Posts Tagged Motherhood

What we don’t talk about when we talk about Mommy Wars

I should begin by saying that I’m not a mother. I was raised by a single black mother; and our narrative isn’t unlike the stories of working class single mothers nationwide. One of struggle, sacrifices, and compromise. A complex and harrowing navigation of the public safety net and stone-faced determination in defiance to shaming by our culture of women, children and families in need. These sacrifices sent me to college.

When I consider how class-conscious discussions of work/life balance operates in our spaces online and television, it is often to the absence of including voices of working class women. For some reason over the last decade or so, I thought perhaps things would’ve balanced out already, that we’d reach equilibrium in ...

I should begin by saying that I’m not a mother. I was raised by a single black mother; and our narrative isn’t unlike the stories of working class single mothers nationwide. One of struggle, sacrifices, and compromise. ...

Quick Hit: On raising feminist sons

I really like this piece by Shannon Brugh over at Rattle & Pen on the challenges of raising sons in a culture that forces kids into gender boxes and, though it claims to be equal, is still decidedly not.

Raising boys in a society that claims to be equal is not easy. It’s supposed to be equal, but of course, it’s not. As much as many of us would like to believe that it is, it’s not even close. James Brown was right. It is a man’s world. So, how do I keep my boys from perpetuating this problem?

This is where I have to get creative. Parenting requires a certain amount of creativity as it is. But teaching boys who already live in a world ...

I really like this piece by Shannon Brugh over at Rattle & Pen on the challenges of raising sons in a culture that forces kids into gender boxes and, though it claims to be equal, is still decidedly not.

Raising ...

“Let’s show our girls the REAL women they can be.”

When photographer Jamie Moore was thinking about marking her daughter Emma’s fifth birthday with a photo shoot, she wanted to get more creative than a set of princess photos. She explains:

It started me thinking about all the REAL women for my daughter to know about and look up too, REAL women who without ever meeting Emma have changed her life for the better. My daughter wasn’t born into royalty, but she was born into a country where she can now vote, become a doctor, a pilot, an astronaut, or even President if she wants and that’s what REALLY matters. I wanted her to know the value of these amazing women who had gone against everything ...

When photographer Jamie Moore was thinking about marking her daughter Emma’s fifth birthday with a photo shoot, she wanted to get more creative than a set of princess photos. She explains:

It started ...

For the mamas who don’t get love on Mother’s Day

Ed. note: This is a guest post by Rebecca Trotzky-Sirr. It is part of the Strong Families Mama’s Day Our Way celebration. You can read more posts in the series on the Strong Families blogStrong Families is a national initiative led by Forward Together. Our goal is to change the way people think, act and talk about families. Rebecca’s bio is after the jump.

“No one threw me a baby shower. No one said congratulations. My pregnancy was not celebrated. My child’s birth was seen as a failure,” Jayme, a strong teenage mother, shared with me during a checkup for her healthy young baby. I sympathized with her as a family doctor and as a young mother myself. What ...

Ed. note: This is a guest post by Rebecca Trotzky-Sirr. It is part of the Strong Families Mama’s Day Our Way celebration. You can read more posts in the series on the Strong Families blogStrong ...

Quick Hit: Stacia L. Brown’s advocacy for the voices of single mothers

Writer Stacia L. Brown is changing the conversation around single motherhood within communities of color and beyond. Brown rightly highlights the glaring omission in recent trend pieces reporting exploring the rise of single parenting in America.

“The latest numbers on unmarried parenting are out. The National Marriage Project reports that 58 percent of first births in lower-middle-class households and 40 percent of all U.S. births are to unwed mothers. Like clockwork, society has turned its collective gaze to the social and economic crises facing the single mother. And like clockwork, we mothers these statistics represent brace ourselves for the public’s moral scrutiny and fiscal concern. We become like specters; we may be at the center of national conversation, ...

Writer Stacia L. Brown is changing the conversation around single motherhood within communities of color and beyond. Brown rightly highlights the glaring omission in recent trend pieces reporting exploring the rise of single parenting in ...

New Favorite Tumblr: “Meet My Immigrant Mom”

Launched by the Domestic Workers Alliance, this really sweet Tumblr is filled with photos of immigrant mothers with notes of appreciation written by their children. Meet the mom pictured above:

My mother immigrated from Burma as a seamstress and spent her life sewing and making things from curtains to sofas. She worked 3 jobs all her life and never stopped working from early morning to late into the night. I remember her always sewing downstairs late into the night and never taking vacation or saying no to a job. She also cooked the best Burmese/ Chinese food and would make seven course meals if we had friends over.

Read the rest here. Got an inspiring immigrant mom yourself?

Launched by the Domestic Workers Alliance, this really sweet Tumblr is filled with photos of immigrant mothers with notes of appreciation written by their children. Meet the mom pictured above:

My mother immigrated from Burma as ...

Quick Hit: 10 things I want my daughter to know before she turns 10

I usually shy away from lists like this out of fear that they are extremely heteronormative, fat-shaming, sexist, etc. But this one… This one was beautiful and perfect. Not only did it remind me of the things I’d like to share with my daughter one day, but it made me think of things I wish my mom shared with me.

I’m particularly fond of numbers 1, 6 & 9.

1. It is not your job to keep the people you love happy.  Not me, not Daddy, not your brother, not your friends.  I promise, it’s not.  The hard truth is that you can’t, anyway.”

6. Reading is essential.  It is the central leisure-time joy of my life, as you know.  I am immensely ...

I usually shy away from lists like this out of fear that they are extremely heteronormative, fat-shaming, sexist, etc. But this one… This one was beautiful and perfect. Not only did it remind me of the ...

What’s really driving our interest in celebrity pregnancies?

I all but ignored the recent confirmation and (social)media frenzy over Kate Middleton’s pregnancy. For one, I’ve never really been into princesses; and for two, she is only one of 208 million women that will become pregnant this year alone. She’s not exactly trendsetting.

But I thought about it a little more when I came across this witty article in HuffPo, detailing the 9 most scrutinized uteri in recent history. They do a great job of highlighting the fat shaming and gender policing that the public inflicts on celebrities surrounding their fertility. We have historically used motherhood as a way to measure and define the worth of women. And only in pregnancy do we allow women ...

I all but ignored the recent confirmation and (social)media frenzy over Kate Middleton’s pregnancy. For one, I’ve never really been into princesses; and for two, she is only one of 208 million women ...

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