Bachelor Parties and their portrayal on tv

Last night I was watching an episode of the tv show “Dexter”. I quite enjoy this show a lot and find it to be very intelligently written. However, last night I saw an episode with a segment that rubbed me the wrong way. In this particular episode, the main character, Dexter, is getting married and the token pervert at his work (not his best man) throws a Bachelor Party for him. In the show, it was just a given that there had to be strippers there. None of the men at this party were even that close to Dexter, and it was clear that this really wasn’t what he wanted anyway. There were a couple things that rubbed me the wrong way though. Mainly it was the female character’s reaction to the party. The party involved a lot of strippers (maybe 10?) in a room just standing around topless and giving lap dances to all the men in the room.

The next day, they show Dexter’s wife to be talking to him about it. She is basically all smiles and asks him if he felt tempted at all. To which he replied “very”, and she just smiled. You also have to assume that she had no party for herself. But she seemed happy as a clam that Dexter had this party and was “tempted”. (note: he was actually tempted by something different – but the wife did not know this). Then they cut to one of the other characters who was at the party. His girlfriend is acting ultra sweet. She makes him various foods that will help with his hangover. This girlfriend character was originally portrayed as being a very tough, strong woman who was not interested in dating anyone – ever. Then suddenly her boyfriend spends the night with strippers all around him and she’s super sweet and nursing her boyfriend’s hangover. She asks him what he did and he says that he was “good”.
In another earlier scene, they show Dexter’s perverted friend who organized the party. A stripper comes to the office to discuss the party with him and there’s a scene in which the pervy guy mentions that he’s surprised that the stripper looks so put together and doesn’t look “skanky”. He later starts dating her.
Why did I find this episode a little bit offensive? Several reasons:
1) I find it disturbing that it is assumed that a Bachelor party MUST involve either strippers or prostitutes – and this is glorified as being such innocent fun when this is often not the case.
2) I didn’t like how the female characters didn’t get to have any fun whatsoever, and they fully supported the men being catered to by strippers. They acted extra sweet and understanding – and the wife to be seemed “happy” that her husband was tempted! Also, the one strong female character suddenly became sappy and happy about her husbands questionable activities. Why did the guys get to have perverted fun, yet the girls got absolutely nothing?
3) The strippers were glorified. A point is made to mention how normal looking the one is – normal enough that one of the male characters starts dating her.
4) There were several older men in the stripper scene that were getting lap dances. Who the hell were these people? They were never mentioned before as friends of Dexter’s. Were they inserted into the scene just so that they could show more strippers and more skin?
Thoughts?