“Don’t Trust a Ho”… or this band

Just recently, a new song came on our local pop (Clear Channel) radio station. It’s called “Don’t Trust Me” by 3OH!3. I admit I’ve never listened to the rest of their album. But in all honestly, I really don’t want to. Here are the lyrics to “Don’t Trust Me”…
Black dress with the tights underneath,
I got the breath of the last cigarette on my teeth,
And shes an actress (actress),
But she ain’t got no need.
Shes got money from her parents in a trust fund back east.
T-t-t-tongues always pressed to your cheeks,
While my tongue is on the inside of some other girls teeth,
T-tell your boyfriend if he says hes got beef,
That I’m a vegetarian and I ain’t fucking scared of him.


She wants to touch me (Woah),
She wants to love me (Woah),
She’ll never leave me (Woah, woah, oh, oh),
Don’t trust a ho,
Never trust a ho,
Won’t trust a ho,
Won’t trust me.
X’s on the back of your hands,
Wash them in the bathroom to drink like the bands.
And your setlist (setlist),
You stole off the stage,
Had red and purple lipstick all over the page.
B-b-b-bruises cover your arms,
Shaking in the fingers with the bottle in your palm.
And the best is (best is),
No one knows who you are,
Just another girl alone at the bar.
She wants to touch me (Woah),
She wants to love me (Woah),
She’ll never leave me (Woah, woah, oh, oh),
Don’t trust a ho,
Never trust a ho,
Won’t trust a ho,
Won’t trust me.
Shush girl shut your lips,
Do the Helen Keller and talk with your hips.
I said, Shush girl shut your lips,
Do the Helen Keller and talk with your hips.
I said, Shush girl shut your lips,
Do the Helen Keller and talk with your hips.

(and then the “Don’t trust a ho” chorus repeats)
The song is super catchy, and incredibly easy to get stuck in your head. But really? The most creative chorus you could come up with is “Don’t trust a ho”? I don’t really need to go into how degrading this song is to women. I’m guessing the specific girl he is referring to in the song has a drug or alcohol problem (“bottle in hand”) or possibly has been abused (“bruises on her arms”)? I don’t know what the songwriter is trying to say, but I don’t think he’s showing sympathy toward her. By calling her a ho — and generalizing it to all women — he writes these problems off as just the actions of a woman negatively labeled by promiscuity or sex work.
What I take even more offense to is the “do the Helen Keller” line. I’m guessing what the songwriter means is that since Helen was deaf and blind, she could not argue or speak out, so instead she would just lie limply and “speak with her hips” — which could imply grinding on a dance floor or during sex. The song lyrics could easily be taken as a metaphor for rape — telling her to “shush,” preventing her from speaking out — or simply to say that women shouldn’t have a voice or say how their bodies are treated by men.
I don’t find this so creative or funny. You seriously used the name of an amazing woman — a woman who overcame public stigma and personal hardship to become an very prominent author, activist, and lecturer — to tell girls they should lie still and quiet? You think being blind and deaf is something worth making fun of? Obviously you’ve never seen the strength and courage of someone who is blind and/or deaf.
So, kudos, 3OH!3, for managing to shove multiple insults into a 3 minute song that repeats a chorus three times. I hope someday you develop some creativity, or at least learn a little respect and admiration for the people you so blatantly disrespect in your songs.

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