Monday morning jams: “In Praise of the Vulnerable Man”

This weekend, Miriam, Vanessa and I went to Penn State as part of the Feministing Offline and Unfiltered college campus tour. We met some awesome young feminists, spoke about blogging, young feminists and the future of the feminist movement, and were able to talk to PSU students about the Sandusky scandal and the reaction on campus.

And, on the drive back, we were able to listen to sweet nineties tunes for five hours straight, because Miriam stopped buying CDs in about 2002, and, well, because nineties tunes are totally awesome. I discovered that both Miriam and Vanessa know every single word to “I’ll Make Love to You” by Boyz II Men. I do not. This left me feeling rather left out (don’t worry, I went home and studied up so I can be prepared for the next singalong).

One of those sweet nineties tunes was courtesy of the great Alanis Morissette, and when I got back to New York I went on something of an Alanis kick. One of my favourite Alanis songs – after the angry post-breakup ones, of course – is “In Praise of the Vulnerable Man.” Something about a woman explicitly commending a man for expressing emotions other than anger and team pride, and promising not to take advantage of his vulnerabilities, gives me hope for the future of feminism.

So on this sleepy Monday morning, here’s a bit of Alanis to get you warmed up and feeling good about the future of the fight against sexism. Lyrics below the jump.

You are the bravest man I’ve ever met
You unreluctant at treacherous ledge

You are the sexiest man I’ve ever been with
You, never hotter than with armor spent

When you do what you do to provide
How you land in the soft as you fortify

This is in praise of the vulnerable man
Why won’t you lead the rest of your cavalry home

You, with your eyes mix strength with abandon
You with your new kind of heroism

And I bow and I bow down to you
To the grace that it takes to melt on through

This is in praise of the vulnerable man
Why won’t you lead the rest of your cavalry home
This is a thank you for letting me in
Indeed in praise of the vulnerable man

You are the greatest man I’ve ever met
You the stealth setter of new precedents

And I vow and I vow to be true
And I vow and I vow to not take advantage

This is in praise of the vulnerable man
Why won’t you lead the rest of your cavalry home
This is a thank you for letting me in
Indeed in praise of the vulnerable man

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3 Comments

  1. Posted December 5, 2011 at 11:21 am | Permalink

    I never heard this Alanis song, really dig it, thanks! And I’m not remotely surprised that Vanessa & Perez know every word to “I’ll Make Love To You” but would love to have seen that lol :)

  2. Posted December 5, 2011 at 2:53 pm | Permalink

    Alanis……perfect since I just took an exam

  3. Posted December 6, 2011 at 2:26 am | Permalink

    I feel somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of praising someone for treating women the way that we deserve to be treated as human beings. A man fighting sexism is great but glorifying a man for not being sexist feels all-too-much like a modified version of groveling for respect. The song makes me uncomfortable.

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