Thirteen year old badass on slut shaming

This video’s a bit old, but I hadn’t seen it before, and it’s amazing.

This gives me hope for the future right now.

Update: Huge thank you to Feministing reader Sorcha for typing up a transcript, which you can find after the jump. I also received transcripts from readers Caitlin and Libbie. The Feministing community rules.

Hi!
So, the 27th of August is kind of a big deal for me as a YouTuber.
*But Why?* Because, as of then, I will have been on YouTube for two years. Two Years. What? Crazy, right?
To commemorate this special occasion, I want to do the 7 Days 7 Topics Challenge. That title is pretty self-explanatory but it basically means that every day up to, and including, the 27th, I’ll be doing a video on a topic that’s important to me.
[Disclosure: I don't know everything, and I'm not going to pretend to. If you disagree with me on a topic, that's fine. Let's all just stay mature, respectful and classy ;) ]

Anyway, let’s hop to it!

Today’s topic: slut shaming and why it’s wrong. So first off, what the hell is slut shaming? Slut shaming is the unfortunate phenomenon in which people degrade or mock a woman because she dresses in tight or revealing clothing, enjoys sex, has sex a lot or may even just be *rumored* to participate in sexual activity. The message that slut shaming sends to women is that sex is bad, having sex with more than one person is horrible, and everyone will hate you for having sex at all. That message is complete and utter, excuse my French, bullshit. Yes, I’m 13 and I said the word ‘bullshit’. Yes, I’m 13 and I’m talking about slut shaming. Deal with it.

Anyway, if you’ve given your consent, if you’re emotionally and physically ready for it, if you’re using proper protection, and if you feel safe and comfortable with your partner, then sex is good. It is nobody’s business but your own how many people you’re having sex with, or how much sex you have, and you don’t deserve to be hated on for being sexually active with more than one partner.

Slut shaming also contributes to rape culture/rape-supportive culture. Rape culture is a culture in which sexual violence against women is commonplace and in which prominent attitudes tolerate said sexual violence. Slut shaming contributes to this by sending the message that it’s OK to rape sluts because, by having too much sex or dressing in tight and revealing clothing, they’re somehow asking for it. Rape is caused by rapists, misogyny, structural violence and institutional tolerance, not by women’s clothing or make up, not the way she talks, or walks, not by her drinking, not by her ‘not being careful enough’, and certainly not be her being a slut.

Sonya Barnett and Heather Jarvis said: “being in charge of our sexual lives should not mean that we are opening ourselves to an expectation of violence regardless if we participate in sex for work or pleasure”.

Slut shaming takes away women’s rights to express themselves sexually without fear of being scrutinized by men and other women, and it objectifies women’s bodies.

What I’m getting at here is that slut shaming is wrong at any age. I’m noticing a lot of other girls my age starting to say it and it just shocks me every time. How could they use such offensive language in such a casual manner? It’s like they don’t even know the meaning behind their words, and that’s the thing – they don’t know.

So if you watching this know somebody who slut shames, pass this video along. They could learn something. I mean, it might not work but how awesome would it be to change the opinion of even just one person? Simple actions can have the biggest impact.

[Inaudible] …tomorrow, for another topical video. Hasta la vista!

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7 Comments

  1. Posted January 9, 2012 at 10:24 am | Permalink

    Even if this is old, I’ve never seen it. This girl is awesome! Also, I didn’t know half of those things when I was 13. My life would have been greatly improved if I had.

  2. Posted January 9, 2012 at 12:40 pm | Permalink

    Wow. Not only is she right, but her explanation is extremely eloquent. Amazing!

  3. Posted January 9, 2012 at 4:40 pm | Permalink

    I love this girl! Wish I had been this articulate at 13!

  4. Posted January 10, 2012 at 10:57 am | Permalink

    Is this my long-lost little sister?? What an amazingly insightful thirteen year old! Perhaps she is familiar with Jessica Valenti’s books :)

  5. Posted January 10, 2012 at 11:20 am | Permalink

    I am seriously impressed by this girl for educating herself. It gives so much hope for younger generations

  6. Posted January 10, 2012 at 3:28 pm | Permalink

    Hi femenisting.

    I apologize for submitting a comment that, it seems, violated your policy. Certainly don’t publish this one, but perhaps I could try again? I don’t mean to be contrarian or antagonistic, only helpful. My friends and I have, unfortunately, had to deal with this on our campus (so it’s close to home, if you know what I mean) and I think it’s worth keeping more things in mind and being responsible, if only just because we won’t change the rapist/misogynist culture by, say, tomorrow. Does that make sense? Anyway, I’ll try again. I just think tacking it up wholesale to rapists, while true, avoids practical considerations that could help

  7. Posted January 17, 2012 at 5:40 pm | Permalink

    Such a proud moment when I first saw this. May her peers take a good, long listen.

    She’ll be a force with which to be reckoned.

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