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Rape culture is a contract we never actually signed

Rape culture is a contract we never actually signed. It’s a contract that says Hey, sure, you can totally say and do anything you want to my body — you deserve it! The contract is signed for us before we are born, and it’s waved in our faces throughout our lives. 

Rape culture is a contract we never actually signed. It’s a contract that says Hey, sure, you can totally say and do anything you want to my body — you deserve it! The contract is signed for ...

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Getting out of our own way: How much is too much?

Ed. note: This post was originally published on the Community site.

One recent evening while taking the subway home, in the same week the reprehensible “slap her” video surfaced, I witnessed a minor but bothersome exchange between strangers. As two young women boarded, an older gentleman who had taken the only open seat at the previous stop, gestured to one, asking her to sit beside him in what was no more than scarcely a few inches of space.

Ed. note: This post was originally published on the Community site.

One recent evening while taking the subway home, in the same week the reprehensible “slap her” video surfaced, I witnessed a minor but bothersome exchange ...

“I don’t fucking care if you like it.”

Read this cathartic piece by Rebecca Traister — on that Esquire piece on 42-year-old women, on Jada and campus sexual assault, on Hobby Lobby and buffer zones, on jailed Tennessee mothers, and all the many large and small ways our fates “rest in the hands of empowered committees on the general value and status of womanhood in America.”

Read this cathartic piece by Rebecca Traister — on that Esquire piece on 42-year-old women, on Jada and campus sexual assault, on Hobby Lobby and buffer zones, on jailed Tennessee mothers, and all the many large and ...

Online Misogyny

The Population of Loss: What patriarchy does to us all

In writing about the frightening Isla Vista shooting this week, I focused on what the shooting dredged up online—a cavalcade of opinions and rants that show the hidden army of men willing to see women’s dead bodies as an acceptable sacrifice to their own lusts and entitlements. The number of people willing to tacitly justify what happened by suggesting, with terroristic logic, that women should give in to sexual advances we do not want, or indulge male entitlement at every turn in the name of forestalling more dead men and women, is horrifying.

In that article, I also drew a connection between what happened in Isla Vista and the suicide of women like Alyssa Funke, the young college student and ...

In writing about the frightening Isla Vista shooting this week, I focused on what the shooting dredged up online—a cavalcade of opinions and rants that show the hidden army of men willing to see women’s dead ...

The T.I. and Floyd Mayweather fight for patriarchy at Fatburger

T.I. got into a fight. There’s absolutely nothing surprising about that as a news item.

T.I. got into a fight with boxing champion Floyd Mayweather, Jr. Now, my interest is piqued.

T.I. got into a fight with boxing champion Floyd Mayweather, Jr. supposedly because Tiny, T.I.’s wife, posted pictures to Instagram after attending Mayweather’s most recent fight. In one photo, Tiny is posing with a group of women behind Mayweather, and in another she’s standing with his daughter. T.I. found the pictures disrespectful — and told Mayweather so. Mayweather’s response to T.I.: “Control your bitch.” Now I’m upset. 

T.I. got into a fight. There’s absolutely nothing surprising about that as a news item.

T.I. got into a fight with boxing champion Floyd Mayweather, Jr. Now, my interest is piqued.

T.I. got into a fight with ...

Patriarchy’s Skeleton: What Avery Edison’s Case Reveals about Borders and Prisons

As if the world needed a timely reminder of why independent social media retains paramount importance, comedienne Avery Edison was taken into custody by Canadian authorities at Toronto Pearson International Airport and drawn into the maw of impersonally exercised state power.

And yet, that power was also, on another level, executed in an avowedly personal way.

As if the world needed a timely reminder of why independent social media retains paramount importance, comedienne Avery Edison was taken into custody by Canadian authorities at Toronto Pearson International Airport and drawn into ...

NY Times columnist is very excited other people get paternalistic when they have daughters, too

In an op-ed in this Sunday’s New York Times, Ross Douthat gets the boring columnist’s version of giddy about data that suggests having daughters might make people more conservative:

In an op-ed in this Sunday’s New York Times, Ross Douthat gets the boring columnist’s version of giddy about data that suggests having daughters might make people more conservative:

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