Posts Tagged consent

“Affirmative consent” just means mutual desire. And it should definitely be the standard.

In response to a proposed California bill that would implement an “affirmative consent” standard on college campuses, there’s been a number of misinformed and often straight-up hysterical reactions from folks who think that requiring people to ensure they have, at every point, “affirmative, conscious, and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity” is absurd and/or impossible.

I think it’s fair to question how useful legislation is for creating a culture of affirmative consent–though, for the record, I agree with Amanda Hess, that as long as they include non-verbal cues, affirmative consent laws are a good idea. What’s absolutely clear is that affirmative consent is the necessary standard, socially if not legally, for ...

In response to a proposed California bill that would implement an “affirmative consent” standard on college campuses, there’s been a number of misinformed and often straight-up hysterical reactions from folks ...

Weekly Feminist Reader

Consent, the mixtape:  “To say that love is the overriding theme of pop music is misleading.”

A step by step of what the Hobby Lobby / personhood Supreme Court case really means.

Poverty and fatherhood in Camden, New Jersey.

A portrait of trans artists changing the landscape of contemporary art. 

Consent, the mixtape:  “To say that love is the overriding theme of pop music is misleading.”

A step by step of what the Hobby Lobby / personhood Supreme Court case really means.

Poverty and fatherhood in ...

On texting, boundaries, and consent

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited to not only get my perk, but to also share it with others in hopes to spread the word about an organization that does admirable work. While I was excited, I do remember having a small bit of hesitation sharing an image of the perk — it is underwear, after all – but I felt that the people in my networks would see why I would share this photo, so I did. In short, I felt safe in doing so. Unfortunately, I ...

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited ...

Do we really still not get that “no means no”?

Understanding “no means no” is an important step in eliminating rape culture. It’s a simple enough concept. If someone says that do not want to have sex, they do not want to have sex. You should stop trying to have sex with a person who says they do not want to have sex. Easy, right? Tell that to the judge.

No, really. Tell that to this Swedish judge.

Understanding “no means no” is an important step in eliminating rape culture. It’s a simple enough concept. If someone says that do not want to have sex, they do not want to have sex. You should ...

Explicit Content: A brief intro to Trap Feminism

Among other things, I’ve identified as a hip hop feminist. The term does the job of expressing my engagement in a culture of commodified blackness. I’ve also talked here about how hood feminism resonated with me. But neither term truly speaks to my inner feminist hoochie; nor explains the complex, sex-positive, financially ambitious, and self-affirming components of my feminism. But through these lens, I’ve been able to identify other spaces that do. Trap music is one of them. It’s easy to get caught up in the problematic elements of drug dealing and violence in communities of color, themes that are prevalent in trap music, but there is more than meets the eye.

Among other things, I’ve identified as a hip hop feminist. The term does the job of expressing my engagement in a culture of commodified blackness. I’ve also talked here about how hood feminism resonated ...

Statement about my “Age & Consent” post

Editor’s note: Sesali made the decision to take down the original post. Here is a statement from her:

My original post, about my experience with consent was an excerpt from something on my personal blog. It was a mistake for me to think that everyone would be able to clearly define what is mine vs. what is Feministing’s.

Let me be even more clear than I am in the original post, which you can find if you are connected to me on any social media: my own personal experiences with consent at 13 are just that, mine. Thanks for letting me cook and engaging in these difficult conversations with me.

Editor’s note: Sesali made the decision to take down the original post. Here is a statement from her:

My original post, about my experience with consent was an excerpt from something on my personal blog. It ...

Feminist pranksters create fake Playboy “guide to a consensual good time”

The awesome feminist pranksters at FORCE are at it again.

The activist group behind that fake consent-themed lingerie line at Victoria’s Secret, along with a coalition of college students from 25 schools nationwide, pulled a similar move with Playboy. Yesterday, the internet was a buzz for a few hours with news that Playboy was devoting their annual college party guide to issues of sexual assault and consent. The Party with Playboy website offered tips for a “consensual good time.” The site explains:

Somewhere in the countless hours we spent tallying up co-eds and scoring beer pong, we lost track of the most essential element of the Playboy lifestyle: sexual pleasure. Rape is kryptonite to sexual pleasure. The two cannot co-exist. For ...

The awesome feminist pranksters at FORCE are at it again.

The activist group behind that fake consent-themed lingerie line at Victoria’s Secret, along with a coalition of college students from 25 schools nationwide, pulled a similar move with Playboy. ...

Weekly Feminist Reader

NSA surveillance and the male gaze.

Racist of the Week Paulina Deen has been fired.

But, before that, she inspired some really great tweets.

The Department of Ed will collect data on anti-LGBT bullying.

We need to talk about disability and feminism.

High schools are trying restorative justice to keep kids from dropping out.

On the “safe kind of brown.”

An open letter to gay men about women’s consent.

Oh no! The poor, poor sexually abusive colleges!

What’s a city Indian?

A female writer responds to Vice‘s recent spread fetishizing other female writers’ suicides.

We are the 15%.

What if fatness is part of human biodiversity?

On ...

NSA surveillance and the male gaze.

Racist of the Week Paulina Deen has been fired.

But, before that, she inspired some really great tweets.

The Department of Ed will collect data on ...

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