Rihanna Speaks Out for the First Time.

Earlier this year, Rihanna became the center for a media spectacle after being attacked by then boyfriend Chris Brown and having pictures of her released. Brown has made several public appearances, “apologizing,” and defending himself. But Rihanna hadn’t made a peep, it was just continual speculation about whether it was her fault (!) or if they had gotten back together.
Well, Rihanna is speaking out now. She will be on the Today Show this Thursday, along with 20/20 this Friday and is featured in the December issue of Glamour. Some bits of her interviews have been released and she is putting forth the words of a confident, young woman that got the support she needed to deal with this painful and humiliating situation.

Speaking to “Good Morning America,” the singer will send the message, “This happened to me. … It can happen to anyone,” according to excerpts of the interview released on Tuesday (November 3).
Rihanna, 21, also reportedly tells Diane Sawyer that the attack by Brown was especially difficult because of how she felt about him before the incident occurred. “He was definitely my first big love,” she said in an interview that will continue on Friday night’s “20/20.”
The singer also opened up for the December issue of Glamour magazine, describing how she coped with the aftermath of the assault. “I went to sleep as Rihanna and woke up as Britney Spears,” she said in the Women of the Year issue, out on November 10. “That was the level of media chaos that happened the next day. It was like, ‘What, there are helicopters circling my house? There are 100 people in my cul-de-sac? What do you mean, I can’t go back home?’ “


She continues,

“But at some point you are there alone. It’s a lonely place to be — no one can understand,” she said. “The positive thing that has come out of my situation is that people can learn from that. I want to give as much insight as I can to young women, because I feel like I represent a voice that really isn’t heard. Now I can help speak for those women.

Finally, she says the experience changed her and made her realize how powerful her actions are,

“You don’t realize how much your decisions affect people you don’t even know, like fans,” she told the magazine. And, if she could send a message to the millions of young women who look up to her, especially ones who might be in similar situations, Rihanna said it would be this: “Domestic violence is a big secret. No kid goes around and lets people know their parents fight. Teenage girls can’t tell their parents that their boyfriend beat them up. You don’t dare let your neighbor know that you fight. It’s one of the things we [women] will hide, because it’s embarrassing. My story was broadcast all over the world for people to see, and they have followed every step of my recovery.”

That’s right girl!
Related:
Oprah says “No,” to Chris Brown
On Chris Brown’s Public Apology
Black women’s bodies, voyeurism and Rihanna
Beyond Chris Brown and Rihanna: An interview with Elizabeth Mendez Berry
The media reminds us, famous women have no right to privacy.
Rihanna and Chris Brown might be getting back together, allegedly.

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9 Comments

  1. alixana
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 11:36 am | Permalink

    Rihanna, 21, also reportedly tells Diane Sawyer that the attack by Brown was especially difficult because of how she felt about him before the incident occurred. “He was definitely my first big love,”
    Well, that’s kind of the whole mindfuck about abuse, isn’t it? We don’t stay with our abusers because we feel lukewarm about them or just want someone around for a Saturday night date so we don’t get bored. Although looking back on mine I know I did not love him, at the time I had intense feelings for him (from this vantage point many years later, I suspect some of it was dependency that I thankfully left behind with my teenage years). I didn’t want to leave him, I wanted him to stop the abuse and always be like he was on our good days.

  2. DeafBrownTrash
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 12:59 pm | Permalink

    this is great news. Many young women and girls look up to her and they need to learn that it’s NEVER OK to take shit from a man, whether it’s sexual, emotional, or physical.

  3. Katherine
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 2:48 pm | Permalink

    Hopefully some good will come out of this and people will learn more about the dangers of domestic abuse.

  4. whoawhat?
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 3:21 pm | Permalink

    We haven’t yet seen the whole special, so she may address it, but with this preview, I’m a bit disappointed that it doesn’t confirm that they are no longer together. There are rumours (yes, gossip rags and such, but out there nonetheless) that they never actually broke up. I hope that Diane Sawyer asked her what the status of their relationship is now. It’s never okay for a man to abuse his girlfriend, wife, S.O., and she is a model for young people on how to act when this happens. She acknowledges this in this preview interview and I hope that she explains that this is why she left him, even though he was her first true love.

  5. TJ
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 3:24 pm | Permalink

    I think it’s great that she’s finally speaking out in the way that she is.
    As for the timing though, I guess her new single is coming out today too. Think the two are connected? Does it matter?

  6. turninnburnin3
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 3:49 pm | Permalink

    I am very happy that she is going to speak out. For me to speak out was/is the best healing process. I think it also puts a face and a voice to domestic violence. I think we hurt the cause more by not speaking against it. Thank you Rihanna for speaking up and bringing light to darkness. I hope it will inspire more survivors to speak up.

  7. Comrade Kevin
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 4:25 pm | Permalink

    Hopefully there will be many more women to follow advancing the same message.

  8. Lilitu
    Posted November 3, 2009 at 4:38 pm | Permalink

    The thing I keep forgetting about this is how heartbreakingly young Rihanna is. I know it’s hardly uncommon for girls and women even younger than she is to be abused by their partners, but Rihanna’s case is a tough reminder. And then to have to deal with all of the press scrutiny and the public backlash of the “she shouldn’t have made him mad” variety at only 21… Horrifying. I’m glad she’s recovering and that she sounds so strong.

  9. Rachael
    Posted November 4, 2009 at 4:32 am | Permalink

    I’m glad she’s speaking up. Now I just hope people will listen.

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