Posts Tagged Sex

It's not you 27 wrong reasons you're single by Sara Eckel's book cover

Not Oprah’s Bookclub: It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single

I never buy e-books. Well, I never bought e-books until I read Sara Eckel’s New York Times article “The Hard-Won Lessons of the Solitary Years.” I normally avoid reading pieces that address adult singledom; most of them end up being fodder for a self-flagellation fest over some unknown collection of traits I must have that make me destined to die alone. Fortunately, Eckel’s piece provided a refreshing, honest view of some struggles of being a single woman for most of her life.

Despite framing the piece through her experience as a woman in her 40s who moved in with her boyfriend of six months–something that I could absolutely not relate to in any way–I was surprised to find ...

I never buy e-books. Well, I never bought e-books until I read Sara Eckel’s New York Times article “The Hard-Won Lessons of the Solitary Years.” I normally avoid reading pieces that address adult singledom; ...

Show's daughters with eyes, ears, or mouth covered by their father.

Lifetime’s “Preachers’ Daughters” Shows Everything That is Wrong with Purity Culture

This week, I came home to my sister watching a show On Demand, Preachers’ Daughters, that followed the lives of three different daughters who had one or both parents as pastors. As someone who grew up in a family that regularly attended a Pentecostal church, I was interested in seeing how Lifetime would choose to portray several families that are–presumably–very religious. Fully aware of the many shortfalls of reality TV in regards to sensationalism, sexism, race, etc., I still found myself watching the show long after my sister had left the room. Instead of a series showing different facets of the trials and tribulations teenagers face as the child of a pastor, I found myself watching nearly ...

This week, I came home to my sister watching a show On Demand, Preachers’ Daughters, that followed the lives of three different daughters who had one or both parents as pastors. As someone who ...

Send a Valentine’s Day e-card to your friend, ex, booty call, and more!

Looking for a Valentine’s Day card for a special someone in your life who doesn’t fit neatly into a little Hallmark-approved box in the romantic-industrial complex? You don’t say! Me too. Thankfully, everyone’s favorite sex ed site, Scarleteen, has got us covered.

Looking for a Valentine’s Day card for a special someone in your life who doesn’t fit neatly into a little Hallmark-approved box in the romantic-industrial complex? You don’t say! Me too. Thankfully, ...

screenshot of Lori Gottlieb's NYT magazine piece

Does a more equal marriage mean less sex? 5 alternative theories

Lori Gottlieb had a piece in the New York Times Magazine this weekend called “Does A More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?” By “equal marriage,” she means that “both spouses work and take care of the house and that the relationship is built on equal power, shared interests and friendship.” And aside from a few rather offensive generalizations about queer couples, she seems to mainly be talking about heterosexual relationships. The fact that her evidence is drawn mostly from anecdotes about her peers and her marriage therapy patients suggests they are mostly upper-middle class couples. Her answer to the question posed in the headline (which was surely written to make feminists like me click–ya ...

Lori Gottlieb had a piece in the New York Times Magazine this weekend called “Does A More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?” By “equal marriage,” she means that “both spouses ...

On texting, boundaries, and consent

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited to not only get my perk, but to also share it with others in hopes to spread the word about an organization that does admirable work. While I was excited, I do remember having a small bit of hesitation sharing an image of the perk — it is underwear, after all – but I felt that the people in my networks would see why I would share this photo, so I did. In short, I felt safe in doing so. Unfortunately, I ...

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited ...

Friday Feminist Fuck Yeah: Let’s talk about sex

I’m loving the #CostofShame story-telling project based around the new film Subjectified (trailer above). The documentary, created by Melissa Tapper Goldman, features in-depth, candid interviews with nine young women about their sex lives. 

I’m loving the #CostofShame story-telling project based around the new film Subjectified (trailer above). The documentary, created by Melissa Tapper Goldman, features in-depth, candid interviews with nine young women about their sex lives. 

Quick Hit: Interview with Fucking Trans Women author Mira Bellwether

Fucking Trans Women #0 is an incredible resource. It’s the only text I’ve ever come across that’s real about ways of having sex with a body like mine. There’s a lot of misconceptions about trans women’s bodies and sexualities. Zine author Mira Bellwether tears all that down simply by talking about sex in a grounded, useful way. Do you know what muffing is? I didn’t until I read this zine, and I’m a trans woman.

Kennedy Nadler interviewed Mira over at Autostraddle about the first issue of the zine. Here’s an excerpt:

What’s your briefest synopsis of Fucking Trans Women?

Fucking Trans Women is, at its heart, a how-to manual, and the finished product is good sex.
I wanted to stress ...

Fucking Trans Women #0 is an incredible resource. It’s the only text I’ve ever come across that’s real about ways of having sex with a body like mine. There’s a lot of misconceptions about trans women’s ...

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