Posts Tagged Wednesday weigh in

By Maya Dusenbery • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh-in: Dirty Girl Masturbating Edition

As a long-time masturbation enthusiast and firm believer that respect for autonomous female desire could actually, like, save the world, this article on Dirty Girl Ministries, which aims to cure women of masturbation and porn “addictions,” makes me so sad.

As others have said, a group that believes all “sexual thought” (yes, even that momentary flash of what you’d like to do to Ryan Gosling!) outside of marital intercourse is “dirty” seems to be doing little more than further pathologizing the natural human desires that these women have become convinced are shameful by our sex-negative culture.

Which is the real shame. Masturbation has provided the longest, most consistently-satisfying sexual relationship of my short life. ...

As a long-time masturbation enthusiast and firm believer that respect for autonomous female desire could actually, like, save the world, this article on Dirty Girl Ministries, which aims to cure women of masturbation ...
By Lori Adelman • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh-In: Creative destruction edition

In the video for their first single off the new album “Watch the Throne”, Kanye and Jay-Z take a $350,000 car and cut it to pieces. Then they plop some models in the back and go joy-riding.

The car was on display in New York City this past weekend, and a few friends of mine went to see the thing. They said it was cool to look at (no touching allowed), but I’m more interested in another aspect of the well-received video: the last frame, which declares “The vehicle used in this video will be offered up for auction. Proceeds will be donated towards the East African drought disaster.”

The bidding is rumored to start at $280,000. Is this ...

In the video for their first single off the new album “Watch the Throne”, Kanye and Jay-Z take a $350,000 car and cut it to pieces. Then they plop some models in the back and go ...
By Lori Adelman • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh-In: Right to surf edition

Last year, Finland became the first country in the world to make internet access a basic right for its citizens.

Since then, the country had made good on its promise to keep Internet access affordable to all Finns, with more than 85 percent of Finns currently able to access to the Internet. This makes Finland rank among the world’s Top 10 most wired nations.

And this summer, a report by a United Nations special rapporteur declared that internet access is a basic human right. According to the report, disconnecting people from the Internet – which happened across the Middle East and North Africa during the protests this spring – constitutes a human rights violation and is thus against ...

Last year, Finland became the first country in the world to make internet access a basic right for its citizens.

Since then, the country had made good on its promise to keep Internet access affordable ...
By Lori Adelman • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh In: Birthdays and aging

Yesterday I turned 25. My birthday was lovely, with friends, family, and my Feministing crew really going all out to celebrate my day of birth. It was quite humbling and made me really grateful to have these people in my life. It also, being my 25th birthday, made me think about aging and ageism.

I would never have classified myself as someone who is particularly anxious or concerned about getting older. Most of the time, I feel good about it. As I’ve gotten older, I feel I’ve become wiser, more self aware, stable, more accomplished, and even more fashionable (in the sense that I’m able to wear more of what I like instead of following so many trends). ...

Yesterday I turned 25. My birthday was lovely, with friends, family, and my Feministing crew really going all out to celebrate my day of birth. It was quite humbling and made me really grateful ...
By Lori Adelman • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh-In: Coping with grief and trauma

A woman mourns after a deadly terrorist attack in Norway.

This week’s Wednesday weigh-in deals with grief, trauma, and how to cope.

76 are dead and dozens more injured after a devastating terrorist massacre took place in Norway on Friday. These numbers are hard for me to comprehend. The loss of life, the violence, the ensuing shock and fear, can feel pretty unbearable, especially when details have emerged demonstrating that the Norway killer hated women.

For this reason and more, this episode has struck a raw nerve with many feminists. As Jill pointed out on Feministe, he uses a lot of the same tropes as Men’s Rights Activists. Nona Willis Aronowitz has written a great piece for ...

A woman mourns after a deadly terrorist attack in Norway.

This week’s Wednesday weigh-in deals with grief, trauma, and how to cope.

76 are dead and dozens more injured after a devastating terrorist massacre took place in ...
By Miriam • 12 years ago

Wednesday Weigh-in: What is the least “lady-like” thing you’ve done?

This week’s Wednesday Weigh-in is inspired by Rep. Wasserman Schultz and the offensive email she received from Rep. West.

Being told you are not “acting like a lady” is a common insult thrown at women, often in an attempt to berate us or tell us we are not acting as women should act. These gender norms are very often ways to control and subjugate women.

So when we’re un-ladylike, we’re also acting defiantly, standing up to oppression, or just simply doing the right thing. We’re refusing to submit to narrow ideas of what it means to be a woman, in many respects. We’re talking back.

So in honor of Rep. Wasserman Schultz, what is the least “lady-like” thing you’ve ever done?

This week’s Wednesday Weigh-in is inspired by Rep. Wasserman Schultz and the offensive email she received from Rep. West.

Being told you are not “acting like a lady” is a common insult thrown at women, often in ...
By Lori Adelman • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh-In: Harry Potter edition

LIKE OMG YOU GUYS the last Harry Potter film is about to drop. The cultural reach of this dynasty is hard to overstate. Like everywhere else in the world, Harry Potter has had quite an effect on the Feministing crew.

Zach Wahls grew up reading the series, and so did our very own Chloe, who has written about her unabashed love for Ginny Weasley.

The final film has been (rightly) branded as marking the “end of an era”. Even the movie poster above cleverly uses the phrase “It all ends here.” Which got me thinking about the end of this cultural movement. A lot of people seem to be concerned with what will come next, and have urged ...

LIKE OMG YOU GUYS the last Harry Potter film is about to drop. The cultural reach of this dynasty is hard to overstate. Like everywhere else in the world, Harry Potter has had quite an ...
By Maya Dusenbery • 12 years ago

The Wednesday Weigh-In: When you want to bone your friends

It’s been far too long since we’ve discussed sex in the Wednesday Weigh-In. Over the Good Men Project, Hugo Schwyzer challenges the conventional wisdom that you can’t be friends with someone to whom you’re sexually attracted.

In part, he blames the assumption that desire makes platonic friendship impossible on the myth of uncontrollable male desire: “One of our great myths about men is that lust invariably cancels out empathy.” He also notes that many of us–men and women–are taught to “mythologize sexual desire” and “sexualize emotional intimacy.”

Those last two points really ring true for me. As someone who has been attracted to many friends and has often acted on that–to different degrees, with varying levels of damaging fallout, and conflicted ...

It’s been far too long since we’ve discussed sex in the Wednesday Weigh-In. Over the Good Men Project, Hugo Schwyzer challenges the conventional wisdom that you can’t be friends with someone to whom you’re sexually attracted.

In ...

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