The World Bank surveyed more than 4000 women, men, and children in 20 countries on social and gender norms last year. The results? We’re more similar than we are different.

In one notable section of the study, The World Bank asked girls and boys to define what makes a “good” girl.

Unsurprisingly, being helpful at home, obedient, and respectful are high on the “good” qualities from the perspective of both boys and girls. Boys found it more important than girls that “good girls” are decently dressed, and girls found it more important than “good girls” do not date, but there isn’t much disparity in responses.