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  • Quite a story here. Keiko Fukuda, 98, recently became the first woman to earn the highest rank in judo. While that’s a tremendous accomplishment in and of itself, I can’t recommend enough that you follow this link and watch the video about her. It’s a bit older- made once she reached the 9th dan in 2006- [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post What Feminism Means To Me   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    You need to take a step back, man. I’m not your size, but I’m fairly big- 6′, 205- and while some people think I’m intimidating, no one’s ever said I’m a barbarian. Those are two very different things, and you’re making a hell of a leap from what that professor said to how you’re taking [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Swedish pre-school fights gender bias   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    “And besides, since they will be getting all that enculturation of gender stereotypes outside preschool hours, I don’t think it’s going to confuse the kids too much. And I don’t think what the school is doing is pretending that gender isn’t there or doesn’t matter, it’s more challenging how we assume gender and stereotypes, and [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Swedish pre-school fights gender bias   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    Language is just a signifier. “He” and “she” just refer to a specific boy or girl; on that same note, most of my co-workers (at least the Asian-American ones, who are the vast majority) frequently refer to people by race. “That black guy” or “this Asian girl” are common phrases. I hear it less back [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Swedish pre-school fights gender bias   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    There’s a woman in the article quoted as saying there’s nothing wrong with gender roles. That’s the kind of thing they’re trying to overcome, and I hope they do. But I don’t see how you do that by disregarding gender pronouns when they’re ubiquitous in general life and not going away anytime soon. I look [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang wrote a new blog post: Swedish pre-school fights gender bias   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    Pretty interesting stuff. The whole place is set up to put all kinds of stereotypically gendered behavior on equal footing, e.g. putting the Legos next to the kitchen set.  They’ve got comments from ye olde concern trolls- a UC Berkeley psychologist is quoted as saying, “The kind of things that boys like to do — run [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang wrote a new blog post: Swedish pre-school fights gender bias   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    Pretty interesting stuff. The whole place is set up to put all kinds of stereotypically gendered behavior on equal footing, e.g. putting the Legos next to the kitchen set.  They’ve got comments from ye olde concern trolls- a UC Berkeley psychologist is quoted as saying, “The kind of things that boys like to do — run [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Types of victim blaming   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I still have your e-mail from the last thread of mine you responded to, and I thank you again for the help. Honestly, I hope I don’t need to contact you, because you’ve been open about what happened to you that nothing more should need to be said. But if that proves incorrect, I’ll be [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Types of victim blaming   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    As an aside, I think responsibility for any specific act is zero-sum; if the two of us are responsible for dumb thing A happening, then the less you’re responsible for it, the more the blame falls on me. What happens in cases like this is that people start to conflate responsibility for various factors with [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Types of victim blaming   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I agree 100%, and actually had thought of this but decided to keep my comment shorter by leaving it out. :o Where I think the distinction can be drawn is between personal and societal behavior. In your John Doe example, the person who says, “You wouldn’t say, etc,” is wrong to do that, even if [...]

  • Do you think there’s a way to revamp the basic argument to include all reproductive health services as one monolithic entity? Conservatives are trying to argue against all this shit when they can make it seem bad, and only abortion when they can’t. If there’s a way to refocus everything PP does, for example, as [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Types of victim blaming   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I agree. I called the cops on my upstairs neighbors a couple of times because it sure as shit sounded like the guy was beating his wife, and when I mentioned it at work, one guy said, “Well, she shouldn’t have married him then.” That’s basically an example of what you’re saying, and it plays [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Types of victim blaming   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    The first one is perfect. I’d forgotten all about those instances.

    I know some people consider the others a type of victim blaming, but I’m purposefully trying to draw a distinction between directly blaming the victim and “merely” not taking the victim’s claims seriously. They will come in handy, though. Thanks.

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post 10 ways to not rape someone- can’t find it!   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    BOOKMARKED. Thank you. :D

  • spiffy-mcbang wrote a new blog post: 10 ways to not rape someone- can’t find it!   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    Feministers!  A while back- quite a while, I think- someone posted a list of ten things guys can do to make sure they don’t rape anybody.  It was snarky and smart; I’m trying to find it again, but the Googles are failing me.  I think the list was posted here with a link to a [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang wrote a new blog post: Types of victim blaming   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I’m writing a little something about victim blaming with regards to sexual assault and domestic violence, and the main thing I want to focus on is the basis someone might use to victim blame rather than how they do it.  But I’m not coming up with too many. -Style of dress (this seems by far the [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Angles On Consent   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    Jesus fucking…

    Yes, anything you’d like to share, I would very much like to know. My e-mail is spiffymcbang@yahoo.com if you prefer to keep it off the blog.

    Just to clarify, going by your e-mail domain, this is all from the British court system?

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Angles On Consent   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    Thanks, I may do that. I think this is another something to touch on- the idea that because he’d managed to change your mind before means an actual rape was less likely, when in reality it should appear more likely. Question: In this experience, how much did the fact you consented to sex with him [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang commented on the blog post Angles On Consent   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    “How can we come to terms with that as a community?” By getting everyone to read more Dan Savage! I think the idea about consent in existing relationships is a good idea, so thanks for that. The focus of this is how to deal realistically with consent, and relationships are a good example of how [...]

  • spiffy-mcbang wrote a new blog post: Angles On Consent   3 years, 6 months ago · View

    Hey Feministers, looking for some ideas/advice.  I’m writing an essay about perspectives on consent and how they can change depending on the situation.  When two people interact in a straightforward manner, one person wants, and the other person either also wants or does not.  The variations I’m using so far are: -The effect of sobriety [...]

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