Elizabeth Hasselback thinks lesbians are just man-deprived

It just amazes me that Elizabeth Hasselback is actually allowed on television.

The Advocate brings attention to a recent show at The View where a discussion ensues about women coming out of the closet later in life. Hasselback’s explanation? That older ladies simply don’t have any men to choose from, so move on to women in the midst of their lonely desperation:

I’ll tell you what’s happening, it’s that older men are going for younger women, leaving the women with NO ONE.

At least my homegirl Joy Behar is there to bite back.

Transcript forthcoming.

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10 Comments

  1. Posted July 28, 2010 at 12:59 pm | Permalink

    Good for Joy. Why do people have such a difficult time accepting that sexuality is not a binary thing? Relationships are incredibly complicated and only allowing two kinds of relationships (friendship for same sex and sexual for opposite) does not make any sense at all. And like from I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry, you can’t even use the nature shows us that homosexuality of bisexuality, etc. is never shown in any animals or creatures.

  2. Posted July 28, 2010 at 1:13 pm | Permalink

    I think that opinion speaks far more about Ms. Hasselback than lesbians.

  3. Posted July 28, 2010 at 2:40 pm | Permalink

    Ack! When I see otherwise reasonable people say things like this, I try to remember that some people can go through their whole lives with assumptions like these, and never have them challenged or questioned. Well, I’m blowing them wide open, right here, right now. When a woman, later in life, leaves her husband/boyfriend/men in general to start a relationship with a woman or explore women, it’s because SHE WANTS THAT WOMAN, OR JUST WOMEN IN GENERAL. It has nothing to do with there being a “man shortage”, nothing at all. Because here’s the thing; there isn’t one. There are plenty of men to go around, and there are just as many willing to jump in bed with an older woman as there are with a younger woman.

    Here’s something to think about. Instead of making silly assumptions about older women who come out or have relationships with women later in life, like they’re doing it because they can’t find a man, how about we put ourselves in their shoes. Let’s say you’re 40 and you’re starting to realize that you are seriously attracted to another woman or women in general. You’ve dated men your whole life, you may even be married to a man for 10 years or more. Heterosexual life, expectations, and goals are all you’ve ever known or thought about. You don’t know how to be gay. You don’t know what it means that you might be gay, you don’t know how other people will perceive you now, and you don’t know how your life will be if you decide to pursue women. You don’t know how to pursue women. You don’t know how to flirt with women, how to turn them on and get things going. Most of the women you meet will have a 20+ year head start in this game. They know what they’re doing and you don’t, and that’s scary as hell. You don’t know how your family, friends, husband/boyfriend, and possibly kids will react to the news and if they will treat you or think about you differently. That’s even scarier. Maybe you’re wishing that all this would just go away, that things could go back to the way they were before. Maybe you’re excited and happy because you’ve finally figured out what’s been missing all these years and you can’t wait to explore women. Maybe you feel indifferent about the whole situation.

    But one thing’s for sure: people don’t just decide to be gay or bisexual because they can’t find a man. That assumption is, well, silly, not to mention insulting. It suggests that lesbianism is the back up plan, rather than a legitimate, complex sexuality, and it completely erases the actual experiences of women who come out later in life. Here’s what I’d like to see the view do; bring on actual women who have come out later in life and ask them about their experiences, instead of just talking amongst yourselves and making assumptions about people you clearly don’t know much about. Then we’d be getting somewhere.

    • Posted August 2, 2010 at 1:32 am | Permalink

      In my opinion, this mentality is the reason why so many people are against lesbians, gays, and bisexuals: the belief that sexual minorities are of a sexuality that is secondary to that of heterosexuality. In this case, it is Hasselback’s view that being a lesbian is “a backup plan” or something that is used to imitate a heterosexual relationship because there are no more men to date. Similarly, there is the belief that one is born homosexual or bisexual, and that developing heterosexuality is a natural part of maturing. This belief incorporates the idea of outdated Freudian psychology, and yadda, yadda, yadda. Overall people need to develop the mindset that you are BORN with sexual orientation, and that that sexual orientation may not be heterosexual.

  4. Posted July 28, 2010 at 2:54 pm | Permalink

    One more thing: women just need companionship? Yeah, women need companionship, but they also need orgasms. If you’re hot for men but can’t find one, you can’t just flip a switch and get hot for women because there are more of them available (which there are not, because this “older men chase after younger women” idea is just an assumption of Ms. Hasselbeck’s. And who’s to say that there aren’t plenty of younger men who would be interested in an older woman?). Sexuality doesn’t work like that. If you weren’t attracted to women yesterday, you’re not going to be attracted to women today because you woke up this morning and realized that you can’t find a man. And how exactly is it going to be easier to find a woman than a man, especially since you have no experience flirting with and attracting women? Again: silly!

  5. Posted July 28, 2010 at 5:50 pm | Permalink

    Hey look, these ladies are so desperate for some loving they’ll take anyone at all! Even another lady! Because of course women can’t just be single! Or not have wanted to marry young! And we all know a woman will do anything to get a man, even if her man is another woman!

    *barf*

  6. Posted July 28, 2010 at 8:44 pm | Permalink

    It’s a little baffling that Hasselback thinks that girls can switch our attractions to whatever way. Some girls like males, some girls like females, some girls like both. Simple!

    It gets so tiring to hear the “all women need dick” bull.

  7. Posted July 28, 2010 at 9:13 pm | Permalink

    Hrmm. Maybe she’s repressing something now that she’ll deal with in the future? Maybe she just doesn’t understand her own sexuality and is projecting?

    Or maybe she just doesn’t understand sexuality in general? Because that was an incredibly ignorant argument, with absolutely no basis in reality.

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