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  • jss commented on the blog post “You’re no fun”: Living sober at 26   2 years, 1 month ago · View

    This is a bit of a tough answer, but I think you just have to be more selective about who you hang out with. You can find people through religious groups that prohibit drinking (Buddhism) or health/fitness focused social activities and groups (yoga classes, for example, are likely to have a lower proportion of drinkers [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post It’s Not Just Katie Roiphe: How ‘Girls’ is Also Giving BDSM a Bad Name   2 years, 3 months ago · View

    I haven’t read “50 Shades of Grey” but I know it’s basically BDSM porn in book form. Porn really shouldn’t be held to any standard of realism, or representation of healthy relationships.

    Although that really underscores the main point of the original post–that there are not enough representations of BDSM that AREN’T porn.

  • jss commented on the blog post Mad Men Midweek Fix: A Little Kiss   2 years, 3 months ago · View

    With regards to the slightly creepy sex scene between Megan and Don. Obviously, the ‘she said no but meant yes’ trope is an incredibly problematic part of rape culture. However, that particular scene, in the context of this show, was actually sort of ok and necessary. Why it’s sort of ok: The scene a few [...]

  • By in large I agree with the original poster, but I’d like to nitpick on one very sticky point: There’s too much emphasis on the concept that a fetus is a “subordinate part of a woman’s body,” rather than a “person.” It doesn’t matter. Even if you consider a fetus as a full human, the [...]

  • jss wrote a new blog post: The Limits of Multiculturalism   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    I agree with what appears to be the consensus in the feminist blogosphere: The French veil ban is really about culture, rather than clothing, and it was unfair and sexist of the French government to choose women’s clothing as the battlefield for their culture war. That said, I’m not sure what to think about that [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Prosperity is not helping India’s girl children   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    The statement, “thousands of baby girls are killed before they are born” is false. Fetuses are NOT babies. Abortion is NOT killing babies. It may or may not be politically incorrect to criticize a culture, but it is DEFINITELY incorrect to criticize people who make the best choices for themselves and their families in harsh [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Abusive is the New Sexy: Why Books like ‘Twilight’ are Dangerous   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    Obviously, mainstream romances, romantic comedies etc shill the fantasy of a, violent, controlling, abusive “true love” because that fantasy sells. The real question here is why so many tweens, young women and even grown women keep on buying it. I strongly suspect that these ladies keep buying this crap because it creates a palatable exploration [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Five reasons to ask for consent   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    It’s understandable that few people want explicit consent like this throughout a relationship; it would get very tiring to ask your spouse for kisses every day. That said, this article is talking about the beginning of a relationship, when there is no long term consent, no assurance of mutual attraction, there’s limited trust, and no [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Pro-CHOICE Does NOT Equal Pro-Abortion   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    And just to clarify: Hoping that a woman gets an abortion is no more or less invasive of her personal choice than hoping that a woman continues a pregnancy. On the other hand, expressing EITHER of these sentiments–hoping a woman gets one or hoping she doesn’t–is invasive of her privacy and impinging on her choice. [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Pro-CHOICE Does NOT Equal Pro-Abortion   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    Can I just say that there is NO reason why you can’t or shouldn’t be pro-abortion? I feel like, once we accept that no one is “pro-abortion” because abortion is “bad”, the anti-abortionists have won. It’s only a skip from all abortions are bad, but necessary for some women to all abortions are bad, so [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Penny Chic, Meet the Women of Walmart   3 years, 3 months ago · View

    You know what? I CAN stand up for people who need work-appropriate clothing so they can get and keep a job to pay their bills. I CAN stand up for people doing what they MUST do to survive in this economic climate, with its brutal competition for jobs and its totally non-existant social safety net. [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Tick Tock of a Professional Woman   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    I think this would be much more powerful if you omitted the section about online dating, especially if you’re planning on airing this in non-feminist spaces. Don’t get me wrong, I think this is a very powerful piece as it is. Everyone has the right to be fully respected at work, with their preferred names [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Gang Rape of a Fifth Grader and Victim Blaming   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    There is something really illuminating about this. A lot of rape apologists / victim blamers use a sort of twisted logic to defend that position. “This adult woman should have defended herself / stayed out of sketchy places / stayed sober / avoided all contact with men / found a man to protect her,” they [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post The Freedom Not To Date   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    Adoption, maybe? Although depending where you live, it may be difficult for a single man to adopt. Damn parental sexism, fucking over men and women at the same time.

  • jss commented on the blog post Angles On Consent   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    How about previously established relationships (or lack thereof) and consent? This is obviously an issue in BDSM communities, but I know personally that it comes up in less kinky dating relationships as well. If you and your partner have sex twice a day, do you need to ask permission every time? If you and your [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Disability Justice is a Reproductive Justice Issue   3 years, 4 months ago · View

    I respectfully disagree with you about ability and abortion. There are a few exceptional medical cases where people argue the child is “better off not being born”, but those are cases when the child would die a slow, painful death within a year or two of being born. The argument is that the child’s abilities [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Conservative blogger blames Lara Logan for her own attack   3 years, 5 months ago · View

    I think the “camels” question was meant to refer to an incident in which people rode camels into a condensed crowd of protesters. The protesters were too tightly packed to get away effectively so the camels (driven by their hateful masters) trampled on the protesters. I imagine getting stepped on by a camel is as [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post An Atypical (Male’s) Perspective on Successful Women in Relationships   3 years, 7 months ago · View

    As a member of a family affected by bipolar (and a young person who fears that I will one day develop the disorder) I want to say I sympathize with your difficulty. I hope you find a solution–be it drugs, therapy, or something unconventional like meditation or dieting–that allows you to manage it. That said, [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Letter to Tide   3 years, 8 months ago · View

    I question the premise of this article, which is that advertisements make society as much as they reflect it. People seem to forget that the makers of advertisements are not in any way trying to engage in social programming. They are chasing money, nothing more, nothing less. I’m pretty positive the research that you cite [...]

  • jss commented on the blog post Stuff Screenwriters Like: Quirky Dream Girl   3 years, 8 months ago · View

    I don’t see what you’re really objecting to here. Movies present fantasy versions of everything. Movies pretty much exist to sell people glossier versions of their own fantasies. This that a bad thing in and of itself? Anyone who thinks of other real people as breathing versions of their own fantasies has a problem, regardless [...]

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