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By melloncollie • 16 years ago

Why are Clever girls never desirable?

Cross posted to Diary of a Nobody
A friend of mine has just been told, in advice that was (supposedly) well meaning and ‘for her own good’, that she should stop being so independent and then she’ll find love. I have also been told that if I changed my ‘look’ to be less ‘individual’ I’d attract more men on a night out. That if I stopped being so ‘geeky’ or ‘weird’ or any thing that would mark me out as an individual as opposed to say a sheet of MDF cut out to resemble a playboy centerfold. Maybe I would, but what gets me is how these assertions are accepted and not greeted with the howls of outcry and derision they deserve. Needless to say me and my friend are proud to be independent, strong and all of those adjectives that are so imbued with a derisory double meaning when applied to women.
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

‘How to Avoid Rape’ – victim blaming or not?

I’m having abit of an argument with a freind, she pointed out this   site to me, I said I thougth it was bullshit and she thinks it offers sensible advice.

While I don’t dispute  common sense I am SICK of the respobility being hauled upon women and women who didn’t do what they ‘should’ have done being blamed for being raped, sites like this do not offer anything postitve in my opinion espcially when they have such delsightful statements such as this

‘Don’t Put Yourself in a Situation Where You Could Be Raped
 At first glance, this is the biggest "NO DUH!" statement we could make. And yet, it is something that the nearly 100,000 ...

I’m having abit of an argument with a freind, she pointed out this   site to me, I said I thougth it was bullshit and she thinks it offers sensible advice.

While I don’t dispute  common sense ...
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

The next generation

I’ve just read this wonderful article on The F word , By Ananya, who is wise beyond her 10 years!

 I can’t tell you how happy it’s made me to read such a wonderful article by such a young, intelligent girl. Because girls ARE good at stuff that’s much more interesting than clothes and make up.

‘I really think it’s time people picked all these ideas up and started producing magazines for girls which are more fun, more exciting and on more interesting topics.’

Ananya you made my day!

I remember reading ‘girl talk’ as a kid and finding it so boring an inane, while it’s sad to see not much has changed it’s great to see not everyone’s putting up with ...

I’ve just read this wonderful article on The F word , By Ananya, who is wise beyond her 10 years!

 I can’t tell you how happy it’s made me to read such a wonderful article by ...
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

Privilege, me and my city’s bloodstained history.

I wrote this the other day after seeing a documentary on the history of Liverpool and after reading many blogs about privilege, suddenly things just clicked into place a bit more. 

Privilege, me and my city’s bloodstained history.

A lot has been written about privilege lately. I must admit as a beneficiary of white privilege and a comfortable middle class upbringing I have let this issue slide under the carpet for too long; not deliberately but just as the result of well being privileged, the fact that you so often don’t notice it.

However reading the plethora of posts on the feminist blogsphere lately has opened my eyes; I’d like to add my small piece about how privilege affects me and the ...

I wrote this the other day after seeing a documentary on the history of Liverpool and after reading many blogs about privilege, suddenly things just clicked into place a bit more. 

Privilege, me and my city’s bloodstained history. ...
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

Sexual Harrasment and religion

I came across this while surfing:

Hiding behind the veil
In the Middle East, as elsewhere, it’s not the clothes women wear that makes them liable to harassment – it’s men’s attitudes
By Faisal al Yafai from Guardian.co.uk
I think this article is excellent and a nice change from the recent victim blaming horrors we’ve had of late in the British press.

I came across this while surfing:

Hiding behind the veil
In the Middle East, as elsewhere, it’s not the clothes women wear that makes them liable to harassment – it’s men’s attitudes
By Faisal al Yafai from ...
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

Well behaved women rarely make history

In honour of a lazy day spent watching the discovery channel:

I’m an archaeology student and one of my areas of interest is women, how they were represented in societies and how history has portrayed them. As an introduction to how women have been seen through time I’d recommend ‘The Second Sex’ by Simone De Beauvior. It explains the concept of ‘otherness’ very well. To truly study women in history you have to be aware of the ‘otherness’. I suppose a brief introduction to how the concept of the other relates to women in history is thus:
Society and history is defined by those in power, this has without a doubt been men. Women did not have the means to ...

In honour of a lazy day spent watching the discovery channel:

I’m an archaeology student and one of my areas of interest is women, how they were represented in societies and how history has portrayed them. As an ...
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

Why would I want to be a princess?

My family is in the midst of wedding fever and one thing I am sick of hearing about weddings is women who ‘get to be a princess for a day’. I’m sick of the whole princess thing full stop, it drives me mad. From little girls being marketed crap to grown women being marketed crap. Yet it’s not the consumerist crap that bothers me so much it’s the ideas behind this princess bullshit.

Why oh WHY is being a princess seen as something we should aspire to? Something that every girl and woman wants?

Why would I want to be someone who’s elevated to a position of unfair privilege based only upon an accident of birth or marriage?

Why ...

My family is in the midst of wedding fever and one thing I am sick of hearing about weddings is women who ‘get to be a princess for a day’. I’m sick of the whole princess thing ...
By melloncollie • 16 years ago

A good article for a change

I saw this in today’s Guardian and I thought I’d share.

It’s a nice piece on female singer/songwriters. As much as I’m sick of the whole ‘singer/songwriter’ stereotype of women in music it has some good stuff, I’ll be checking out the records I don’t have as soon as I get myself down to a record shop!

I saw this in today’s Guardian and I thought I’d share.

It’s a nice piece on female singer/songwriters. As much as I’m sick of the whole ‘singer/songwriter’ stereotype of women in music it has some good stuff, ...