The Wednesday Weigh-In: PRIDE Edition!

rainbow banner and large crowd of people

As Miriam noted, June is LQBTQ Pride Month in many places around the world, generally marked by parades, celebrations, demonstrations, and acts of solidarity for people in the LGBTQ community and allies. Here in NY, it could be made extra sweet if we pass marriage equality this week.

What better time for a Pride-themed weigh-in?

Pride is a funny thing. In public discourse, it’s alternatively described as a problem of self-righteousness or arrogance, and a necessary component of achievement and sense of a job well done. For me, it tends to come sporadically, and in accordance with my moods. I often find myself deflecting recognition for things I’ve worked on to others that I feel are more deserving, or being hard on myself for the one thing that went wrong when there are ten other things that went so right. But on the other hand, on a good day when I’m feeling less hard on myself, I’ll allow myself a moment of pride or self-congratulation, and feel unapologetic about it. I find this pattern to be true among a lot of my feminist friends, who tend to be hard-working, self-critical, and incredibly thoughtful and high-achieving.

This week’s weigh-in question, then, is straightforward, but contains multitudes:

Name one thing about yourself that you are most proud of, and why?

It could be an action you took (or didn’t take!), something you accomplished or achieved, an identity you uncovered, or a character trait you developed.

Hopefully, this can be an opportunity to reflect on identity, self-love, and all of the messy, complex components of these. For me, this question makes me think about the relationships in my life. When I dig down deep and think about what makes me feel truly accomplished and proud, it has more to do with how I treat people, and the kinds of people that I attract to my life, than it does with any one thing I did or accomplished. But that’s just me. I wanna hear about you!

So, you know the deal: leave your thoughts in comments!

Brooklyn, NY

Lori Adelman is Executive Director of Partnerships at Feministing, where she enjoys creating and curating content on gender, race, class, technology, and the media. Lori is also an advocacy and communications professional specializing in sexual and reproductive rights and health, and currently works in the Global Division of Planned Parenthood Federation of America. A graduate of Harvard University, she lives in Brooklyn.

Lori Adelman is an Executive Director of Feministing in charge of Partnerships.

Read more about Lori

Join the Conversation

  • chelsa

    Things I am proud of?

    Breaking my family’s cycle of poverty… even though a part of it was pure luck (right place, right time).

    Running my first 5K and placing 32nd

    Finally being able to have a little money in my savings account, after living cheque to cheque.

    Not being ashamed of saying I had an abortion. And finding out other women are interested in the story.

    … of being the geeky friend all my friends come to when they have computer problems.

    … of being the friend my friends come to when they want life-advice (relationships, work or other)

    I’m most proud of becoming the person my Mother was proud of. Knowing how she talked about me to family and friends makes my head swell about a million times and touches me like nothing else.

  • Charity

    Today I published my first blog via skirt! magazine. It was a piece in support of Planned Parenthood. I’m proud that I was able to project my voice despite fears of inadequacy.

  • Rebecca

    It’s a small victory, but I’m proud that I’ve achieved my goal of riding my bike more. It’s great to do something that’s good for your body and the environment at the same time.

  • Abigail

    First of all, I’m Israeli, and there are two things i’m most proud of. Breaking the law and not joining the army even though there’s mandatory service here and lots of pressure from society to do it, and leaving school because I was unhappy and then starting again as a social-work student a year and a half later.

  • Devyn

    Being a feminist in a world where being a feminist, a perceived male feminist at that, is socially ostracized

  • 1ah11

    First off, everyone’s comments that have been posted so far are really inspiring. I can definitely relate to Charity’s comment.

    I’m proud of myself for getting into a somewhat prestigious school despite my less-than-fantastic academic record. I’m hoping to be able to learn a lot more, but also share my knowledge as well.

    Happy Pride, everyone!