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Fucking with Feministing: Non-Monogamy

We’re back with another installment of Fucking with Feministing! This is Feministing’s monthly sex advice column where we answer questions from you. I’m Sesali and I’ll be your resident sexpert with the help of our friends at the Center for Sex & Culture (CSC) who have partnered with us to make sure that we have smart and safe with our sexy.

We’re back with another installment of Fucking with Feministing! This is Feministing’s monthly sex advice column where we answer questions from you. I’m Sesali and I’ll be your resident sexpert with the help of our friends ...

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Friendship and Masculinity

Nothing gets my feminist tits in a more tangled twirl than corny, normative relationship advice. Not only are the same puritan, normative tropes used over and over again, they’re employed to answer the same tired questions. And employ the same tired narratives about gender, friendships, and sexuality.

Nothing gets my feminist tits in a more tangled twirl than corny, normative relationship advice. Not only are the same puritan, normative tropes used over and over again, they’re employed to answer the same tired questions. And ...

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“Listen up, ladies!” Fox News highlights some tips for snagging a husband

In case you thought that Fox News might be joining the rest of us here in the 21st century this year, this segment should remind you that some things never change. Whatever happens in 2015, you can count on Fox to partake in the long tradition of telling women how they’re failing at the most important quest of all: finding and keeping a husband. 

In case you thought that Fox News might be joining the rest of us here in the 21st century this year, this segment should remind you that some things never change. Whatever happens in 2015, you can count on ...

“Check your bitch,” side chicks, and dehumanizing other women

So I finally forced myself to catch up on Vh1’s Love & Hip Hop Atlanta. It was quite the task and left me grateful for the healthy relationships that I’m involved in. At the very least, I can write pieces like this with at least a little bit of authority. And good thing for me, the show never disappoints with the amount of problematic gender and relationship content to dissect.

Three seasons in, it’s safe to say that the show is pretty predictable. There hasn’t been a single episode that didn’t involve women in conflict over a mutual (male) love interest. While the smallest gesture or an inaudible shot fired can send female cast members into violent rages (that often involve ...

So I finally forced myself to catch up on Vh1’s Love & Hip Hop Atlanta. It was quite the task and left me grateful for the healthy relationships that I’m involved in. At the very least, I ...

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Does a more equal marriage mean less sex? 5 alternative theories

Lori Gottlieb had a piece in the New York Times Magazine this weekend called “Does A More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?” By “equal marriage,” she means that “both spouses work and take care of the house and that the relationship is built on equal power, shared interests and friendship.” And aside from a few rather offensive generalizations about queer couples, she seems to mainly be talking about heterosexual relationships. The fact that her evidence is drawn mostly from anecdotes about her peers and her marriage therapy patients suggests they are mostly upper-middle class couples. Her answer to the question posed in the headline (which was surely written to make feminists like me click–ya ...

Lori Gottlieb had a piece in the New York Times Magazine this weekend called “Does A More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?” By “equal marriage,” she means that “both spouses ...

On texting, boundaries, and consent

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited to not only get my perk, but to also share it with others in hopes to spread the word about an organization that does admirable work. While I was excited, I do remember having a small bit of hesitation sharing an image of the perk — it is underwear, after all – but I felt that the people in my networks would see why I would share this photo, so I did. In short, I felt safe in doing so. Unfortunately, I ...

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited ...

Scandal and respectability politics: Olivia Pope is not setting her race or gender back by having an affair

Popular reactions to Olivia Pope’s extramarital affair with white president Fitzgerald Grant reveal the (internal and external) racism of respectability politics and a sentiment of entitlement and control towards women of color’s sexuality.

Popular reactions to Olivia Pope’s extramarital affair with white president Fitzgerald Grant reveal the (internal and external) racism of respectability politics and a sentiment of entitlement and control towards women of color’s sexuality.

Girlfriend or “no” friend: Platonic relationships and sexist tropes

 

Platonic relationships between women have always been “suspect” in the general opinion. We can look back as far as the Salem witch trials, for example, to see exactly how dangerous it was in America for women to build sustainable relationships with one another without the supervision of men. Back then, women who were single, financially independent, involved in midwifery or other medical practices and/or spent too much time with other women were accused – and sometimes tried and convicted – of witchcraft. Even today, the myth persists that women are somehow not able to maintain healthy relationships (an idea that is fueled by the onslaught of reality television shows that show women hating each other). And if women have close ...

 

Platonic relationships between women have always been “suspect” in the general opinion. We can look back as far as the Salem witch trials, for example, to see exactly how dangerous it was in America for women to ...

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