Posts Tagged Sex

sex? yes. ok.

Rape culture is a contract we never actually signed

Rape culture is a contract we never actually signed. It’s a contract that says Hey, sure, you can totally say and do anything you want to my body — you deserve it! The contract is signed for us before we are born, and it’s waved in our faces throughout our lives. 

Rape culture is a contract we never actually signed. It’s a contract that says Hey, sure, you can totally say and do anything you want to my body — you deserve it! The contract is signed for ...

bride and groom

Quote of the Day: “Men used to marry to have sex” so they no longer have an incentive

Suzanne Venker is back at Fox News doing what she does best: blaming feminism for something everything. This time, it’s feminism’s fault that men supposedly don’t want to get married anymore. Why? Because there’s exactly “nothing in it for them.” 

Suzanne Venker is back at Fox News doing what she does best: blaming feminism for something everything. This time, it’s feminism’s fault that men supposedly don’t want to get ...

_MG_5330.jpg

Why Fifty Shades of Grey is important

Ed. note: This post was originally published on the Community site.

Fifty Shades of Grey premiered over the weekend, and I went to see it. Until that moment, I boycotted everything having to do with Christian and Anna for three reasons.

Ed. note: This post was originally published on the Community site.

Fifty Shades of Grey premiered over the weekend, and I went to see it. Until that moment, I boycotted everything having to do with Christian and Anna ...

Why we need to get over Clair Huxtable

Brittney Cooper has a provocative piece up over at the Crunk Feminist Collective about (symbolically) slaying the patriarch and matriarch of The Cosby Show clan, Cliff and Clair Huxtable, in light of resurfaced concerns over real life patriarch Bill Cosby’s rape accusations. There’s a lot there to make you reconsider just how warm and fuzzy and lovable the character of Cliff Huxtable was. But here I want to talk about Clair.

I was born into a world where the Huxtables were near-universally beloved and held as the gold standard of black romantic possibilities. Each was an ideal partner in the context of a heteronormative relationship. But Clair even more so.

Brittney Cooper has a provocative piece up over at the Crunk Feminist Collective about (symbolically) slaying the patriarch and matriarch of The Cosby Show clan, Cliff and Clair Huxtable, in light of resurfaced concerns ...

Why using lube can help you become a better feminist

My feminism is definitely an intersectional one. I discuss feminist issues as a way to educate, (un)learn, and dissect current cultural understandings of gender. Included in this is an acceptance of sex and sexuality as an endless realm of transformative possibility and opportunity for pleasure. I’ve always said: it’s not feminist if it doesn’t get you off. But so much of what we (Americans) think about sex is caught in limited, male-dominated, and frankly, fictional perceptions of how our bodies should work (because… porn). Our incompetent approach to sex education has done nothing to address one of the most widespread misconceptions, and consequences have been dire. But today I am willing to go where few feminists have gone in ...

My feminism is definitely an intersectional one. I discuss feminist issues as a way to educate, (un)learn, and dissect current cultural understandings of gender. Included in this is an acceptance of sex and sexuality as an ...

Chart of the Day: When does a woman owe you sex?

Apparently, there’s an emerging trend of dudes tracking when their partners refuse sex and whining about the “excuses” they use. Hoping to nip this one in the bud, Elizabeth Plank and Raquel Reichard put together a helpful chart to help you determine when a woman owes you sex:

Apparently, there’s an emerging trend of dudes tracking when their partners refuse sex and whining about the “excuses” they use. Hoping to nip this one in the bud, Elizabeth Plank and Raquel ...

Load More