Tony Porter breaks out of the “man box”

I truly believe that one of the biggest ongoing and mostly neglected pieces of feminist work is convincing men that their liberation is tied up in ours. Tony Porter, co-founder of A Call to Men, was the first speaker to get a standing ovation for this incredibly vulnerable and moving talk about the toxicity and future of masculinity. Trigger warning: Tony testifies about a horrifying sexual assault that might be difficult for some people to hear about.

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  • Ryan

    Connection Error!

    But I hope that gets fixed soon. This is one of the most important topics feminism’s faced. It’s neglect is unacceptable.

  • Kat

    The video won’t play. I watched it on the TED blog though, and I want to shake this man’s hand.

  • Amelia

    I made my boyfriend watch this. I thought he was getting it until it lead to a conversation about how we treat male and female children differently – he brought up dresses (we had met a baby earlier that day who was wearing a dress – her mum was lamenting that when she started crawling it would be the end of dresses for while), and I said that it was sad that men and boys are limited with what they wear, because for a man to wear a dress is degrading and they risk being shamed, but some men might love to wear dresses (and not be shamed for it). He said “but I’ve always said that it would be cool to be able to go around in a sarong all the time”. He didn’t quite get it. Bless. I pointed out that it would put him too far out of his “man box” to have said that he wanted to wear a dress or a skirt, a sarong doesn’t put him quite as far out of it as a dress does, that makes it safer for him to say. It took him a moment to process that.

    This was a great video, we should get all the men in our lives to watch it!