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Fucking With Feministing Is Back, So Send Us All Your Sex Questions!

Hi friends! Reina here, and do I have the opportunity of a lifetime for you. We are rebooting the classic series, Fucking with Feministing — and I am now here to take care of all your sexual needs! In an informative not physical way!

Here at Feministing, we believe that sexual equality is fundamental to a liberated world, from eliminating sexual coercion to promoting orgasm equality. Fucking with Feministing, pioneered by legendary sex goddess Sesali and the brilliant superheroes at the Center for Sex and Culture is our flagship column for everything saucy, juicy, spicy, and otherwise sexual (and probably involving food metaphors now that I’m writing it).

Here’s how it works: You send your sex and relationship questions, ishes, and strugs to reina@feministing.com. I read said question, ish, or strug, and if it catches my fancy it is featured in this column (edited for clarity and length maybe—who knows!). And I totally do not reveal your identity, because that would be a dick move, and the whole point of a sexually equal world is that the best dicks are in our pants and dildo collections.

Now, you may be wondering: “What qualifies you, Reina, to answer my questions about sex and relationships?” That’s an excellent question, reader, and one I am uniquely qualified to answer.

First of all, I am qualified because I’ve had some sexual interludes in my day! Touchin’, spankin’, humpin’, rubbin’, lickin’, lovin’—you name it and I’ve either done it or read about it on a blog.

Second of all, I research and write about sex, consent, and sexual health for various outlets. I even pay my bills doing this!

Third of all, people in my hometown frequently approach my father with shocked expressions on their faces and say “Did you see what your morally corrupt middle daughter is writing on the internet???”

Finally, in an imaginary survey of previous sexual partners, I got the following reviews:

“Sex with Reina made me realize I was a lesbian.” [Variations of this review repeated several times.]

“I was about to finger Reina in a laundry room but didn’t because she had pubic hair and I think that’s gross. So she gave me a 45 minute talk on the way patriarchal gender norms structure our sexual desires. Thank goodness I didn’t have to pay $200,000 for a gender studies degree in order to work through my assumptions about women’s bodies with a friendly, well-informed feminist!”

“Sick titties.”

“Reina is on fire in bed. Not literally, because she is very conscious of fire safety. Don’t light candles close to linens.”

And if this doesn’t inspire confidence, I don’t blame you/don’t worry: The glamorous and highly informed sexual health experts at the Center for Sex and Culture are here to make sure that all the advice we give out is safe, healthy, and medically legitimate. So please give them a round of applause, and send those sex questions over to my inbox.

Remember folks, it’s reina@feministing.com and your questions contribute to a more just, equal, and pleasure-filled world. So unbutton those pants (if you’re wearing pants, and you feel like it—this is entirely your choice and also obtain the consent of those around you) and get ready for a sexy ride!

Reina Gattuso is passionate about empowering conversations around queerness, sexual ethics, and social movements with equal parts rhapsody and sass. Her writing has appeared at Time, Bitch, attn:, and The Washington Post. She is currently pursuing a masters degree in Indian cinema, theater, and visual art at Jawaharlal Nehru University, Delhi.

Reina Gattuso writes about her sex life for the good of human kind.

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