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  • tylik commented on the blog post Guy texts unsolicited dick pic, woman sends it to his mother, wins   1 year, 4 months ago · View

    I really don’t think you have a reasonable expectation of privacy when you engage in unsolicited harassment. In that case, you are using the social conventions in which women aren’t supposed to make a fuss or a scene as a way of covering your bad behavior. …and I don’t really see why this would be [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Guest post: My old friend Ana   1 year, 5 months ago · View

    This is why I get so seethingly angry when people talk about the “epidemic of obesity” (and then maybe later go on to talk about how horrible eating disorders are, in halfway admiring tones). Both of my younger siblings have had disordered eating. I didn’t – but certainly dealt with our mother’s constant jibes about [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Quick hit: Laurie Penny on confronting structural violence   1 year, 5 months ago · View

    So which are the ignorant actions, as opposed to the ones that society to some degree tacitly taught them they were entitled to and could get away with? What is the line between hating what someone did, and hating them… and who gets to decide which is appropriate? (I frankly would find it pretty offensive [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post why I’m not telling stories about rapes & me   1 year, 6 months ago · View

    Mostly, talking about my own experiences doesn’t hugely bother me. If nothing else, it’s been a long time and I’ve pretty much dealt with them. I’m probably more bothered by the things that I only now see in retrospect were problematic – all the harrassment, all the random groping, that at the time mostly seemed [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Tim Wise on terrorism, privilege, and understanding the power of whiteness   1 year, 6 months ago · View

    “But OF COURSE we rarely hear discussion about how men’s “actions in the public sphere should be restricted.” We rarely hear such discussion of ANY category of people…” Er… have you not heard an awful lot of the hateful things that get said about muslims and the extent to which they should be allowed to [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Tim Wise on terrorism, privilege, and understanding the power of whiteness   1 year, 6 months ago · View

    How rarely to do we hear about the overwhelming maleness of terrorists, or any attempts to betray men as people whose actions in the public sphere should be restricted due to the frequent instability of their gender.

  • tylik commented on the blog post Video: Education and the Danger of the Single Story   2 years ago · View

    Not having a device that supports flash, I can’t see the video, but the point about speaking “Chinese” is an interesting one, as even if one assumes an environment with a great diversity of spoken “dialects” (and yes, many of them are further flung than what are called languages in other circumstances), there is a [...]

  • Right on. Of course, it isn’t just abortion. Look at how often liberals are willing to cede the moral ground on sex more generally. I mean, obviously no one thinks that teenagers should have sex, but since they’re going to anyway… This is the language of the middle, and the language of compromise. And that’s a [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Marissa Mayer doesn’t particularly care for feminism   2 years, 3 months ago · View

    I spent most of my twenties in tech, before heading back to research. There was a time when I would have said that being a woman always mattered, but it wasn’t necessarily a disadvantage. I don’t think that any more – in fact, I think I was amazingly blind to some often pretty blatant sexism [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Pay inequity in the field of medicine   2 years, 4 months ago · View

    Hmph. I haven’t read the article (I should, but then I should even more not be reading this one) but I’m cautious about blaming negotiation style after all the hubbub regarding “Women Don’t Ask” and the follow up studies that suggested that women don’t ask because they correctly evaluate the situation and know that their [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Breaking: President Obama announces support for same sex marriage   2 years, 5 months ago · View

    Oh, foo. Not to say that there isn’t some theatre involved, but I think this was directly in response to Biden’s comments, and I don’t think those were scripted (hence the confused statements coming from the administration in their wake). I like to think theatre would be less inept. And when it came right down [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Pulitzer Prize winners include some women, still mostly men   2 years, 6 months ago · View

    Though if you haven’t read the piece for which Eli Sanders just won (for feature writing), “The Bravest Woman in Seattle” you really ought.

    No, it’s not written by a woman, but about one, but it’s pretty amazing.


  • “Is it only news warranting a cover story when the shift happens to white straight American women?” Is it even a question? Women of color doing well is routinely interpreted as men of color doing badly. Black women leading households is presented as The Collapse of the African American Family. (And then anything bad that [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Guest post: Boys, men, patriarchy, and privilege   2 years, 7 months ago · View

    “Yeah, wow, being associated with criminality must be a terrible burden compared to getting raped or living constantly in fear of violence.” And yet, men are more likely to be murdered than women. IIRC, rape was pretty much the only violent crime in which women were more often targeted than men. So that constantly living [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Wednesday Weigh-In: Pubic Hair Edition   2 years, 10 months ago · View

    Mostly I leave my pubes alone. I have occasionally taken a trimmer to the hair around them. For that matter, I’ve trimmed them all off once or twice, and shaved at least once. And I’ve played a bit with sugaring, though I never did a complete sugaring. Mostly, though, I let ‘em be. I have [...]

  • tylik commented on the blog post Arkansas school board member will resign over anti-gay comments   4 years ago · View

    There is the ethics of personal conviction, and the ethics of fear of punishment and societal retribution. It’s hard not to look at this as an example of the latter – especially with his remarks about not supporting bullying or suicide for kids. Is this really supposed to clarify what he said? Suicide for adults [...]

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