Alternatives to Military Escalation in Afghanistan

A bunch o’ peace organizations have created a coalition to push a nationwide day of reflection on and renunciation of military escalation in Afghanistan. I’m totally sympathetic to their cause, and always a fan of stepping back and considering non-military solutions, but also feel confused on this issue. As I’ve written previously in this space, I’m most concerned with what the nonviolent citizens of Afghanistan, especially women, want the U.S. to do.
Contrary to the tired old rhetoric about the U.S. soldiers swooping in and and “saving” poor, repressed Afghan women, there is a vital movement of Afghan women working to change their own communities and cultures. It is these women that I want to hear from, these women whose opinions I trust the most. And yet, it’s hard to figure out–all the way over here in my little Brooklyn hovel–who these women are and if there is any sort of consensus on what it is that they want from the U.S. When I was at the Code Pink Mother’s Day Vigil, an Afghani woman spoke about the horrific conditions that so many Afghan women are facing. After she left the stage, an interesting discussion took place between her and some of the Code Pink members in which she asserted that, contrary to the peace movement’s assumptions, Afghan women want the U.S. military to stay in Afghanistan. “They don’t feel safe,” she said. “The international presence makes them feel safer.”
Of course, she was just one woman. It would be reductive to expect all U.S. women to think unilaterally on such a complex issue (think presidential election 2008 and all the ridiculous “THE women vote” talk), so why would Afghani women be any different? This video, produced by Code Pink, features a dynamic woman who opposes military escalation:

So here I am, paralyzed by all the complexity. Anyone have bright ideas or trusted sources to contribute? If you’re convinced that military escalation is wrong, here are some things you can do about it.