Posts Tagged intimate partner violence

Why teaching “respect” won’t end violence against women

Another professional athlete has been arrested for hitting a woman. This time it’s NBA player Greg Oden, who punched his former girlfriend in the face. The police report described “blood, swelling to the nose, lacerations to the forehead and nose area” on the woman’s the face. Oden was apparently calm and cooperative, telling the police “I was wrong, and I know what has to happen.” And blah blah blah, blah blah blah.

Look. The details change, but the story remains the same: violence against women is an epidemic we refuse to take seriously. Sure, Oden is “taking responsibility” for what he did. Congratulations to him. But he still did it. He still punched a woman in the ...

Another professional athlete has been arrested for hitting a woman. This time it’s NBA player Greg Oden, who punched his former girlfriend in the face. The police report described “blood, swelling to the ...

Quick hit: When intimate partner violence and anti-choice violence collide

When a Washington State abortion clinic received a bomb threat earlier this year, they figured it was anti-choice violence, trying to shut the clinic down to stop people from having abortions. In fact, it was one man trying to stop one woman – his partner – from having an abortion. It was intimate partner violence on a public stage. In The Seattle Times, Mercedes Sanchez, communications and education director at the clinic, writes about the too-rarely-discussed connection between abusive relationships and pregnancy:

Pregnancy is often the focus of reproductive coercion. Abusers may see pregnancy as a way to further control a woman and to establish a lifetime connection. As reported by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, one ...

When a Washington State abortion clinic received a bomb threat earlier this year, they figured it was anti-choice violence, trying to shut the clinic down to stop people from having abortions. In fact, it was one man ...

Weekly Feminist Reader

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How to check your gender bias.

Frozen embryos: do you know where your children are?

“Being a musician/rockstar/whatever is pretty fucking impossible.”

Fighting the wrong mommy wars.

“I’m a Girl.”

On the uphill battle for women and girls in STEM.

“Imagine a woman actively in labor. Now imagine her handcuffed.”

Wendy Davis is in the building, y’all.

The limits of the “female-fronted” band.

Presumed incompetent.

The grossest advertising strategy of all time.

“I was a domestic violence counselor and still ended up in an abusive relationship.”

The cost of Gandhi’s “experiments.”

Was the

Where to get baby food and formula during the shutdown.

How to check your gender bias.

Frozen embryos: do you know where your children are?

“Being a musician/rockstar/whatever is pretty fucking ...

Associated Press headline erases partner rape

“Study: 1 in 10 men in parts of Asia have raped”

That’s the original Associated Press headline for an article about a study that found that about 1 in 4 men in Bangladesh, China, Cambodia, Indonesia, Sri Lanka and Papua New Guinea committed rape, as Slate reports. The 1 in 10 number refers specifically to stranger rape. So that headline’s wrong. And it suggests the AP doesn’t consider rape by an intimate partner to be rape.

The original article does mention the actual stats, but frames them in a way that advances the notion that partner rape numbers are in addition to actual rape statistics:

About 1 in 10 men in some parts of Asia admitted raping a woman who was not their ...

“Study: 1 in 10 men in parts of Asia have raped”

That’s the original Associated Press headline for an article about a study that found that about 1 in 4 men in Bangladesh, China, Cambodia, Indonesia, Sri Lanka and ...

Here’s “The Ex” shooting target that Zombie Industries sells

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At the National Rifle Association convention this past weekend, vendor Zombie Industries was asked to remove a shooting target that looks like President Obama. The company sells more than a dozen mannequins that “bleed” when shot, and as it states on its website, “to discriminate against Women by not having them represented in our product selection would be just plain sexist.” So here’s the the one female mannequin they sell: It is called “The Ex.”

Between 30 and 40 percent of women murdered in the US each year are killed by a current or former intimate partner. In over half of these cases, the perpetrator used a gun. Put another way: Of women killed with guns, almost ...

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At the National Rifle Association convention this past weekend, vendor Zombie Industries was asked to remove a shooting target that looks like President Obama. The company sells more than a dozen mannequins that “bleed” when shot, and ...

“Beer should be like violence: domestic”

The bad news: Apparently, nobody at the Roots Bistro in Houston, Texas thought there was anything wrong with posting this sign over the weekend.

The good news: The internet instantly taught them otherwise and the sign was taken down within 10 minutes.

Even more good news: The restaurant’s manager seemed sincerely apologetic: “Everyone makes mistakes. We completely deserved the backlash, and I can’t be mad at anyone but myself.”

And some more bad news: But then they put up a weirdly defensive sign saying, “Seriously, focus your energy on equal rights.”

The bad news: Apparently, nobody at the Roots Bistro in Houston, Texas thought there was anything wrong with posting this sign over the weekend.

The good news: The internet instantly taught them otherwise and ...

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A tipping point on gender-based violence in South Africa?

A number of recent articles have suggested that February 2013 will go down in history as the month when South Africa finally began an earnest fight against epidemic intimate partner and gender-based violence. Femicide is no rare occurrence in the country, but in the last three weeks two particularly brutal, high-profile murders have captured media attention and galvanized activists.

The two late victims, Reeva Steenkamp and Anene Booysen, represent two very different parts of South African society: Steenkamp was a white model and law school graduate famously attached to a beloved Olympic athlete; 17-year-old Booysen was black, and few had heard her name while she was still alive.

The proximity of their murders—Steenkamp posted a ...

A number of recent articles have suggested that February 2013 will go down in history as the month when South Africa finally began an earnest fight against epidemic intimate partner and ...

Prudence, dear

Dear Prudence: How should I respond to your rape denialism?

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Dear Prudence,

I have this problem I’m hoping you can help me with. I’m a 22-year-old feminist blogger and sometimes I read this Slate advice column by Emily Yoffe—you, actually—who just wrote yet another column dismissing a woman’s alleged rape because of her drinking. What should I do?

Last week, you published a letter from a young woman whose roommate was “very upset” upon waking up, after a night out drinking, with one of the writer’s coworkers and no memory of the encounter. The friend seeking your advice seems skeptical and unsupportive; given her relationship with both parties, she would find herself in a much more comfortable position if the whole ...

*Trigger warning*

Dear Prudence,

I have this problem I’m hoping you can help me with. I’m a 22-year-old feminist blogger and sometimes I read this Slate advice column by Emily Yoffe—you, actually—who ...

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