Today is Tuesday, September 11th.

You should know that there are memorials everywhere.

Underground, in a tunnel that connects N/R/Q/4/5/6 trains at Union Square in Manhattan, there is a temporary memorial along the tile walls that list every single victim who died in the two towers. It has been there for ten years.

In the West Village, an empty triangular lot with a chained link fence has painted tiles from school children around the country sent in memory of the victims.

Every single firehouse in the New York Area has a plaque in memory of the fallen first responders from their units. In Fort Greene Park in Brooklyn, a bench holds a plaque etched with a name of someone who used to sit there who died in the Towers. In Cobble Hill, there is a quiet block where plaques etched with names of the fallen at base of trees.

You should also know how we lived with the after. We still are. An unbelievably long war(s), death of a megalomaniac terrorist, a new tower just emerging after years of intense debates over the design and financing and work stops when more remains of the lost were uncovered.

You should also know that we are all now at the very point of fully processing the magnitude of this horrific event. I’m only beginning to understand the depth of sorrow I felt when I wept nonstop for 10 minutes a week after they fell at memorial sponsored by my job. I didn’t lose anyone in the collapse and the inferno, but I knew I lost something. I wept for the families and victims. I wept for my generation and the ones behind me. There was no denying that the deaths of 3,000 people would multiply. I wept because I couldn’t see an end. I wept because our history was being rewritten and I wasn’t sure what kind of people we were about to become. I wept for whatever innocence meant and my certainty that it was lost. I wept for what inevitably would be war. An endless war. A rumor swept through our offices in those early days of returning to work in Lower Manhattan. There was a survivor. A week after all of that, a survivor. We prayed for impossible things in that moment. We were crushed when learned there was no one.

Our streets were uprooted; Fulton Street was an open crater. You should know that Fulton Street between Broadway and Gold Streets in Lower Manhattan have been in a constant state of construction since. New York, a city not quite finished, is always in a constant state of damage and repair. She is an old city that sprouts new things, even faster than the proverbial and clichéd new york minute. Here, some may argue that equilibrium for New York is change. You should know that we aren’t surprised that the rebuilding of the World Trade Center area has taken nearly ten years to show signs of life that is now. You should know that it’s not cynicism; it’s an understanding of the complexity of how the city works.

You should know that we know the smell of death. You should know that we know the difference in the smell of smoke, of matter consumed in fire. You should know that when the wind shifted ash, hair, dust from lower manhattan covered us on September afternoons in 2001. You should know that kindness in the face of trauma means brushing it off exposed skin of a stranger and friend without acknowledging what it is.

You should know that New York’s relationship to this tragedy of epic proportions differs from the flag waver’s imagination. You should know that we were kind to each other in those early days and weeks. You should know that we were thoughtful. You should know that we loved each other. You should know that we were broken, every bit as broken as any one else. You should know that we loved strangers that week like they were our family. We turned our offices and churches into shelters and relief centers to support the first responders, the workers who furiously sifted through the wreck to find anyone. You should know how generous we were with each other, a city of nearly 8 million people turned into a singular community.

You should know that the narrative of the city includes its architecture, its buildings. That every corner, awning, façade carries a memory like a signature, and like any people of any community, we have our stories, folklore, myth attached to place. That one late summer afternoon the clouds opened and I, without an umbrella, got soaked in the plaza between the towers and danced in the rain around the globe statue, because what else was there to do. That my cousin’s future husband proposed to her at the shores of the Hudson River, the twin towers with its spectacular height, his backdrop.

You should know that one August morning in 1974, a Frenchman tightrope walked between the two towers and those who remember it as a moment of sublime and holy, impossible beauty. You should know that one afternoon in 2000 sipping an apple martini at 110th floor of Windows on The World we saw a rainbow arch its back between window and cloud. That in April of 2001, I told my mom we’ll go up to visit next time she’d come to New York and don’t worry, “they’re not going anywhere.”

You should know that we all know where we were when it happened. As do you. You should know that there isn’t a year where I don’t hear a story from a fellow New Yorker who told me that they were supposed to be at the World Trade Center the morning of the attacks and by chance, they weren’t. You should know we all have our stories, so deeply personal and part of the wide narrative of a single event that shifted our whole engagement with the world for more than a decade.

You should also know the heartbreaking anger we felt when interlopers came to our community on this day to spread their vitriol on the 9th anniversary in response to a modest project for Islamic community center. To say who is American, and define American with such blinding hatred. Anyone who was here when it happened wouldn’t come to Lower Manhattan to do that. Not on that day. Not in our name.

You should know that so many of us who live here avoided Lower Manhattan in the first years of the anniversary. You should know our grief was secondary to the grief of those families, but it was grief we felt nonetheless. You should know that it is ok to acknowledge the kinship of grief. You should know that our humanity allows for that.

We all have our stories on to tell today. Today, we remember them all.

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5 Comments

  1. Posted September 11, 2012 at 9:42 am | Permalink

    Thanks for sharing this with us. I really appreciated your writing and your insight.

  2. Posted September 11, 2012 at 10:29 am | Permalink

    Thank you for this beautiful, moving piece. You have captured everything that I’ve felt, specifically as a New Yorker, since that day. My prom was at Windows on the World. My close friend was in Tower 2 when the plane hit; he survived, thank god. I’ll never forget how the elevators would sway and my stomach would lurch on the way up to the highest floor when I’d meet him for lunch. I spent that blue morning, after I heard the plane barrel over my building in the West Village, furiously calling his office at Morgan Stanley, because I thought somehow I could help get him out. I stood on 7th Avenue South with my neighbor watching the towers fall. We cried and held each other. I baked cookies for firefighters. I was on emergency alert for months, my muscles bundled up in a constant flow of adrenaline, and I was changed forever. I will never forget the burning smell that lasted well into December. So many times I’ve felt “you should be over this”. But like all varieties of loss, the grief is seared into you like tattoo. Although the wound never quite heals, it grows less inflamed with time. Again, thank you, Syreeta. I needed to read this today.

  3. Posted September 11, 2012 at 3:44 pm | Permalink

    Every year, I silently take time to say a prayer for all those impacted by the tragedies of 9/11. The events of that day changed the course of my life and the course of my husband’s< although we were not even together at that time.

    The events of that day led to my husband's deployment and eventual injury. Just like most of those who witnessed things they never wanted to, I don't need this day day to remind me of what happened or to keep me grounded. I am reminded everyday by looking at my husband, I am reminded because we are constantly picking up the pieces of our lives and living the aftermath.

    As I look back at our struggles and look ahead to what the future holds, I realize that as the events of that day unfolded, my future did too. What was has shaped what is, and I am thankful for our lives. We have our trials and we have our struggles, but our past led us to our present and for that, I am grateful.

    So as I say a prayer for all those who lost loved ones on 9/11, I also say a prayer for those, like my husband and I, who through the tidal of events, found our love. My heart and thoughts are with everyone affected directly by the events of one single day and with those who's lives were affected by the aftermath of one single day. Whether you were in NYC, DC, or Pennsylvania that day or if you were half a country away, we all are affected in some way.

    Every day is our day of rememberance….

  4. Posted September 11, 2012 at 3:56 pm | Permalink

    Well said, Syreeta. It feels rare that I get to read or hear sentiment about this day that isn’t wrapped up in political rhetoric, or the crux of an argument to prove one point or another. Thank you for capturing what this feels like, in context of the city in which it occured.
    Much Love.

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    Posted September 12, 2012 at 12:42 am | Permalink

    This was a beautiful thing to read. I was in the seventh grade on September 11th; it was my second day at a new school. During our first period class we heard fire engine after fire engine racing down Second Avenue and my teacher wondered out loud, “Hm, do you think they’ll get there?” It would be another period or two before the news made its way fully around the school. My neighborhood was among those fenced off by a police barricade because it was too far downtown. In the days that followed, I remember walking around my neighborhood with my mother. When you saw someone you knew you immediately hugged them and most likely cried. In all of that immediate confusion and chaos it was so good to know someone was alive.

    That sense of union with those around me only increased with every anti-war protest I went on in the months and years to follow.

    I always enjoy hearing other New Yorkers’ stories from that day. There is something comforting about it.

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