Posts Tagged Harassment

On Being a Chef, a Woman, and the Need for Safe Spaces

Every once in a while I come across an article on the internet about female chefs. A quick Google search for ‘female chef’ pulls up sparse results, usually a year or more between each entry. If you search ‘female pastry chef’ (more relevant to me because I AM one), you find still less. The articles that DO come up are very often written about a chef or chefs, but not by the chef.

Some background on me: I am a pastry chef – currently the assistant to the head pastry chef of where I work, and that’s not a bad place to be. I have also worked on occasion as a line cook, a prep cook, and off and on ...

Every once in a while I come across an article on the internet about female chefs. A quick Google search for ‘female chef’ pulls up sparse results, usually a year or more between each entry. If you ...

Lipstain with cross out and words no kissing

Queer couple forced to leave Raleigh NC shopping center after kiss

Via Pam’s House Blend

In addition to the ridiculousness of this, I had to blog it because a) I grew up half an hour from this spot and have been there many times and b) the folks involved are big activists in the Southern LGBTQ movement.

A Triangle-area social justice group is planning to demonstrate at the Cameron Village shopping center this weekend after its co-director and partner were booted from the premises after showing signs of “gentle affection.”

SONG leader Caitlin Breedlove says she and her partner had just finished eating at The Flying Biscuit on Thursday afternoon when they went to sit outside. There, they shared a brief kiss after which a security guard approached ...

Via Pam’s House Blend

In addition to the ridiculousness of this, I had to blog it because a) I grew up half an hour from this spot and have been there many times and b) the folks ...

Why do strange men think they’re allowed to touch me?

One morning last week I was in line at Starbucks, preparing for the long work day ahead. As I stood in line, a man walked through the café, heading for the seating area in the back. He stopped when he reached me, placed a hand on my arm, leaned in close and said, “You’re so beautiful.” I gave him the filthiest look I could muster – now a reflex after over a year of dealing with New York City street harassment – and stepped up to the register to order my drink. The barista handed it over, and as I walked over to add milk and sugar, I could feel myself becoming angry. I stirred the milk and sugar in, ...

One morning last week I was in line at Starbucks, preparing for the long work day ahead. As I stood in line, a man walked through the café, heading for the seating area in the back. He ...

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Facebook’s “stalker” application.

“Stalking” seems to have become the stand-in word for checking someone out on Facebook. I have been thinking a lot about how it says so much about how we feel about viewing other people’s information on Facebook. Information on Facebook is volunteered information and Facebook has several privacy settings (albeit hard to use sometimes), but when someone looks at someone else’s Facebook profile we call it “stalking.” But stalking is a serious offense where you follow, intimidate and harass someone, something that can happen online or in the real world. The constant use of the word “stalking” for things that don’t constitute as stalking is problematic because it downplays how serious stalking actually is.

Since I am in the camp that ...

“Stalking” seems to have become the stand-in word for checking someone out on Facebook. I have been thinking a lot about how it says so much about how we feel about viewing other people’s information on Facebook. ...

How to win black “friends” and influence people on the internet

When I met Anna (Feministing’s awesome community moderator) in person for the first time, she recognized me right away — because, she confessed, “I creeped you on Facebook.”

I love this turn of phrase. “Stalk” has long been the verb of choice to describe the type of checking-people-out-online that we all do. I’ve always hated it (though I’m guilty of using it, too) because it conflates a relatively harmless, almost routine behavior with an abusive, controlling, threatening invasion of privacy. So, thanks to Anna, I have a better way to describe my low-level web voyeurism. I don’t stalk, I creep.

I thought about the difference between creeping and stalking when I saw this post — “Why I ...

When I met Anna (Feministing’s awesome community moderator) in person for the first time, she recognized me right away — because, she confessed, “I creeped you on Facebook.”

I love this turn of phrase. “Stalk” ...

The Feministing Five: Holly Kearl

Holly Kearl is an anti-street harassment activist, founder of the blog Stop Street Harassment, and author of the forthcoming book of the same name. She founded the blog as part of her Master’s thesis, and now, it is host to the stories of hundreds of women who have been harassed on streets all over the world. In addition to moderating the blog, Holly works full time at the AAUW, where she oversees the Legal Advocacy Fund, Campus Action Project grants and the Student Advisory council. In short, she is one very busy young woman.
Street harassment is something we’ve written quite a bit about here at Feministing, and something ...

Holly Kearl is an anti-street harassment activist, founder of the blog Stop Street Harassment, and author of the forthcoming book of the same name. She founded the blog as part of her Master’s ...

How not to (not to) spend Spring Break

It’s that time of year again–Spring Break time.
Spring academic recesses will break out across the nation. Some will stay home with family, or remain at school and study. Some will choose a public service alternative, or spend time with a domestic or international aid organization. Despite these attractive spring break options, countless people will still choose to go absolutely hog-wild writing articles on just how dangerous it is to party.
Many college publications have weighed in on Spring Break plans, and even J-WOWW offered sage advice. I may as well throw my hat in the ring– here are my “do’s” and “don’ts” of spring break advice lists:
DO ...

It’s that time of year again–Spring Break time.
Spring academic recesses will break out across the nation. Some will stay home with family, or remain at school and study. Some will choose a public service ...

Trans students’ rights are more than dress codes

Seeing women’s and feminist issues relegated to the “Styles” section of The New York Times is nothing new. And while I was glad to see students’ rights and gender taken up in the NYT, presenting the continued harassment of trans students (by peers and educators) as a mere dress code problem is incredibly problematic.

Last week, a cross-dressing Houston senior was sent home because his wig violated the school’s dress code rule that a boy’s hair may not be “longer than the bottom of a regular shirt collar.” In October, officials at a high school in Cobb County, Ga., sent home a boy who favored wigs, makeup and skinny jeans. In August, a Mississippi student’s senior portrait was barred ...

Seeing women’s and feminist issues relegated to the “Styles” section of The New York Times is nothing new. And while I was glad to see students’ rights and gender taken up in the NYT, presenting ...

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