Posts Tagged online dating

The personal is political, and also personal: Why choosing to date within your race isn’t racist

I fear that I’m about to wade into all kinds of messy territory, but alas, that is the work of feminist critical thinking. This morning I came across a Slate piece by Reihan Salam about why expressing a same-race preference on dating websites is racist. I beg to differ. Salam’s main argument comes down to this:

“There are good reasons to question the moral appropriateness of strong same-race preferences and their close cousin, in-group favoritism. In The American Non-Dilemma, Nancy DiTomaso argues that persistent racial inequality in the United States is not solely or even primarily a reflection of racism and discrimination. Rather, it reflects the fact that whites tend to help other whites without ever discriminating against or ...

I fear that I’m about to wade into all kinds of messy territory, but alas, that is the work of feminist critical thinking. This morning I came across a Slate piece by Reihan Salam about why ...

Weekly Feminist Reader

“Most of us [twentysomething women] aren’t scrambling to lock down boyfriends by age 25 — we’re busy building our careers.”

A lengthy but important read on the relationship between “dick culture” and “rape culture”.

Why I don’t do Christmas.

On defending (and critiquing) Beyonce: “She’s not a perfect feminist (none of us are), she still has a way to go (most of us do), but she is certainly a feminist.”

THEMthe first trans* literary journal, debuts:  “I would like THEM to be a place where that narrative can be upset—whether by exploring other stories or contextualizing the familiar ones.”

“Most of us [twentysomething women] aren’t scrambling to lock down boyfriends by age 25 — we’re busy building our careers.”

A lengthy but important read on the relationship between “dick culture” and “rape culture”.

Why ...

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Guest post: An open letter to desperate men on social media

This is a guest post from Chelsea Fagan. Chelsea is a Senior Writer at Thought Catalog and the author of the forthcoming book “I’m Only Here for the WiFi”, out next month!

Hi Guys,

How are you? I hope the day finds you well, though I must admit that I imagine you don’t receive an enormous amount of sunlight in the basement-caves from which you are posting your lecherous, unsolicited comments. If I had to pinpoint an image in my mind, I would guess that it’s one of those basement rec-rooms from the 70s, complete with olive green shag carpeting and faux-wood paneling on the walls, with perhaps one of those tiny basement windows which is just big enough to ...

This is a guest post from Chelsea Fagan. Chelsea is a Senior Writer at Thought Catalog and the author of the forthcoming book “I’m Only Here for the WiFi”, out next month!

Hi Guys,

How are you? ...

Guy texts unsolicited dick pic, woman sends it to his mother, wins

Trevor, who is really good at flirting, likes to get women’s attention by flashing them:

The woman Trevor texted this time was not having it, though.

Trevor doesn’t see the big deal, and starts insulting this woman he’s apparently trying to hit on. The conclusion of their conversation is after the jump – for the full exchange check out Happy Place. Spoilers: she forwards it all to Trevor’s mom. New technology means new places to harass people, but it’s also given us new ways to fight back. Because dick pics are forever. This woman rocks.

Trevor, who is really good at flirting, likes to get women’s attention by flashing them:

The woman Trevor texted this time was not having it, though.

Trevor doesn’t see the big deal, and starts insulting this woman ...

The Wednesday Weigh-In: Online Dating Edition

Online dating. It’s far from an unexplored topic in the feminist blogosphere. We’ve talked before about some of the dangers of online dating.  And over at GOOD, Jill Fillipovic had a brilliant piece about how two years of online dating taught her to spot red flags in potential suitors. (Clue number one: “I’m a nice guy.”)

But it seems with every passing day, online dating is becoming more and more normalized. Exhibit A: as a single 20-something living in New York City, a good chunk of my friends are engaged with online dating in some way (most through OKCupid).  Exhibit B: a hilarious new weekly Buzzfeed column “An(n)als of Online Dating” that purports to “show the best of the ...

Online dating. It’s far from an unexplored topic in the feminist blogosphere. We’ve talked before about some of the dangers of online dating.  And over at GOOD, Jill Fillipovic had a brilliant piece about how ...