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  • The negative reactions to this legislation are just bizarre to me. I just don’t get how verbalizing (or in some other way communicating) desire is going to take the romance out of a situation. Even with my SO, who I’ve been with for 7 years, when one of us wants to have sex, we turn [...]

  • I almost wrote this exact response. I completely agree with you on the actual rape scene. And from the response I saw from the fandom, it did cement the villain into someone fully despised. However, there were two other scenes that made me uncomfortable in KlK. The first was when the kamui forced itself on [...]

  • I haven’t seen Dallas Buyers Club, either. However, it is my understanding that Rayon’s character isn’t fully fleshed out (more just a plot device so that the main character learns empathy for gay and trans people). Combined with Leto’s problematic comments, I will have to say that I question the HFP’s decision to award the [...]

  • I played a sport in college. I was on the women’s soccer team. I know that no coaches at my university treated any player like Rice, but none of the players at my school were “wusses.” I’ve never in my life had a verbally (or physically) abusive coach and I would have never let myself [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post Republican Congressman attacks Sasha and Malia Obama   1 year, 5 months ago · View

    I completely agree with this post, but have issue with your use of “non-plussed.”

  • First, let me correct you on one point. She never said that anything “was not okay.” I rewatched the scene last night (it’s amazing but the whole thing was like 30 seconds long; it had such an impact that it seemed much longer). She specifically said afterwards, “I didn’t like that. I didn’t like that [...]

  • As someone who likes this show (it’s not my favorite and I will state that I realize that there are a number of issues with it), I’m wondering if you are passing judgment on those of us who do understand its appeal. The scenario in question was undoubtedly meant to be seen as negative. The [...]

  • This was my take on it, too. Well, mostly. While she was extremely uncomfortable with the crawling and the penetration, she did go along with it and all of the dirty talk that Adam was asking for. From what I saw, she didn’t exactly object to the cum shot, but she was specific about him [...]

  • An accused rapist not spending time in jail does not mean that he or she was falsely accused. It doesn’t even mean that he or she was found not guilty. Many “first-time” sexual offenders are sentenced to probation or other correctional measures that do not include jail time. Also, by the time a case gets [...]

  • Yeah, seriously. His “poorly phrased” complaint is that bitches lie, man. This is extremely harmful to all rape survivors as it is often the knee-jerk response when someone is accused of sexual assault. As to the other students protesting on his behalf, my guess is that they weren’t there. They can’t have known if violence [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post The Wednesday Weigh-In: Trigger Warning Edition   2 years ago · View

    Personally, I like them. While I haven’t been the victim of a traumatic crime like sexual assault, I do spend some days where all I do is research women’s stories of rape and I get really sensitive to it. There are days that I just can’t see another description of sexual assault. Furthermore, as I [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post One Direction to girls everywhere: your low self-esteem is hot   2 years, 5 months ago · View

    I have a completely different take on this song. I really think it comes down to marketing to teen and tween girls. At that age, they’re going through a time where they feel as everyone is watching and judging them. It’s enough to make even the prettiest girl feel like she might not measure up. [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post Feminist High Horses   2 years, 11 months ago · View

    I struggled with this balance, myself. I was finding that a lot of the media I used to love and use to decompress after long days studying were challenging my newly-found feminist values. (I was always feminist, I just was discovering more and more how problematic gender is represented in so much of our media.) [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post To our male allies: a challenge   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    According to the Bureau of Justice statistics in 2004, men are more often perpetrators of violent crime. And they are also more likely to be victims of violent crime for all crimes but rape. I would also argue that not all women are distrustful of men. I would say that I’m not distrustful of men. [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post To our male allies: a challenge   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    To Derivative above: You’re amazingly wrong on all counts (what are the statistics on that?). I don’ t know how being sexually assaulted would change my views on personal safety, I’m sure it would, but I have never been sexually assaulted. I also think that discounting those things that victims of sexual assault need to [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post To our male allies: a challenge   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    Like Natasha said, it’s different. First of all, research has consistently shown that most adult sexual violence is perpetrated by men. So any precautions against sexual violence taken are based on the actual statistical likelihood of men (rather than women) being perpetrators. Not all men are perpetrators, but unfortunately for everyone, the ones who are [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post To our male allies: a challenge   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    IMO, this is a good answer to the brave male in the room: http://kateharding.net/2009/10/08/guest-blogger-starling-schrodinger%E2%80%99s-rapist-or-a-guy%E2%80%99s-guide-to-approaching-strange-women-without-being-maced/ It’s the idea of individual men being Shrodinger’s Rapists. Women can’t know which strange (or even known, but this post focuses on strangers) men are rapists until they are being raped. Until then, they may or may not be a rapist. [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post Reflecting on Gender Parity in Sports   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    I just would like to say that I think, based on my experience as a women’s soccer player both at high school and college levels, I think you’re on to something here. I notice it most when I play co-ed soccer. When playing with girls, it seems most about making the good passes, setting up [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post Women in sport – why can’t women compete against men?   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I’m a female and I’m an athlete. I really appreciate the division of the sexes in athletics. I’m not 100% behind it, but it does have its purposes. First of all, men and women have physiological differences that put top men, athletically, ahead of top women. Coed sports are great for more recreational leagues and [...]

  • ellestar commented on the blog post What Yuri can do for feminism and what feminism can do for Yuri.   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    Interesting topic. I wish you would expand on it with specific series to discuss. I’m a lover of anime (and animation in general). I do find it very interesting that so many people have a tough time breaking out of the binaries. Even my mother, who knows I’m an adult with pretty good taste in [...]

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