Friday Feminist Fuck You: Focus on the Family

We have many, many, many reason to tell Focus on the Family to go fuck themselves, but this week’s email blast was one we had to bring attention to in particular.
In short, the email told folks that anti-discrimination bills protecting transgender people’s rights would create “a whirlwind of social problems”, and “would even allow men to use women’s restrooms–right alongside women and even young girls.”
This video also made me realize that my New York accent comes out only when using the word “bathroom.”

“Men in Women’s Bathrooms: Is Your State Next?”
Good and Bad News in New Hampshire

RH Reality Check – …With Sexual Liberty and Justice for All

Sylvia Rivera Law Project – Toilet Training
Transcript after the jump.

This is for all the transphobic and transsexist assholes out there who feel compelled to spread gospel deeming transgender individuals as deviants and predators who are going to “get” your children. This is also not to mention taking proposed legislation that would give trans folks’ the right to be free from discrimination and degrade that down to bathroom politics.
Now, this is not to say that discussions around gender segregated bathrooms aren’t important- after all, an interesting thread came out of Miriam’s post the other day addressing Focus on the Family’s recent email telling folks they should be panicking because their children may be sharing bathrooms with trans people. They titled the email “Men in Women’s Bathrooms: Is Your State Next?” The thing is that this has nothing to do with men being in women’s bathrooms, but trans women being allowed in women’s bathrooms. If, say, this wasn’t allowed, I’m sure they would try to make some argument as to why trans women shouldn’t be allowed in men’s bathrooms either. It’s not about bathrooms and it’s not about the children. The purpose of these efforts is to convince others that transgender people don’t belong anywhere, period.
And I find this whole panic conservatives create over this issue really interesting considering the fact that transgender people are the ones who are harassed in public bathrooms, who are discriminated against and experience violence, who for many are forced to hold it in and suffer from health issues from it because they’re afraid of going into these public spaces.
The fact of the matter is that the real danger lies in not granting the right for trans folks to simply exist without discrimination or violence, and yes, to be able to piss in a public bathroom they feel safest in. It’s as simple as that.
So with that being said, here’s a big fuck you to Focus on the Family and all the other transphobic assholes out there who impose their fear and hatred onto anti-discrimination laws and into people’s lives.

Join the Conversation

  • Jennie

    Woohoo! Awesome. FotF is ridiculous, transphobic nonsense, and I sincerely hope that people don’t fall for their illogical scare tactics.

  • Dan

    Sadly, people do.
    Vanessa is absolutely right about exactly who is really in danger as things stand now, but the possibility of transgender people being harassed (or dog forbid, assaulted) when they go into the “right” bathroom is a feature, not a bug, for Focus on the Anus.

  • Leah

    If we were to go along with their obviously expedient subject of “men in women’s bathrooms”, as if it is the safety of the cispeople in the bathrooms that is in danger, then we are forced to look at that [completely absurd] logic a bit farther…
    If you are truly in touch with reality, you will then realize that if a man [or a predator of any gender] is set in their mission to attack a person or group of people, a sign with the room’s gender specifics on an unlocked isn’t going to hold them back.
    For anyone interested in bathroom activism, I strongly suggest downloading copies of the toolkit “Pissing in Peace” which is put out by PISSR [People in Search of Safe Restrooms]. If you Google it, you should be able to find a PDF file of it. It provides EXCELLENT ways to combat this ignorance and oppression.

  • Ori

    :: rolls eyes ::
    Wasn’t that the same scare tactic that Phyllis Schlafly used in the early 1980s in her fight against ERA?

  • Leah

    We better watch out, or it will be a similar argument used against transgender inclusion in the next draft of ENDA too.

  • Kathleen6674

    Great rant, Vanessa!
    My mom’s New York accent only comes out when she says “bag,” “chocolate,” “God,” or “guard.” :)

  • Dan

    You’d think that this argument would have lost its teeth after Ally McBeal spent five seasons subtly making fun of people who freak out over unisex bathrooms.

  • desean

    It’s not about bathrooms, people.

  • Thomas

    Nicely done. Embrace that accent! Where we’re from is part of who we are.

  • Lise Marie

    Rock on Vanessa! and as for the New York accent…being an upstate NY girl myself, my accent is not just on “bathroom.” So I hear ya!

  • Persephone

    I saw a great bumper sticker a week or two ago.
    “Focus on your OWN damn family”

  • Leah

    Sometimes subtle humor just isn’t blatant enough. ;)

  • JupiterAmmon
  • Sam I Am

    Incidentally, I heard a midwestern accent, not a New York one. I’m from Fargo and you sound like a lot of people from here.

  • ucsbclassics53

    Yeah, my reader from a history class I took on American women notes that they used the specter of the African-American man lurking in the bathroom waiting…

  • hekuni_cat

    Thank you, Vanessa. It is an excellent post.

  • LenaD

    Actually it already has been used by the fundies — and that in turn was cited by those gays and lesbians who don’t think they have anything to do with those people as a reason to dump us from the ENDA.
    Thank you for an excellent post, Vanessa.

  • puckalish

    byeahthrooms… beats the heck outta my grandma… her friend esther’s name is “estah” and yet her friend martha’s name is “marther.” i just don’t get it.

  • Dan

    True dat. There are a lot of stupid people out there.

  • Suzy Q

    The Taliban Christers and the rabid Right wing Republicans have been using the unisex, men in the women’s room hysteria since it worked in helping them to kill the Equal Rights Amendment.
    The reason they used “men in the women’s room” was because their examples were just that men not transsexuals and not transgenders.
    Their whole purpose isn’t really transphobia or homophobia. It is getting rich scamming their ignorant superstition believing fearful flock. This is just a begging ploy. The letter had some half dozen links after each hot point that takes one to a donation sight.

  • Jennifer

    “Byathrooms”, lol. Don’t worry, my dad says “frahg” instead of “frog”, “ruff” instead of “roof”, “fehier” instead of “fire”, etc.

  • Gopher

    “It is getting rich scamming their ignorant superstition believing fearful flock”
    That would make for a nice documentary of how corrupt focus on th efamily is.

  • valencia_o

    Out of all the religious fundamentalist alarmist organizations I would truly love to systematically dismantle, Focus on the Family is near the top of that list, most especially for their impact on my childhood, when they indirectly convinced my parents to pull me out of sex-ed because Planned Parenthood ran the program in our district.
    I really can’t believe the control they have over the religious right, in all of their centralized power.

  • Leah

    Did you read the latest statement regarding the next draft of ENDA that Joe Solmonese sent out? It said something along the lines of “the exclusion of transgender people was a one time thing” and “it won’t happen again” and “that’s not what the HRC stands for”. I don’t think that a very good excuse, Mr. Joe.