Posts Tagged Masculinity

Dear depression and self-loathing: Fuck you

I feel as though I should start this by saying, through all his faults, I do love my father. Truly. OK, now to the story.

I’ve been lying to people for weeks. No “big” lies, but not exactly “little” lies either. But lies most of us tell. They ask, “How are you?” and I respond, “I’m doing aight.” I’m not. I’m not aight. I’m the furthest thing from it.

I should have caught it earlier. The weird sleep patterns, the lack of appetite, the increased alcohol consumption, the fatigue, the lack of motivation to do even the things I enjoy. Depression. I’ve been here so many times before. I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder and depression back in 2008, after spending ...

I feel as though I should start this by saying, through all his faults, I do love my father. Truly. OK, now to the story.

I’ve been lying to people for weeks. No “big” lies, but not ...

I love Outkast. I hate misogyny.

I love Outkast. Everyone should. I don’t trust people who don’t love Outkast. If you don’t love Outkast, stop reading this. You aren’t welcome here.

(I’m not really kidding!)

So I, like many others, was incredibly excited to find out that the duo of Andre 3000 and Big Boi would reunite this spring/summer, after not performing on stage together in 10 years, to play Coachella. I was highly disappointed that I’m too poor to be able to actually go to Coachella and see them, but modern technology is great in that huge events like this get livestreamed on the interwebs and then saved for posterity.

I watched. Not live, but the next day. I got excited. I danced ...

I love Outkast. Everyone should. I don’t trust people who don’t love Outkast. If you don’t love Outkast, stop reading this. You aren’t welcome here.

(I’m not really kidding!)

So I, like many others, ...

Weekly Feminist Reader

Sex education in Mississippi is abysmal.

In Texas, the return of the back-alley abortion.

The three men convicted in the gang rape of the Mumbai photojournalist have been sentenced to death.

Where are the stories about female war veterans?

Young black musicians changing the face of classical music.

Sex education in Mississippi is abysmal.

In Texas, the return of the back-alley abortion.

The three men convicted in the gang rape of the Mumbai photojournalist have been sentenced to death.

Where are the ...

Chart of the Day: There’s even a gender wage gap in babysitting

I honestly can’t decide what pisses me off more–the fact that less than 3 percent of babysitters are men or that the few who are earn more than their female counterparts. Via The Atlantic:

As the Priceonomics blog, which compiled the data, points out, it’s pretty amazing that male babysitters out-earn women considering how much cultural bias there is against them. As one mom in a parenting forum said, “I personally would have a hard time hiring a male babysitter for obvious reasons.” Right, because obviously guys couldn’t possibly be good caretakers. It’s not like they’re equally likely to have grown up with younger siblings or anything. And thank god, we don’t let guys become dads responsible for parenting their own children…Oh wait. And yet! “Even in ...

I honestly can’t decide what pisses me off more–the fact that less than 3 percent of babysitters are men or that the few who are earn more than their female counterparts. Via The Atlantic:

As the Priceonomics blog, ...

Feministing Jamz: Dancing our way to the revolution with Gordon Voidwell

Since releasing his Voided Checks mixtape in 2009, Gordon Voidwell  – born Will Johnson – has gotten some really positive attention and approximately one million comparisons to Prince. His latest mixtape, Bad Études, has continued to elicit these comparisons, but Voidwell himself would rather describe it as a postmodernist deconstruction of late ’80s R&B and 98.7 KissFM’s midnight mixes, “for the most part.” Call it whatever you will – this mixtape is full of incredibly catchy tunes that I danced to while making giant pots of soup to warm my freezing ass through all of February.

Though you might start listening to Gordon Voidwell because of his infectious jams, you’ll notice pretty quickly just ...

Since releasing his Voided Checks mixtape in 2009, Gordon Voidwell  – born Will Johnson – has gotten some really positive attention and approximately one million comparisons to Prince. His latest mixtape, Bad Études, has ...

#ProFeministMenShould: A Hangout on pro-feminist men in the blogosphere

In the spirit of International Women’s Day’s 2014 theme, “Inspiring Change,” social justice activists from diverse backgrounds came together this past Saturday to engage in critical dialogue around pro-feminist men and how more men can engage the movement to unlearn patriarchy, stand in solidarity with women, and collectively advocate for social change and gender equality. 

In the spirit of International Women’s Day’s 2014 theme, “Inspiring Change,” social justice activists from diverse backgrounds came together this past Saturday to engage in critical dialogue around pro-feminist men and how more men ...

He’s got a big ego — that’s really easily bruised

It’s a simple common courtesy: two people walk toward a door, whoever gets there first holds the door open for the person. Truly one of the most mundane acts we perform as human beings and should have little effect on our ongoing existential crises.

Unless you’re a man, of course.

A study conducted by researchers at Purdue University found that holding a door open for men lowers their self-esteem and self-confidence, as compared to men who open doors for themselves. Yes, you read that correctly. If you hold the door open for man, chances are he feels less confident in himself. Holding a door open for a man could lead to a bout of self-loathing and despair, as he has been ...

It’s a simple common courtesy: two people walk toward a door, whoever gets there first holds the door open for the person. Truly one of the most mundane acts we perform as human beings and should have ...

On space, trains and the performance of masculinity

I just moved to New York City three months ago. I love it here. It sounds trite, cliché, corny and all that stuff to say, but it’s true: it’s everything I imagined it to be and more. I like that there’s always something going on and it’s never more than train ride away.

That’s something I’ve had to get used to, riding the train. I grew up in a suburb in southeast Virginia, where everything is only accessible by car. I hate driving. Some people get a thrill from it all, but it requires way too much mental energy I feel could be better put to use on solving life’s great mysteries, like how to end patriarchy or why the cartoon ...

I just moved to New York City three months ago. I love it here. It sounds trite, cliché, corny and all that stuff to say, but it’s true: it’s everything I imagined it to be and more. ...

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