Posts Tagged Motherhood

Quick Hit: 10 things I want my daughter to know before she turns 10

I usually shy away from lists like this out of fear that they are extremely heteronormative, fat-shaming, sexist, etc. But this one… This one was beautiful and perfect. Not only did it remind me of the things I’d like to share with my daughter one day, but it made me think of things I wish my mom shared with me.

I’m particularly fond of numbers 1, 6 & 9.

1. It is not your job to keep the people you love happy.  Not me, not Daddy, not your brother, not your friends.  I promise, it’s not.  The hard truth is that you can’t, anyway.”

6. Reading is essential.  It is the central leisure-time joy of my life, as you know.  I am immensely ...

I usually shy away from lists like this out of fear that they are extremely heteronormative, fat-shaming, sexist, etc. But this one… This one was beautiful and perfect. Not only did it remind me of the ...

What’s really driving our interest in celebrity pregnancies?

I all but ignored the recent confirmation and (social)media frenzy over Kate Middleton’s pregnancy. For one, I’ve never really been into princesses; and for two, she is only one of 208 million women that will become pregnant this year alone. She’s not exactly trendsetting.

But I thought about it a little more when I came across this witty article in HuffPo, detailing the 9 most scrutinized uteri in recent history. They do a great job of highlighting the fat shaming and gender policing that the public inflicts on celebrities surrounding their fertility. We have historically used motherhood as a way to measure and define the worth of women. And only in pregnancy do we allow women ...

I all but ignored the recent confirmation and (social)media frenzy over Kate Middleton’s pregnancy. For one, I’ve never really been into princesses; and for two, she is only one of 208 million women ...

Anne-Marie Slaughter websplosion: Response roundup on “Having It All” (and tweet chat!)

We can guess that all of you have read this. You can probably guess that all of us here at Feministing have a ton to say about the piece. This is why we’ll be weighing into Women’s Media Center #sheparty Tweet chat today at 3pm ET on the article and subsequent poopstorm that’s come out of it. So check it (and us!) out! In the meantime, we thought we’d give a roundup of some interesting responses we’ve seen on the piece.

We can guess that all of you have read this. You can probably guess that all of us here at Feministing have a ton to say about the piece. This is why we’ll be weighing ...

Growing up, growing old, and getting pierced

When I was fifteen, I got my belly button pierced.

At the time, I really wanted to be a dancer. I was dancing four or five days a week, at an open studio where there were often professional dancers in my classes. When I looked around the room at the best dancers, the ones who I knew were doing commercial work, they all had one thing in common: they had navel piercings.

So I begged my parents to let me do it too. I whinged, and wheedled, and cajoled, and complained. I tried the door-in-the-face technique, saying that I wanted to get a tattoo, so that a mere navel piercing would seem reasonable by comparison.

Eventually, some time around October, they yielded ...

When I was fifteen, I got my belly button pierced.

At the time, I really wanted to be a dancer. I was dancing four or five days a week, at an open studio where there were often ...

Mama’s Day cards for the stereotype smashing mothers in your life

Mother’s Day originated as an anti-war event, but it’s been turned into a way to push a normative idea of motherhood – you know, the one you see in that isle of Hallmark cards every year. The Strong Families campaign has put together a collection of cards for mamas who don’t fit the image of a Betty Draper housewife in a perfect nuclear family. The goal of the campaign is to acknowledge the moms who are erased in the commercialized version of Mother’s Day – immigrant moms, queer moms, trans moms, moms of color, single moms, moms parenting in collectives, working moms – the list goes on.

From the organizers:

The cards were designed by eight fantastic artists, including ...

Mother’s Day originated as an anti-war event, but it’s been turned into a way to push a normative idea of motherhood – you know, the one you see in that isle of Hallmark cards every year. ...

Homeless mom sentenced to 5 years in prison for “stealing” son’s education

A mother has been arrested and sentenced to jail time for sending her five year old son to a school district where she had no permanent residence.

I can barely believe I’m having to type this sentence again. In a post just last year, I wrote about a woman in Ohio who was convicted of lying about where she lived in order to get her daughters into a better school district and was sentenced to 10 days in county jail, three years of probation, community service, and payment of up to $30,000 in back tuition she could be required to pay the school. At the time, I (morbidly) joked that I’m surprised they didn’t hit her with life in prison ...

A mother has been arrested and sentenced to jail time for sending her five year old son to a school district where she had no permanent residence.

I can barely believe I’m having to type this sentence again. ...

This is what a mother looks like

Our own Jessica Valenti wrote an incredibly brave and powerful piece for the Guardian on the premature birth of her daughter (and my niece) Layla Sorella, and the complex emotional journey that followed.

While personal, it’s one that any mother or parent could relate to around the societal pressures to love your child completely and unconditionally, when it’s just not always that simple. She says:

The truth is that relationships are nuanced. There’s no “natural” way to love a child. There’s no measurement of adoration that will gauge what’s in our hearts and minds. And yet, the expectation looms large. Even today, with Layla pudgy and happy and starting to say words such as “kitty” and ...

Our own Jessica Valenti wrote an incredibly brave and powerful piece for the Guardian on the premature birth of her daughter (and my niece) Layla Sorella, and the complex emotional journey that followed.

While personal, it’s ...

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