Posts Tagged politics of respectability

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Boss Wives, Boss Chicks: Love & Hip Hop Atlanta’s sexual scripts and binaries

This season of Love & Hip Hop Atlanta was underwhelming to say the least. The character storylines were edited down to the most basic level, relying on petty gender and sexuality binaries (straight/gay, single/married, etc.).

This season of Love & Hip Hop Atlanta was underwhelming to say the least. The character storylines were edited down to the most basic level, relying on petty gender and sexuality binaries (straight/gay, single/married, etc.).

Let them live: Josephine Baker, Maya Angelou, and Rihanna as erotic and holistic

Last week when I wrote about women telling their boyfriends to “check their bitches” my ending bio included an exasperated “Maya Angelou didn’t die for this shit.” And I meant it. When it comes to black women, the “shit” I’m referring to  goes beyond the defense mechanisms of scorned lovers on Love & Hip Hop. The “shit” is the continually devaluing of black women and the rejection of their sexuality and bodily autonomy. She didn’t die for us to uphold false dichotomies about the character and worth of black women.

When Rihanna shut the CFDA Awards down in her dazzling sheer gown by designer Adam Shelman, I was expecting some thot shaming. We all know how everyone ...

Last week when I wrote about women telling their boyfriends to “check their bitches” my ending bio included an exasperated “Maya Angelou didn’t die for this shit.” And I meant it. When it comes to ...

Statement about my “Age & Consent” post

Editor’s note: Sesali made the decision to take down the original post. Here is a statement from her:

My original post, about my experience with consent was an excerpt from something on my personal blog. It was a mistake for me to think that everyone would be able to clearly define what is mine vs. what is Feministing’s.

Let me be even more clear than I am in the original post, which you can find if you are connected to me on any social media: my own personal experiences with consent at 13 are just that, mine. Thanks for letting me cook and engaging in these difficult conversations with me.

Editor’s note: Sesali made the decision to take down the original post. Here is a statement from her:

My original post, about my experience with consent was an excerpt from something on my personal blog. It ...

Quick hit: “The logic of stupid poor people”

I cannot recommend this piece by Tressie McMillan Cottom highly enough. It’s about why people who don’t have a lot of money spend money on luxury items. Spoiler alert: it’s because they are people, too, even though plenty of Americans struggle to remember that.

I do not know how much my mother spent on her camel colored cape or knee-high boots but I know that whatever she paid it returned in hard-to-measure dividends. How do you put a price on the double-take of a clerk at the welfare office who decides you might not be like those other trifling women in the waiting room and provides an extra bit of information about completing a ...

I cannot recommend this piece by Tressie McMillan Cottom highly enough. It’s about why people who don’t have a lot of money spend money on luxury items. Spoiler alert: it’s because they ...

Scandal and respectability politics: Olivia Pope is not setting her race or gender back by having an affair

Popular reactions to Olivia Pope’s extramarital affair with white president Fitzgerald Grant reveal the (internal and external) racism of respectability politics and a sentiment of entitlement and control towards women of color’s sexuality.

Popular reactions to Olivia Pope’s extramarital affair with white president Fitzgerald Grant reveal the (internal and external) racism of respectability politics and a sentiment of entitlement and control towards women of color’s sexuality.

Quick Hit: Race, respectability, and the murder of Jonathan Ferrell

Our own Mychal Denzel Smith has an excellent and, at some points, heartbreaking, piece on the murder of Jonathan Ferrell, the unarmed 24 year-old shot by police on Saturday for, essentially, looking for help while being black.

Mychal explains,

Ferrell had been a car crash and then ran to the nearest house to find help. The woman inside answered the door, believing it to be her husband on the other side. When she realized it wasn’t, she immediately closed the door, hit her panic alarm and callled 911. She reported a man attempting to break into her home. When the police arrived, Ferrell approached them, presumably still trying to get help, ...

Our own Mychal Denzel Smith has an excellent and, at some points, heartbreaking, piece on the murder of Jonathan Ferrell, the unarmed 24 year-old shot ...

The Wednesday Weigh-In: Sexting, scandal, and the politics of respectability

As if you weren’t hearing enough about what kinds of sex you should like to have, this article happened today. In “Weiner’s Women”, self-declared feminist and secular humanist author Susan Jacoby asks incredulously why “hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of women apparently derive gratification from exchanging sexual talk and pictures with strangers” and decries a “new double standard which pretends that only men are responsible for virtual sex that may prevent or wreck real-life relationships”.

Besides completely ignoring the possibility that women might actually get off on cyber sex, Jacoby’s argument seems to infantilize women as belonging to the men they engage with sexually, thereby promoting the very patriarchy she ostensibly seeks to dismantle. Picking up on this point and others, ...

As if you weren’t hearing enough about what kinds of sex you should like to have, this article happened today. In “Weiner’s Women”, self-declared feminist and secular humanist author Susan Jacoby asks incredulously why “hundreds ...