Posts Tagged consent

On texting, boundaries, and consent

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited to not only get my perk, but to also share it with others in hopes to spread the word about an organization that does admirable work. While I was excited, I do remember having a small bit of hesitation sharing an image of the perk — it is underwear, after all – but I felt that the people in my networks would see why I would share this photo, so I did. In short, I felt safe in doing so. Unfortunately, I ...

A few months ago, I received a Kickstarter perk for being a contributor to FORCE’s fundraising campaign. As someone deeply passionate about feminist, anti-sexual violence efforts, I was proud to be a supporter and was excited ...

Do we really still not get that “no means no”?

Understanding “no means no” is an important step in eliminating rape culture. It’s a simple enough concept. If someone says that do not want to have sex, they do not want to have sex. You should stop trying to have sex with a person who says they do not want to have sex. Easy, right? Tell that to the judge.

No, really. Tell that to this Swedish judge.

Understanding “no means no” is an important step in eliminating rape culture. It’s a simple enough concept. If someone says that do not want to have sex, they do not want to have sex. You should ...

Explicit Content: A brief intro to Trap Feminism

Among other things, I’ve identified as a hip hop feminist. The term does the job of expressing my engagement in a culture of commodified blackness. I’ve also talked here about how hood feminism resonated with me. But neither term truly speaks to my inner feminist hoochie; nor explains the complex, sex-positive, financially ambitious, and self-affirming components of my feminism. But through these lens, I’ve been able to identify other spaces that do. Trap music is one of them. It’s easy to get caught up in the problematic elements of drug dealing and violence in communities of color, themes that are prevalent in trap music, but there is more than meets the eye.

Among other things, I’ve identified as a hip hop feminist. The term does the job of expressing my engagement in a culture of commodified blackness. I’ve also talked here about how hood feminism resonated ...

Statement about my “Age & Consent” post

Editor’s note: Sesali made the decision to take down the original post. Here is a statement from her:

My original post, about my experience with consent was an excerpt from something on my personal blog. It was a mistake for me to think that everyone would be able to clearly define what is mine vs. what is Feministing’s.

Let me be even more clear than I am in the original post, which you can find if you are connected to me on any social media: my own personal experiences with consent at 13 are just that, mine. Thanks for letting me cook and engaging in these difficult conversations with me.

Editor’s note: Sesali made the decision to take down the original post. Here is a statement from her:

My original post, about my experience with consent was an excerpt from something on my personal blog. It ...

Feminist pranksters create fake Playboy “guide to a consensual good time”

The awesome feminist pranksters at FORCE are at it again.

The activist group behind that fake consent-themed lingerie line at Victoria’s Secret, along with a coalition of college students from 25 schools nationwide, pulled a similar move with Playboy. Yesterday, the internet was a buzz for a few hours with news that Playboy was devoting their annual college party guide to issues of sexual assault and consent. The Party with Playboy website offered tips for a “consensual good time.” The site explains:

Somewhere in the countless hours we spent tallying up co-eds and scoring beer pong, we lost track of the most essential element of the Playboy lifestyle: sexual pleasure. Rape is kryptonite to sexual pleasure. The two cannot co-exist. For ...

The awesome feminist pranksters at FORCE are at it again.

The activist group behind that fake consent-themed lingerie line at Victoria’s Secret, along with a coalition of college students from 25 schools nationwide, pulled a similar move with Playboy. ...

Weekly Feminist Reader

NSA surveillance and the male gaze.

Racist of the Week Paulina Deen has been fired.

But, before that, she inspired some really great tweets.

The Department of Ed will collect data on anti-LGBT bullying.

We need to talk about disability and feminism.

High schools are trying restorative justice to keep kids from dropping out.

On the “safe kind of brown.”

An open letter to gay men about women’s consent.

Oh no! The poor, poor sexually abusive colleges!

What’s a city Indian?

A female writer responds to Vice‘s recent spread fetishizing other female writers’ suicides.

We are the 15%.

What if fatness is part of human biodiversity?

On ...

NSA surveillance and the male gaze.

Racist of the Week Paulina Deen has been fired.

But, before that, she inspired some really great tweets.

The Department of Ed will collect data on ...

Daily Feminist Cheat Sheet

Feminist in-fighting is still a problem.

Why aren’t men funny?

Newsrooms should also hire a few journalists who aren’t effete liberal p*ssies.

A class analysis of Jason Collins’ announcement.

“Natural” isn’t always feminist.

Newsflash, Fox News: teen sex isn’t illegal.

Bloomberg can’t defend “stop and frisk” policies.

One fake rape threat doesn’t mean all women “cry rape.”

Don’t punish sexually active girls with pregnancies.

Exploring verbal consent… through The Vampire Diaries.

The New York Times confuses rape and sex in a headline, issues a correction.

Dartmouth survivors face a tough judicial process.

Racialicious: The Hippocratic Oath doesn’t apply to undocumented immigrants.

Watch to the end of this

Feminist in-fighting is still a problem.

Why aren’t men funny?

Newsrooms should also hire a few journalists who aren’t effete liberal p*ssies.

A class analysis of Jason Collins’ announcement.

“Natural” isn’t always feminist.

Newsflash, ...

trent mays

Quick Hit: How to not be Trent Mays

One of the strangest things I encounter in anti-violence work is the number of people (usually young men) who are desperately afraid that, if we start really cracking down on rape, they will end up in jail. Their concern doesn’t seem to be that they’ve already raped someone, but that they might in the future despite their very best efforts–as though sexual assault were some kind of unfortunate accident nice boys happen upon occasionally.

Thomas MacAulay Millar at the Yes Means Yes blog posted a great essay yesterday urging teenage boys nervous about Steubenville to calm the fuck down. He doesn’t urge them to be any less vigilant in their concern for consent, but to recognize that their behavior (including, ...

One of the strangest things I encounter in anti-violence work is the number of people (usually young men) who are desperately afraid that, if we start really cracking down on rape, they will end up in ...

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