready.” Well, he should “get ready” to be held to the same standards he imposes on others.

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8 Comments

  1. Posted October 3, 2012 at 10:42 am | Permalink

    I guess I have a few issues with this. But please read the whole comment before/if anyone comments on this.
    First of all, it’s a leaked letter. If my privacy were equally destroyed as this person, I would feel awful and violated, no matter who it was.
    Second of all, I’m not sure if this is relevant, but often in BDSM, the Dominant/submissive relationship between two people can be expressed in many ways, including to be ordered to do things like this. If this man is in a D/s relationship, his wife and him likely agreed to consensual acts in these situations and have limits, etc. To be honest, when I read this, it sounded like a scene in a Dominant/submissive context. Being in a D/s relationship implies that such scenes were previously agreed upon with limits. Basically CONSENT in huge capital letters would change the context of this letter completely.
    That being said, if this was out of any type of BDSM context and the wife was not in agreement with what was said, yes, there I see a problem. But as someone with experience in this range, until it is proven that he is not in such a relationship, I will take this news with a grain of salt.
    However what he has done publicly is not excusable and that I am not in agreement with.
    So TL:dr: I would wait on further information before delving in to his personal life, but what he has done publicly doesn’t endear him to me at all.

    • Posted October 3, 2012 at 11:51 am | Permalink

      I get what you’re saying, but again, it comes back to his policies. If Allen West was not banking his career on telling other people what they can and cannot do in the privacy of their bedroom, then what he chooses to do in the privacy of his bedroom is of course off-limits. But when you’re a hypocrite of the highest order because you believe you’re entitled to exactly the sort of kinky sex you like but everyone else should be punished for it and you are working on laws of that nature, then you deserve to get your ass burned when someone leaks a private memo about how you like shit weird in the bedroom.

    • Posted October 3, 2012 at 3:40 pm | Permalink

      Yes, these were my thoughts exactly. This sounds like D/s to me, and for all we know his wife is as much into it as he is. Frankly, it really does seem to me like gossip and not politically relevant.

  2. Posted October 3, 2012 at 1:41 pm | Permalink

    To start, I do not think that approaches like West’s are good for anyone, including himself, and I do not approve of his policies or comments. But this is ridiculous to attack him on. Much like Melissa stated, if this is the nature of a consensual sexual relationship with his wife and a leaked email, it is frankly disgusting to me that you would post or report on it in this manner. My husband and I are dual military and have been through two combat deployments apart. We sometimes jokingly refer to each other’s ranks and “orders” we will give when we reunite. It is fun and part of our sexual relationship. You could not find a more feminist man than my husband. While he was deployed to Afghanistan we read “Your Daughter’s Bedroom” simultaneously to discuss how we wanted to raise our then 9 months old daughter to have a healthy view of sexuality.

    This is not part of West’s public life and not a part of his private life that should be scrutinized. If it turns out that he abuses his wife, then this may become relevant. But I’ve been my husband’s porn star and he mine. Come on, focus on legitimate things to report and not just attack West on this. As you very clearly outlined, there is plenty out there on him that is worthy of attack and criticism. This is not one of those instances (yet) and wasting your posting energy on this weakens what could be an objective criticism. This blog is quickly losing my interest, the hypocrisy here is starting to get maddening, I’ve been following you guys for 7 years.

    TL;DR: West is an abhorrent example of a leader and I’m glad that the US Army kicked him out. But this is ridiculous, criticize the leaking of his personal emails to his wife, then the content if it somehow corroborates an abusive relationship.

  3. Posted October 3, 2012 at 2:08 pm | Permalink

    This will be long, my apologies in advance.
    In the American form of democracy, there is and should be a different standard of privacy for an elected official. Largely, that’s because his or her private life and opinions can be the only way we get to answer questions of serious importance. Given that an elected official’s right to privacy is legally so diminished, this is one of the rare cases when I would argue the person implicitly agreed to such scrutiny – in this case by running for office when he knew or should have known the protections on relevant aspects of his personal life would drop so steeply.
    Plus, as much as it’s possible West and his wife have a D/s relationship, the following quote would worry me either way – “I want my fantasies to be with you. God has authorized you and you only as my partner for intimacy and that is what I want.”
    The plain language of the letter here indicates he feels a religious definition of marriage gives him the right to be the sole arbiter of his wife’s behavior. Not any consent of hers, not her sub status, not anything he’s done or earned, but because he has a penis and God says he can. I have the right to know if he holds opinions like that and weigh what they mean in terms of my political choices. Particularly when he is in a position to influence my own personal life.

  4. Posted October 3, 2012 at 3:42 pm | Permalink

    I tend to agree with Melissa.

    I will however take another tack.

    You denounce hypocritical politicians, who preach one thingin public and act another in their private life. Exposing them seems quite alright, I’d say. However, here, we have someone who seems to be consistent!

    Now, you might disagree with his point of view, but accusing him of hypocrisy is very unfair – he might be a cad, but he is no hypocrite. Not on the grounds mentioned, anyway.

    Sorry, the charge is disingenuous.

  5. Posted October 3, 2012 at 6:10 pm | Permalink

    I know this is one of the more “Fun Feminist” blogs, but it’s still an ostensibly feminist space. My point with that: The private life of a douche canoe public figure should not take precedence over what is a clear hideous male entitlement and misogyny issue. He’s an awful person and people like that deserve no mercy.

  6. Posted October 3, 2012 at 7:17 pm | Permalink

    Ok, I get it. It’s really fucked up that West has a not-so-vanilla sex life whilst telling others what they can and can’t do with their own sex lives. Not sure how I feel about this eye for an eye tactic though saying he should get ready to be held to the same standards; methinks fuck the standards (even for this guy). Then again, if he seems to have the attitude Planned Parenthood and other feminist groups are trying to “neuter American men” maybe it’s only natural he gets off to bossing his wife around. Ugh, people like West who are actually chauvinistic assholes really give BDSM a bad name…

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