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"Last night my sister-in-law was telling me how she and group of her friends really got pissed off with this woman who plays volleyball on Sundays with their husbands. They went to the park, where they play voleyball, for a [...]" · View
  • silva posted an update:   2 years, 6 months ago · View

    Last night my sister-in-law was telling me how she and group of her friends really got pissed off with this woman who plays volleyball on Sundays with their husbands.

    They went to the park, where they play voleyball, for a birthday and saw this woman there playing. It was when they learned about it because their husbands never mentioned that this woman was playing with them men.

    They, according to my sister-in-law (SIL), had a conference to talk about how wrong this woman was to go play with their husbands, since they were married and she wasn’t.

    I started saying that she didn’t do anything wrong.

    My SIL said that she was mad that none of the men mentioned that to their wives.

    I said that, if anything, the men were doing something wrong, not the woman. My other SIL (SIL #2) said that she knew the woman and always thought that she was quiet and didn’t think anything bad about her. SIL #2 said that she asked her husband (who also plays the game on Sundays) if the woman was ever inappropriate and her husband said “no”. She, (SIL#2) said that the only thing that she did wrong was wearing short-shorts when all the men were there, and married, and she should have worn something… I interrupted and said “something like a burka, right?”. SIL #1 looked at me and rolled her eyes.

    I kept saying that there was nothing wrong with the woman playing with the men, and that maybe, just maybe, the men were wrong to never mention that, and when it was “discovered”, they were wrong to start teasing the husbands who had the most jealous wives, since the wives got jealous, but SIL#1, (who is very jealous of her husband, even after 10 years of marriage and two kids) kept saying the woman was wrong because relationships start developing with time and proximity. Then I said that it was interesting for her to say that because she works a lot of her time with a man, who is married to her boss, and they are always there alone. She said “it’s different.” She said she loves her husband so much, and to imagine him having contact with other woman is unacceptable for her.

    She said that the women decided to appoint someone to call this woman and ask her not to go anymore and she (the volleyball playing woman) agreed and understood, “because she was once married.”

    Oh god! I got so pissed with all of this. At least I said more than once that it was all wrong, that they were acting like the Taliban.

    SIL#!1Said that I was not the type of person to talk about those things. I said I was glad I was not friends with those women, and, to not offend my SIL #1 so much, I said that people get influenced by others. She agreed that it was true, but she seemed very happy , even proud, to shun and trash this woman for playing volleyball with her husband.

    From all of this I take that these women think that women and men should not mix if they are in a committed relationship, and the burden, the gate keeping is a woman’s job. For them, if woman would like to play activities that other women will not do with them, they should just stay home.

  • silva commented on the blog post Dear Johnny Depp: No, photoshoots aren’t like rape   2 years, 9 months ago · View

    Condescending, insensitive, classist, Polanski-supporter bastard.

  • silva posted an update:   3 years, 11 months ago · View

    Off topic: Where is Mad Men Mid-Week, please?

  • silva posted an update:   3 years, 12 months ago · View

    Actually, I think it is funny because he saying how absurd and cruel it is that he has this privilege, exactly because his privilege implicates the lack of privilege of others.

  • silva commented on the blog post File This Under: Seriously Messed Up   3 years, 12 months ago · View

    Why don’t they try to make their travel more interesting by sticking a picture of a black man in chains on the suitcase? Or, starved looking person, wearing striped pajamas, with serious skin burns?
    I guess it would offend people who identigy themselves with them, right? Nobody wants that.
    God, I’m sad.

  • silva became a registered member   3 years, 12 months ago · View

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