The Feministing Rom Com Review: The Back-up Plan

poster for The Back-up Plan. Jennifer Lopez hides a pair of baby booties behind her back. Text reads: Fall in love, get married have a baby. Not necessarily in that orderThe Back-up Plan, starring Jennifer Lopez and some dude with killer blue eyes who you’ve never heard of, is about Zoe, a woman in her mid-thirties – I’m assuming, because her age is never specified – who, finding herself without a significant other and determined not to miss her chance to have a baby, decides to be artificially inseminated and raise the child alone. However, mere moments after said insemination takes place, she meets a gorgeous man who runs a goat cheese farm (seriously, cheese? Why didn’t they just make him a chocolatier? Or a purveyor of fine [insert other thing all women supposedly love]?). Stan, the cheese farmer, and Zoe, the former internet start-up employee who now owns a pet shop, keep running into each other all over town, and finally, they go on a date, fall for each other, and Zoe reveals to Stan that she is pregnant. He does not take it well, and then he comes to his senses and realizes that actually, he does want to raise children (oh yes, she’s pregnant with twins) with a woman he’s only been on two dates with. They prepare for the baby together, she pigs out, he freaks out, they break up, they make up, the babies arrive, the end. Add in a cute dog, a grandma with a potty mouth, some mocking of homebirth and some talk about how awful and/or awesome parenthood is, and you’ve got yourself a romantic comedy.

The movie does not start strong. The opening credits are a cartoon in which a very white version of Jennifer Lopez runs around New York City seeing babies everywhere. The “walk/don’t walk” sign says “crawl/don’t crawl.” The hot dog vendor is selling his goods from a stroller. Lily-white cartoon Zoe checks out her reflection in a shop window and her reflection has a baby bump.

But despite my initial dread that the movie would be all about Zoe’s baby-mania, it’s really not. The central dilemma of the film is that immediately after getting pregnant, she meets a great guy with whom she can see herself having a future, and that her pregnancy will obviously make it difficult for their relationship to progress on a normal trajectory. There’s the usual pregnancy stuff that’s played for laughs: Cravings, weight gain, mood swings and shopping for strollers and baby clothes, but refreshingly, Zoe’s world isn’t depicted as revolving around her pregnancy for nine whole months. She continues to have a life, and a love life, even though she’s pregnant.

It’s incredibly rare to see pregnant women depicted as objects of lust in popular culture. Once you’re pregnant, it seems, your days as a sex goddess are over, and once you’ve had kids, well, forget about it. To quote Saturday Night Live‘s famed Mom Jeans commercial, once you’ve had the kid, “you’re not a woman anymore; you’re a mom.” So it’s nice to see a discussion of the fact that, actually, being pregnant makes most women very horny, and to see Zoe acting on that arousal, even if Stan doesn’t yet understand why she’s able to have an orgasm merely from making out and grinding up against him.

Aside from the unusual speed with which their relationship has progressed, Stan and Zoe have other problems, namely, Stan is terrified of the cost and responsibility of parenting twins, and Zoe doesn’t really believe that he’ll stick around to help raise them. There are some interesting class issues at play here; Stan, who never finished college and is in night school in addition to running the farm, is intimidated by Zoe’s professional success, a feeling that probably isn’t helped by her predictably unrealistic apartment and her ability to buy a $400 dress just for one date. Luckily, Stan has a wise Black man to help him sort through these issues: Upon learning that Zoe is having twins, he freaks out and flees into the park, where he winds up at a playground and asks a random stranger for advice. That random stranger turns out to be a father of three, who, despite having no name (he is credited as “Playground Dad”), serves as Stan’s main source of parenting and relationship advice. “It’s awful, awful, awful,” he says when asked what fatherhood is like, “and then something incredible happens. I feel like I’m drowning, gasping to get my own life back, and then there’s some life-affirming moment that makes it all worthwhile.” Thank goodness for the wise Black father, who we see twice and never hear from again!

It’s not all bad. Zoe’s grandmother, who lives in an assisted living facility, has been engaged for twenty-two years, and when she finally ties the knot, there isn’t a single old-people-sex joke made. Hallelujah! There’s also an amusing scene in which Zoe’s male obstetrician says the word “vagina” over and over again in an attempt to make Stan more comfortable with it (he fails).

Most interestingly, there’s an emphasis on socially-conscious careers. One of the things that interests me most about romantic comedies is the jobs that it’s acceptable for women to have. They’re generally divided into two categories: you have your cool jobs (party planner, journalist, shop owner) that allow the woman to be creative and do all sorts of glamorous things, and the authority jobs (executive vice president of somethingorother, producer) that almost guarantees that you’re watching a movie in which the leading woman is controlling and has had no time for relationships and needs a man to bring out her soft side and teach her how to love. So it’s interesting to note that in The Back-up Plan, as in the rom com it most resembles, Baby Mama, the leading lady has a socially-conscious job. Zoe bought the pet store she owns after she discovered that it was selling inbred puppies from puppy mills, and took it over, determined to only sell healthy animals. What’s even more interesting is that social-conscious careers aren’t gendered in this movie: Stan sells his cheese at farmers’ markets, and dreams of opening a gourmet food store in which all the products are sourced from local farms.

Despite its refreshing depiction of a pregnant woman who’s capable of thinking about something other than pregnancy, the movie does fall back on some fairly predictable rom com tropes. Firstly, there’s the depiction of single mothers as kooky and odd and hostile to men. Zoe joins a support group called Single Mothers and Proud, but they very nearly kick her out when she reveals that she’s dating someone. Then there’s the depiction of homebirth as weird and disgusting: Zoe is invited to come to one of the SMAP members’ home water birth, where we get a vagina shot (thanks for breaking that barrier, Judd Apatow!) and are reminded that birth is, like, totally painful and gross. Finally, there’s the typical casting of borderline-stalker behavior as romantic and charming, as well as a rather uncomfortable Nice Guy™ moment from Stan: When Zoe initially refuses his offer for a date, he says, “you’re not interested in me? Why not? I’m very interesting.”

The Back-up Plan passes the Bechdel test, making it the first movie I’ve reviewed in this series to do so. Am I surprised that a movie starring Jennifer Lopez, she of The Wedding Planner and Maid in Manhattan is the first rom com of 2010 to pass the test? I am; I had my money on the one starring Tina Fey. Am I disappointed that, when Zoe talks to other female characters about something other than men, most of those conversations are about hating their post-pregnancy bodies or even hating their children? Sure. But it could have been worse. It could have been The Bounty Hunter.

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Chloe Angyal is a journalist and scholar of popular culture from Sydney, Australia. She joined the Feministing team in 2009. Her writing about politics and popular culture has been published in The Atlantic, The Guardian, New York magazine, Reuters, The LA Times and many other outlets in the US, Australia, UK, and France. She makes regular appearances on radio and television in the US and Australia. She has an AB in Sociology from Princeton University and a PhD in Arts and Media from the University of New South Wales. Her academic work focuses on Hollywood romantic comedies; her doctoral thesis was about how the genre depicts gender, sex, and power, and grew out of a series she wrote for Feministing, the Feministing Rom Com Review. Chloe is a Senior Facilitator at The OpEd Project and a Senior Advisor to The Harry Potter Alliance. You can read more of her writing at

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  • Lisa

    I haven’t had time to read the whole review but the lead actor is Gerard Butler. He was in Phantom of the Opera as the Phantom, P.S. I Love You, and more movies I don’t remember. Those are the only two movies I’ve seen him in.

  • marginallyyours

    Nope, Gerard Butler was the lead in the aforementioned horrible Bounty Hunter. IMDB tells me that The Back-Up Plan’s male lead is Alex O’Laughlin. He looks a tad like Butler, though.

  • ElleStar

    The correct answer is Alex O’Loughlin.
    Gerard Butler was in 300 and The Awful Truth and The Bounty Hunter.

  • paperispatient

    she meets a gorgeous man who runs a goat cheese farm (seriously, cheese? Why didn’t they just make him a chocolatier? Or a purveyor of fine [insert other thing all women supposedly love]?)
    Hey, I’d happily reap the benefits of dating a goat cheese farmer! (I.e. lots of free cheese)

  • paperispatient

    I don’t know who the actor is, but it’s not Gerard Butler – it’s not listed on the IMDB page for him or the movie.

  • aceygray

    It’s not Gerard Butler. It’s some dude named Alex O’Loughlin. And Chloe’s right – I’ve never heard of him!

  • kt

    Gerard Butler in not in this movie. This dude is Alex O’Loughlin. FYI.

  • Devoted_Toucan

    The main man in this isn’t Gerard Butler, Lisa.
    According to IMDB, the ‘Playground Dad’ is Anthony Anderson. Ha, I like him; he’s been in several movies I’ve seen.

  • susanstohelit

    Actually, Gerard Butler’s in the Bounty Hunter. Alex O’Loughlin is the male lead in The Back-Up Plan – he was on the short-lived show Moonlight and I believe he’s going to be in the Hawaii Five-0 remake. Don’t ask me how I know these things.

  • genericjanedoe

    Nope! Butler was the guy who was in Bounty Hunger, but not this one. This guy is Alex O’Loughlin. He has an acting resume but is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay less well known than Butler.

  • Jenna

    Just an FYI, but there is no such thing as an ethical pet shop that sells puppies and kittens.
    To sell puppies and kittens in a retail environment is to be deviod of social consciousness.

  • Dawn.

    Ditto. I would totally dig free cheese for life.
    I’m pleasantly surprised that this movie passes the Bechdel test, and has a smattering of positive messages. I expected it to be 100% bullshit.

  • lemur

    I dunno, I think a cheese farmer is actually quite original. But maybe I’m biased because I would got for a tall, handsome cheese farmer. Then promptly hint that it would be great to get some sheep.

  • AuntieMay

    The baby rabies/voluntary single motherhood meme is getting quite tedious.

  • Brianna G

    Well, if you believe pets are wrong, that makes sense, btu considering that many, many people will not get puppies and kittens from the pound, and will instead purchase them, there is definitely a need to have pet stores that do sell animals, but take care of them and purchase them from healthy sources. They can thus take away customers from the really bad places.
    Of course, I didn’t see the movie, so I don’t know how socially conscious it actually is– do the pets have private areas to hide, how’s the noise level, how often are they handled, blah blah blah. Just saying that there is a need for these stores to drive out the others.

  • atdelphi

    Just please tell me that it doesn’t turn out the male lead is also the biological father.

  • rebekah

    and women can’t choose single motherhood because…? I mean I really don’t understand your problem with this. Single women want children and don’t have a husband or do not want a husband, but they want to be mothers. There is nothing wrong with this. This is reality. It would be like saying that you couldn’t show a lesbian couple in a film, because it “been done too many times”. That’s just ridiculous

  • Jenna

    Actually, no, there is NO need nor excuse for the retail sale of pets.
    Those that do not want to adopt from a shelter or rescue should seek out responsible breeders, which you can locate by contacting the national breed club for the breed you want to buy.
    No responsible breeder EVER would allow a pup or kitten to be sold in a retail environment. Period. So you won’t have a source of healthy, well-bred animals for pet stores. Ever.
    Retail environments do not allow for proper screening of the home/buyer, nor do they allow for the proper socialization and early training of the animals.

  • Brittany

    I spent my most confusing and painful years without paternal guidance and had nobody around because my single mother had to work to support us. I know this will be an unpopular opinion, but I will always think that having two parents in a child’s life, one to stay at home, is the best way to raise a child. Does it have to be a woman that stays at home in a heterosexual relationship? No, of course not. I’m also aware that, realistically, both couples usually have to work. But if one is able to comfortably support a child with one job, then the other should consider staying at home with said child. Babysitters and daycare just doesn’t fufill a child’s needs like a mother/father would.

  • Jessica Lee

    Is it just me, or does Jennifer Lopez’s stomach look really airbrushed? Either that, or she’s a lot thinner than I thought she was.

  • Liza

    Except the ones in pet shops come from backyard breeders and puppy mills. If, for some reason, someone has an aversion to adopting from a shelter (and…try me. I can debunk pretty much any “reason” against shelters, having worked in one), they should seek out a responsible breeder. I don’t have time to go into all the things you should look for that makes a breeder responsible, but I can say for sure that there is no responsible breeder on the planet that would sell to a puppy-in-the-window style pet shop*
    *this is different than stores that have adoption drives, as those are shelter animals brought to the store for a day and the adoptions are done through the shelter.

  • Liza

    Ditto. Let’s have a movie where a woman remains happily child-free! No sudden changing her mind or bemoaning that she’s “incomplete” without reproducing, blah blah blah.