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By honeybadger • 15 years ago

Emotionally Abusive Women

My father is in an emotionally abusive relationship. I don’t know how this directly correlates with feminism, but I believe all victims of abuse, including men, should be addressed in the feminist dialogue. I am in need of some advice or feedback—my family and I are currently going through a very difficult situation and I have found Feministing discussions to be always helpful and engaging.

In December, my father married a woman who seemed, at first, to be ideal—poised, successful as a businesswoman, attractive, doting, and outwardly successful. When they were in the ‘courting’ stage, she was constantly doting on him, buying him gifts, and buying the rest of the family gifts. They quickly moved in together, and bought a house.

As soon as they got married, however, things took a completely dire turn. Her behavior changed suddenly and dramatically. I would awaken at 4AM to screaming fits of rage by my stepmother (let’s call her Linda). For days she would cry and whine and complain about my father, when I see no indication that he’d been mistreating her. She would make accusations that he treats her horrendously and cheats on her all the time. I live with them—I see that he obviously cares very much about her and displays it in his actions—cooking her meals, etc. My dad doesn’t go anywhere except for home or work (so logically, cheating would be impossible).

Her out-of-control rages usually end up in her crying and seeking the comfort and sympathy ...
By honeybadger • 15 years ago

Violence against Asian women: Why not covered? Why doesn’t it matter?

This post will inevitably be discombobulated. I have never posted to Feministing before but I am filled with deep sadness. Last month in Virginia Tech, a Chinese female graduate student, Xin Yang, was decapitated by a 25-year old male Chinese international student, Haiyang Zhu. It happened in a scene or setting most of us could see ourselves in–sitting in a cafe near the University with a male acquaintance. It happened as seven other people were present. It was no ordinary killing–Zhu decapitated Yang with a kitchen knife. Here is the story:
Some of the comments in Xin Yang’s Facebook memorial page truly sickened me and reminded me once again about the grossly unequal gender relations that beset China.
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This post will inevitably be discombobulated. I have never posted to Feministing before but I am filled with deep sadness. Last month in Virginia Tech, a Chinese female graduate student, Xin Yang, was decapitated by a ...