Posts Tagged love

Monday morning awesome: relationship advice from a Feministing reader

Danya Ensing is a 19-year-old student at the Ontario College of Art and Design in Toronto, and a Feministing reader. Last week, she posted this video over on the Community blog, and I thought it was so great that I wanted all our readers to watch it.

Danya didn’t realize she was a feminist until a few years ago, but once she did, she started seeing gender everywhere. “What got me really interested in feminism was the way I felt as a single, young woman when I moved to Toronto. I noticed in a big city the way that men looked at women (myself included) on the street, the comments that were sometimes made, and overall the way that I, ...

Danya Ensing is a 19-year-old student at the Ontario College of Art and Design in Toronto, and a Feministing reader. Last week, she posted this video over on the Community blog, and I thought it was ...

Occupy Valentine’s Day

You probably didn’t notice, because like me, you probably don’t care that much, but Valentine’s Day is around the corner. My position on Valentine’s Day has always been pretty mixed–it bothers my cool sensibilities because I think it is corny, but i’m also a little corny and I like celebrating and expressing love and the politics it represents leave a lot to be desired. Being a single lady on the holiday that commemorates heteronormativity in it’s purest form, has not always been easy. It’s hard to feel OK about a holiday that is so limiting in it’s purview of the appropriate and authentic ways to express love.

So this year in an effort to push the bounds of that exclusivity ...

You probably didn’t notice, because like me, you probably don’t care that much, but Valentine’s Day is around the corner. My position on Valentine’s Day has always been pretty mixed–it bothers my cool sensibilities because I ...

Breaking: Single women are not tragic, lonely, were-witches

OK, I haven’t really heard any one call single ladies were-witches, but if you believe we are tragic, scary, cat hoarders–then I have to wonder what else you think is true.

The life and times of single ladies is the subject of constant speculation. You would think there is an actual news story there seeing as how much mainstream news coverage it gets–but there isn’t. Most stories about single women people are full of stereotypes, sexism, unrealistic expectations and the assumption that everyone is looking to get marry and make baby. Even if they continually say they are not or they just don’t care.

The problem with a world that relies on the worst dating advice imaginable is that even ...

OK, I haven’t really heard any one call single ladies were-witches, but if you believe we are tragic, scary, cat hoarders–then I have to wonder what else you think is true.

The life and times of single ladies ...

Friday Feminist Fuck Yeah: Courtney Martin

As she announced earlier this week, Courtney has ended her time as an Editor here at Feministing. She will be missed by our readers and by the feminist blogosphere at large; as Jill at Feministe said on Wednesday, “Courtney is, basically, a big ol’ hippie with a heart of gold, who writes from a place of love — and so consistently putting love first is extremely difficult to do, especially in feminist spaces.”

I wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for Courtney. My Feministing origin story – my entire feminist writer origin story, in fact – starts with her.

In the spring of 2008, I was a college junior and the president of the Eating Concerns ...

As she announced earlier this week, Courtney has ended her time as an Editor here at Feministing. She will be missed by our readers and by the feminist blogosphere at large; as Jill ...

Will today be the day, New York?

There is a lot of buzz in the New York area this morning about the possibility of getting marriage equality by day’s end. My fingers are certainly crossed (which, yes, makes it hard to type). New York is bigger by population than previous legalizing states combined, so the number of Americans that live with marriage equality would more than double.

In honor of our hopes, check Mayor Bloomberg’s important speech, grounding this issue in a long and important history, from a few weeks ago at Cooper Union:

There is a lot of buzz in the New York area this morning about the possibility of getting marriage equality by day’s end. My fingers are certainly crossed (which, yes, makes it hard to type). New York ...

Feminism, once again, blamed for, well, everything

[Ed note: Lori and Courtney don’t like to take on pop-psychology by themselves. It gives them the heeby jeebies, and runs a high risk of inducing anger and/or exasperation. So they decided to team up to debunk this faulty logic. The result is the below post. Enjoy.]

Courtney: While blatantly hocking his new book, Dr. Ogi Ogas (ah, yes, also famed game show contestant and Homeland Security consultant), offers a highly original and nuanced argument: feminism is ruining our love lives. We’ve never heard that before.

In any case, Ogi (I have to use his first name because it’s just too much fun), is arguing that women and men are both ...

[Ed note: Lori and Courtney don’t like to take on pop-psychology by themselves. It gives them the heeby jeebies, and runs a high risk of inducing anger and/or exasperation. So they decided to team up ...

Anne of Green Gables: radical love activist

As I mentioned a few weeks ago, I’m currently re-reading the Anne of Green Gables series, by Lucy Maud Montgomery (on my last trip home to Sydney, I read the entire Twilight series, so this is a vast improvement). I’m about half-way through Anne of the Island, the third book. Anne is eighteen and has spent the last two years teaching at the little Avonlea schoolhouse. Now, she’s leaving Avonlea to go to college, the first Avonlea girl to do so. Her best friend Diana, who is staying in Avonlea, is engaged, and Anne is going off to college with two young Avonlea men, both of whom are vying for her affections.

The more I read of Anne, the more ...

As I mentioned a few weeks ago, I’m currently re-reading the Anne of Green Gables series, by Lucy Maud Montgomery (on my last trip home to Sydney, I read the entire Twilight series, so this is ...

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