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After losing her friends and being bullied for rape accusations against a fellow student, high school freshman Samantha Kelly committed died by suicide on Monday. Just horrible.

Next Saturday, November 20th, is the 12th annual Transgender Day of Remembrance. Amanda Hess offers a guide for folks in D.C., Maryland and Virginia. Looks like we may have to represent on the New York front…

Nice: The National Women’s Law Center has filed complaints against 12 school districts for not adhering to Title IX.

Remember the cheerleader who refused to cheer for her alleged rapist? The right-wing Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals has ruled that she’s required to.

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  • http://feministing.com/members/juliewaymsw/ Julie

    Please use “completed suicide” or “died by suicide” instead of “committed suicide.”

    From the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention:
    “In the body of the story, it is preferable to describe the deceased as “having died by suicide,” rather than as “a suicide,” or having “committed suicide.” The latter two expressions reduce the person to the mode of death, or connote criminal or sinful behavior.” – http://www.afsp.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.viewPage&page_id=7852EBBC-9FB2-6691-54125A1AD4221E49

    • http://feministing.com/members/mysticdoula/ Sarah

      Thanks for posting this comment about suicide. I have always felt troubled by saying someone “committed suicide” as it sounds like a judgment of wrong-doing, like someone would be accused of committing murder. It is so terribly sad that a young girl would find herself in a place where ending her life was seen as the only way. It’s also sickening that the case will never be looked into further and now the girls family must live with this injustice for the rest of their lives.

  • http://feministing.com/members/longleggedsally/ Kat

    AOL news, huh? Quite the non-judgmental audience in there. Perhaps it’s just my personal filter, but the article seemed to trivialize the girl’s pain and make a sideshow freak out of her mother. “Taunted” isn’t the right word to describe being told that not only did your rape not happen, you’re also a liar, and here are the reasons why you would lie about this, all of which paint you as a horrible person. ‘The news lady was nice enough to delineate that it wasn’t a rape charge, it was ‘third-degree criminal sexual conduct.’ As in, not ‘rape-rape.’ Thanks for that.

  • http://feministing.com/members/cassius/ Brüno

    She had to go to court over it? Really? What do they plan on doing if she refuses to cheer, jail her?

  • http://feministing.com/members/azure156/ Jenny Gonzalez-Blitz

    The first and last stories make my stomach turn. It’s like however ignorant society at large is about rape, high schools are 20 times worse. Both these guys should be prosecuted. The first one getting off the hook because the victim is dead. Bullshit. By that logic I suppose murderers would never be prosecuted. I don’t know which is stupider, our education system or our legal one.

  • http://feministing.com/members/caveneil/ Neil

    Bruno: She went to court because she was kicked off of the cheerleading squad for refusing to cheer at certain points in the game, apparently such as when her alleged rapist was shooting free throws.

    While most of you may not like the result in this case, I think it makes sense. It wouldn’t make a whole lot of sense for the court to hold that cheerleaders have a free speech right to do whatever they want at games and remain on the squad. Would other cheerleaders be able to not cheer players that they had problems with? While she has a free speech right to cheer or not cheer, it is hard to say what expressive conduct while cheering should be protected not from discipline or censorship, but from being asked to no longer cheer because of refusing to go along with all the cheers.

    Maybe the school should have made some sort of special dispensation or accommodation for her, because her allegations were so serious, and allowed her to sit out cheers where her alleged rapist is playing important role in the game. That would have put the school district in a tough position because it would have looked like they were taking a side in the controversy.