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  • thomas-macaulay-millar commented on the blog post Delhi is different from Steubenville   1 year, 7 months ago · View

    “White savior complex” isn’t just being white and wanting to make change. Lots of white people want to make change. “White savior complex” is the colonialist view that Western (usually white) folks have so much more stuff figured out that the solution for the problems of less developed, non-Western countries’ problems is for us “First [...]

  • Nugent isn’t harmless. He was having sex with a seventeen year old, and he got her parents to let him adopt her so that he could continue to have sex with her though she was too young to legally marry him. That’s the kind of thing he does when it leaves a public record.

  • Mustaine has been an asshole for a long time. He was kicked out of Metallica for his drinking and for being unable to get along with anyone. One might think that getting sober might allow him to get along with people, but for Mustaine, sobriety was of the evangelical right-wing Christian variety, and he’s been [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar commented on the blog post Wednesday Weigh-In: Pubic Hair Edition   2 years, 8 months ago · View

    About the conflation of hairless and prepubescent, I have very different associations. My associations were formed in the late ’80s when completely shaved pubic areas were still rare. I’m a BDSMer and I was very early, so as a teen when I could hunt down BDSM porn that’s where I saw it; and I associated [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar commented on the blog post Vintage Sexism: Yesterday’s Headline Edition   3 years, 7 months ago · View

    I can do two of those three things. Perhaps instead of being lost, skills are merely becoming ungendered? And if it’s a problem that they’re being lost, is it only skills coded female that are being lost? Or are men losing the abilities to do things traditionally coded male? How many guys under 30 can [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Prop 8 Findings Of Fact   4 years ago · View

    Crossposted from <a href=”www.yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2010/08/05/prop-8-findings-of-fact/”>Yes Means Yes Blog</a> There is no shortage of discussion of U.S. District Judge Vaughn Walker’s Prop 8 decision in Perry v. Schwarzenegger yesterday, and no shortage of analysis, so I won’t duplicate others’ efforts. What I will do is provide the key findings of fact, and explain why that’s important. Appellate [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Sadly, This Deficiency Is The Norm   4 years, 6 months ago · View

    Cross-posted from Yes Means Yes Blog Froth posted this to the Feministe weekly self-promotion thread. She says she’s writing because this is typical, and I agree. Here’s her experience with sex ed:

    Nobody told me I had a clitoris. Nobody told me I was capable of having orgasms. For five years I was given “sex education”. It mostly consisted [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Too Drunk To Fuck*   4 years, 10 months ago · View

    Crossposted from Yes Means Yes Blog . There’s a running joke between my spouse and me: “one is not enough, and three is too many.” It’s a joke about threesomes, but not about the number of people. It’s a joke about one that got away. Before I get to the story, I’ll say this: I feel like [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Everyone’s Fault   4 years, 11 months ago · View

    Crossposted from Yes Means Yes Blog. The Polanski arrest has everyone talking, and Lauren has again revisited her personal story , which can’t be easy. Lauren’s a friend, and I’ll say publicly what I’ve said privately before. If a girl or a woman gets raped, that’s the rapist’s fault. If she doesn’t know who she can tell or if she [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Obama: Soft On Domestic Terror?   5 years, 2 months ago · View

    For reasons I won’t explain, I’m raw and angry from Tiller’s death. Obama’s statements about abortion before Tiller seemed entirely too mealy-mouthed, the statements of a politician who refused to spend any political capital on an issue that I care a lot about. Now it is clear that our dormant domestic terrorist problem has resurfaced. [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Fuck That!   5 years, 3 months ago · View

    *Not safe for work* Crossposted from Yes Means Yes Blog . To fuck, to get fucked, fucked up, fucked and fuck it. It’s among the most common slang we use. I’ve been known to use fuck as more than one part of speech in the same sentence. And it’s ubiquitous. We all know that if you go into [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: It Became Necessary To Destroy The Town To Save It   5 years, 5 months ago · View

    (Cross-Posted from Yes Means Yes Blog. ) This morning the New York Times reports that the ACLU has joined some courageous young women in a counterattack against a recent and disturbing moral panic. More than once recently, school and criminal justice authorities have threatened to use child pornography laws against teenagers for the distribution of photographs of their [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Who Is Bidding On Natalie Dylan’s Virginity?   5 years, 7 months ago · View

    My co-contributor and co-blogger Cara has a post at Feministe about Natalie Dylan. Probably you’ve read the broad outlines: auctioning virginity, bidding at $3.8 million, etc. I am not interested in rehashing the same discussion that has happened elsewhere. I am interested in the invisible man — or men (or perhaps women or even folks who [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Campus Rape Reporting   5 years, 7 months ago · View

    After yesterday’s Dexter Yarbrough posts, a discussion ensued at Feministing and here about campus rape reporting. Now, there are a lot of reasons that college is not a universal experience: the university experience is much more prevalent among the affluent, denizens of G-10 countries, white folks, etc. It is an over-discussed and over-analyzed set of experiences. But in [...]

  • thomas-macaulay-millar wrote a new blog post: Complications of Alcoholism   5 years, 7 months ago · View

    Samhita wrote something a while ago that struck me. She wrote:

    Many of my female friends drink in excess, not because they wanted to be “one of the guys” but because they had lives that were difficult as women, either for internalized sense of failure, experiencing abuse, depression around money, depression around social stature or failed relationships. [...]

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