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Ami @hellotwin ?

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  • Ami commented on the blog post Quick Hit: What not to say to a friend who has been assaulted   1 year, 2 months ago · View

    “I believe you.” “I’m sorry that happened to you.” “It’s not your fault.” “I’m glad that you trusted me/felt comfortable telling me this. It’s not always easy to tell people things like this.” If they think they’re not reacting ‘normally,’ a reminder that people react differently to being assaulted and that their reaction is normal [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post New Favorite Tumblr: Make Me a Sandwich Bitch   1 year, 2 months ago · View

    Wow. Their originality just blows my mind.

  • Ami commented on the blog post On #KUboobs and choice feminism   1 year, 7 months ago · View

    On a related note, I just watched this interesting TEDx talk on sexual objectification, including the many negative effects of self-objectification. Food for thought…

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kMS4VJKekW8

  • Ami commented on the blog post Dear Prudence: How should I respond to your rape denialism?   1 year, 7 months ago · View

    This line, from her response to the wife concerned about marital rape, really made me squirm: “However, if two adults are in love and have frequently made love then each can assume implicit consent to throw such legalistic caution—as well as panties—to the wind.” Her follow up line indicating that an individual’s “No” should be [...]

  • Thumbnail A SYTYCB entry I’ve recently had a few conversations with friends about a topic of discussion that has come up again and again in feminist circles – modifying one’s appearance in order to fit prescribed gender roles/expectations and/or to appear sexy or attractive to others. In this particular case my friends and I were talking [...]

  • The MN Daily prints their Beers and Bars section around this time every year, detailing some of the great bars and brews in the Twin Cities area. I read this special section last year and really enjoyed it. This year, not so much. This year, the Daily printed an article titled “The Boozehound’s Guide to Love,” basically [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Defense of Spousal Rape in Wasilla, Alaska?   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    Great work and good luck with the Summit!

  • Ami commented on the blog post Victims, Credibility, and Justice   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    There’s a difference between trying to get as much information as possible about a situation and being a complete victim-blaming douchebag. One of the reasons why reporting rates are so low is the fear, oftentimes justified, that police will either not believe a victim or will simply blame them for what happened. With such emotional [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Victims, Credibility, and Justice   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    I actually realized that I misspoke when I got home. I said to myself “They don’t need legal counsel – that’s what the DA is for.” Good catch. I agree that I don’t think that the conviction rate is going to increase given the burden of proof, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t make [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Victims, Credibility, and Justice   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    State laws and ‘journalistic practices’ are a far cry from having rights protected by the US Constitution. I don’t know what I want those exact protections to be at the moment, but starting with guaranteed access to no cost legal counsel would be a start. Other types of expert testimony are used in trials, so [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Victims, Credibility, and Justice   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    You know what else happens in the ‘real world?’ Most sexual assaults don’t happen in public, they happen in places where people should feel and be safe – like their homes. And most of them are committed by people that victims trust – friends, acquaintances, and partners. So the theory that women should stay home [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Victims, Credibility, and Justice   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    I never said anything about diminishing the standard of evidence – it’s there for a reason, but it doesn’t change the fact that it gives victims and other folks the impression that their rights and freedom and livelihood are less important than the rights and freedom and livelihood of an alleged perpetrator. If I allegedly [...]

  • Ami wrote a new blog post: Victims, Credibility, and Justice   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    Originally posted at http://minneapolitanmademoiselle.blogspot.com/ This is kind of a follow up to my last post, (available here) in which I touched on victim/witness credibility. But first I want to share something I found recently: The Rape of Mr. Smith , From “The Legal Bias Against Rape Victims (The Rape of Mr. Smith).” Connie K. Borkenhagen, American Bar Association Journal. [...]

  • Great post!

  • Ami commented on the blog post Campus Sexual Violence Elimination Act earns more sponsors   3 years, 1 month ago · View

    What Logic said – colleges and universities are not courts of law. The disciplinary procedures at most colleges and universities result from students violating some sort of code of conduct, regardless of the legality of the actions. Even if violations include criminal acts, they’re not the legal system and they’re not going to treat violations [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Hello from Netroots Nation!   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    Welcome to Minneapolis, Jos (and Maya, tomorrow)! I look forward to reading your blog posts, as I can only be at the conference on Saturday.

  • Ami wrote a new blog post: A not so great Newsweek article   3 years, 2 months ago · View

    Originally posted at Minneapolitan Mademoiselle I recently read an article in Newsweek about NYPD’s Special Victims Division and was quite unnerved by some of what was written.

    How soon does the victim/complainant, as she (or he) is called in the reports, reveal what’s happened? Is she crying? That’s important. But sometimes the crime was committed months or years before.

    [...]

  • Ami commented on the blog post Addressing The Opposition: How Do I Explain Chivalry Isn’t A Privilege?   3 years, 11 months ago · View

    Just because men and women have the same amount of leisure time doesn’t mean they spend it the same way. Even if it makes sense to ‘unevenly distribute the workload’ economically, why aren’t more men picking up the workload at home while women work more? If both are theoretically making the same amount of money, [...]

  • Ami became a registered member   3 years, 11 months ago · View

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